The REAL Reason Men Get Caught Cheating More Than Woman Do

For some reason women have it in their head that the reason they generally tend to get caught cheating less often than men is because they are A LOT smarter – but they couldn’t be any more WRONG.

The reason men get caught cheating A LOT easier than women is simple: Because a man knows how to easily play his sidepiece role, and most women do NOT. The reason most cheating blows up in one person’s face isn’t usually just because their partner played Inspector Gadget really well and researched a bunch of facts and put things together to incriminate their significant other; it’s usually because the sidepiece does something STUPID that ends up jeopardizing the whole thing.

See most men don’t mind having sex with someone else’s girlfriend. Most men also don’t mind not having to “play house” (i.e. front like their in a serious relationship with a girl and have to call, email, text and check in all the time) so we like only having to talk to you when it’s “getting it in” time. These are the perfect qualities for the perfect sidepiece: someone who doesn’t want to be more than a jumpoff and who doesn’t care to mingle in your everyday life. When a woman decides to cheat, since most men are like that, she doesn’t have to do too much extra digging to investigate if he has a mindstate that can handle that arrangement.

Now men, on the other hand, constantly get caught because they make the incorrect decision to make a girl a jumpoff when she has ZERO sidepiece qualities. In fact I will go as far to say that MOST women DON’T have the qualities to make them a good sidepiece. Eventually her heart, mind and nani will start to NEED to connect and be a cohesive unit, so compartmentalizing your relationship as “just sex” will start to become impossible. And men have NO CLUE on how to spot which woman could handle being a jumpoff, and which ones need to be wifey material. Most men don’t even give it enough thought, that the woman they are cheating with is just biding her time to be seen as the most important woman in his life. Think about it: it’s a much more common problem for a married man to have a sidepiece that falls in love with him, than it is for a married woman to have to deal with her sidepiece falling in love with her.

Women you are NOT smarter. You are NOT more clever. You are just dealing with people (men) who are more apt to not blow up your spot by calling your house phone at all hours or randomly showing up at your work. What most men who cheat fail to realize is that as much as some women say they can handle a relationship that’s just sex with a man who’s taken, they are lying to themselves because eventually they will want MORE.  STOP thinking every woman has the capability of playing #2, because you will end up finding out the hard way that sidepieces can easily get scorned – and when she tells your woman EVERYTHING you will learn there’s nothing worse than the wrath of a woman scorned.

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When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.


  1. The_Mad_HATER

    08/16/2010 at 11:02 AM

    women always trying to pat themselves on the back and they dont realize the game is set up for them to cheat easier! most dudes so happy to get the nani they wont spoil it by trying to be her man!

  2. Queen Erudite

    08/16/2010 at 11:08 AM

    Any woman bragging about her being able to cheat better than a man is undeserving of the term Queen…she's just a harlot who disrespects us all as women. Cheaters are pathetic.

  3. ATLienSince82

    08/16/2010 at 11:12 AM

    Dudes don't wanna hear it, but you gotta invest in a girl with low confidence to cheat properly…some of yawl dudes trying to make girls who already feel like their wifey material play the role of sidepiece and then wanna act surprised when it blows up in your face..seriously?

    • MistaHarsh

      08/16/2010 at 8:13 PM

      I disagree. I girl with low confidence will become needy and you'll have to put in extra time to calm her down and put her on the right track. they also need reassurance that the side role is an "acceptable" role to play. They're also irrational.

  4. MistaHarsh

    08/16/2010 at 8:12 PM

    Don't forget 2 ultimate rules…

    1. DON'T CHEAT!
    2. but if you do… NEVER disrespect your woman in front of the side piece. Sound weird cause cheating is disrespectful but if your side piece sees that you treat your woman with respect she to will respect her AND your relationship which will decrease the chances of her blowing up the spot.

    The best candidates are high income confident women who you've known for a good period of time(strangers need not apply) because these women actually care about you. Also when they decide to be the side piece its a decision they make with their eyes wide open. Just be upfront with them and they won't blow your spot cause they have enough men to occupy their time. They're not losing sleep thinking about you.

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    08/17/2010 at 4:51 AM

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  6. Cherie

    12/13/2012 at 11:15 PM

    Is what is amazing to me is that the man I LOVE with all I have is let's say for a lack of a better word ! A cheater! He always has been. I knew it from the day he said he used to be in a band ! Having worked in the music business for 15 years! Been there and seen it ALL! He said no he was not like that ! I gave him the chance to prove it ! Two wives and a long relationship with the mother of his two kids ! Who is now also gone , and here we are ! He is currently seeing other women ( one with whom attends his church ) and who knows who else ! And me ! He knows I know ! I have been very up front about it ! However he pretends for what ever reasion that I don't have a clue! He uses his son and work and many other things as excuses for not being here. However when the Man U love , and have been sleeping with for over a year ! Acts shocked that U have a belly button ring ! Or that U maintain the hair on your vagina, or explains he texted me ! Because he can't remember who he has talked to or the landscape of your private areas ! There is a problem ? If as U age U can't remember from day to day who U have been with ! My suggestion is Get a note book and a pocket calander and take notes ! If for any other reasion when everyone leaves U! U can at least look at them and remember that at one time U were LOVEd ! And that U alone made the choices that have lead to a very lonely place !

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