The REAL Reason Men Get Caught Cheating More Than Woman Do

For some reason women have it in their head that the reason they generally tend to get caught cheating less often than men is because they are A LOT smarter – but they couldn’t be any more WRONG.

The reason men get caught cheating A LOT easier than women is simple: Because a man knows how to easily play his sidepiece role, and most women do NOT. The reason most cheating blows up in one person’s face isn’t usually just because their partner played Inspector Gadget really well and researched a bunch of facts and put things together to incriminate their significant other; it’s usually because the sidepiece does something STUPID that ends up jeopardizing the whole thing.

See most men don’t mind having sex with someone else’s girlfriend. Most men also don’t mind not having to “play house” (i.e. front like their in a serious relationship with a girl and have to call, email, text and check in all the time) so we like only having to talk to you when it’s “getting it in” time. These are the perfect qualities for the perfect sidepiece: someone who doesn’t want to be more than a jumpoff and who doesn’t care to mingle in your everyday life. When a woman decides to cheat, since most men are like that, she doesn’t have to do too much extra digging to investigate if he has a mindstate that can handle that arrangement.

Now men, on the other hand, constantly get caught because they make the incorrect decision to make a girl a jumpoff when she has ZERO sidepiece qualities. In fact I will go as far to say that MOST women DON’T have the qualities to make them a good sidepiece. Eventually her heart, mind and nani will start to NEED to connect and be a cohesive unit, so compartmentalizing your relationship as “just sex” will start to become impossible. And men have NO CLUE on how to spot which woman could handle being a jumpoff, and which ones need to be wifey material. Most men don’t even give it enough thought, that the woman they are cheating with is just biding her time to be seen as the most important woman in his life. Think about it: it’s a much more common problem for a married man to have a sidepiece that falls in love with him, than it is for a married woman to have to deal with her sidepiece falling in love with her.

Women you are NOT smarter. You are NOT more clever. You are just dealing with people (men) who are more apt to not blow up your spot by calling your house phone at all hours or randomly showing up at your work. What most men who cheat fail to realize is that as much as some women say they can handle a relationship that’s just sex with a man who’s taken, they are lying to themselves because eventually they will want MORE.  STOP thinking every woman has the capability of playing #2, because you will end up finding out the hard way that sidepieces can easily get scorned – and when she tells your woman EVERYTHING you will learn there’s nothing worse than the wrath of a woman scorned.

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When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

1 Comment

  1. Adrianna

    11/07/2016 at 12:01 PM

    Oh really? I’m a mid-twenties female who was a side piece to a married dude. Said married dude warned me not to catch feelings. I didn’t. Flash forward a year later, he couldn’t handle I was fucking someone else and went level 10 nuts. Started stalking me, telling me he loved me, calling me at odd hour, and almost blew up his own marriage. Needless to say, got out of that one. Now in a committed relationship with my own side dude who at first glance possessed all the perfect side dude qualities you just described — until about three weeks ago when he got emotional and started demanding I end my relationship for him because he loves me. So, is it really a matter of which gender is more emotional, or which person can hold out the longest? By the way, this isn’t a feminist cry against your article. I genuinely wish you were right. My life would be easier. Any advice for managing a clingy as fuck side dude?