It’s OFFICIAL: Saying Light Skinned-Women Are SEXY Is Politically INCORRECT

The worst thing a man can say in public about his personal preference in women, is “I like light-skinned women.”

For a dude to say that nowadays he is opening himself up to being called Yung Berg and accusing all Dark skin women of being “Dark Butts.” Now me personally I don’t have a personal preference on skin colour, I just have a preference of attractiveness which is not limited to any hue of Black, Brown, White, Red, Yellow, etc. And for any man to have the same preference, he should NOT and realistically CAN NOT be faulted or demonized for his taste.

I have stated on this site MANY TIMES that I can’t understand how a man can’t find Darker Skinned women GORGEOUS, such as:

BUT I can NOT and will NOT say that he is stupid for not wanting to wife up, have sex with, impregnate, any Dark skin women because ultimately that is HIS call and it’s HIS life, like I stated HERE.

Now with that said, I am more than fully aware of the challenges Dark skin women face, since my sister is Dark, and I am fully aware that many men disregard dating Dark women mainly out of pure ignorance. It’s disgusting to hear men of ANY race talk about Dark skin women of ANY race as if they are just inherently less attractive and when they find one that is, it is some kind of MIRACLE that makes them state “Oh, she’s gorgeous – for a dark girl.” And Black people don’t think that this anti-Dark bias is central to just us, because it occurs amongst Indian people, Oriental people, and even Hispanics as well. Every modern culture seems to praise Light as Right, and that definitely should NOT be encouraged.

But with that said, we must not make it so one-sided to the point that saying you like NON-Dark skin women now becomes some sort of PREJUDICE statement. We can’t let the Sandra Rose’s of the world dictate our sexual taste, because who you want to give yourself to, spend time with and possibly start a life with, should NOT be dictated by social pressures. Beautiful women exist in EVERY skin tone, and it’s not inherently PREJUDICE to simply state one’s TASTE, as long as it isn’t done by DEGRADED an entire group.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

38 Comments

  1. Lincoln Anthony Blades

    10/18/2010 at 11:34 AM

    Halle Berry = The Greatest Thing To Ever Happen To Men's Fantasies Worldwide (Even if The Reality Is Horrible..)

    • The_Mad_HATER

      10/18/2010 at 11:37 AM

      yuuuuuuup!!

    • A Grown Ass Man

      10/18/2010 at 11:57 AM

      I really do wonder what is causing her to bounce from man to man. It's unfathomable that a man wouldn't want to just have her and keep her.

      • Independent Woman

        10/18/2010 at 12:06 PM

        Why does it have to be what's wrong with HER? Maybe what's wrong is she keeps running into lying, cheating-ass men?!

        • DatchikMalix

          10/18/2010 at 12:41 PM

          which in the end means SHE is going for the wrong guys. so it's something SHE would need to work on.

          • Independent Woman

            10/18/2010 at 1:25 PM

            That's such garbage. How do you work on 'not' being cheated on? Should she take the 'spot a liar' night course at the local Community College?

            I think you all don't want to see that there are a lot of lying ass men in the world who are going around breaking womens heart.

        • ddddddddddddd

          10/20/2010 at 1:10 AM

          shes the common denominator… that has to mean something..

    • Jacklyn

      09/19/2014 at 9:45 PM

      I have to disagree with you on this one Linc. I don't go around forcing any man to change what he prefers. But to recognize that their is colorism in the Black community and know you have men choosing light skin women based on their ignorance and prejudice and how it is connected with what we are taught about lightness, then turn around and say it is not prejudice to have a taste in light skin women comes off as hypocritical and not well thought out. Either they are acting out of prejudice and ignorance or they are not. Now, I will respect a man's decision to be with who he prefers as long as he is respectful and doesn't degrade anyone. But, I think even a preference can be rooted in prejudice, racism, and colorism. And to dismiss that is being intellectually dishonest. I agree that no one should pressure anyone to like a certain type of person, however, they don't have a right to pressure others to like what they like either. And I know of BM with a dark skin preference to get totally blasted and ridiculed by some of their BM friends for having that preference. It goes both ways. I find it unnecessary and socially irresponsible for a public personality to state in public what his tastes are knowing that this feeds into the continual perpetuation of colorism in the community and society at large. That contributes and encourages the light is right culture that you clearly stated should not be encouraged.

  2. Queen Erudite

    10/18/2010 at 11:35 AM

    We can not combat ignorance with more ignorance. A person's preference should not be seen as a bad thing.

    • Jacklyn

      09/19/2014 at 9:48 PM

      Colorism is a bad thing. And we know people choose partners based of it and complain about it, but their personal preference born from that colorism isn't a bad thing. Now, how illogical does that sound. If the person's preference isn't bad, then we need to stop talking about colorism in the Black community b/c after all, a person's preference isn't a bad thing.

  3. The_Mad_HATER

    10/18/2010 at 11:41 AM

    20 = wifey material!

    • ATLienSince82

      10/18/2010 at 12:02 PM

      Great post! this man knows what he's talking bout! 20 is a DIME

      • The_Mad_HATER

        10/18/2010 at 4:02 PM

        Im just trying to figure out her background!

        • lincolnanthonyblades

          10/19/2010 at 1:20 AM

          Yeah she is looking like perfection!

  4. A Grown Ass Man

    10/18/2010 at 11:56 AM

    Great post. I love light-skinned women but I shouldn't be criticized for saying that because I love dark-skinned women too.

    15, 22 & 23 are my types.

  5. Independent Woman

    10/18/2010 at 12:08 PM

    Judging by the pictures posted I don't even think the colour bias is the problem; it seems the author feels unless you are coked-up-model-thin or blessed with huge titties or ass then you just are not what's "hot."

    I guess big girls get no love huh? smh

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      10/19/2010 at 1:21 AM

      I See Big Girls With Boyfriends, Kids (Meaning SOMEONE Is Hitting That) And Making Sex Tapes ON Ghetto Porn Sites…Believe Me They Are Getting Their Fair Share Of Luv..

  6. Kam

    10/18/2010 at 12:48 PM

    Why does she keep choosing “lying cheating ass men”? …. She’s dating someone else now though

    • Independent Woman

      10/18/2010 at 12:40 PM

      Why are so many men liars and cheaters?

      Please stop acting like Eric Benet and the others were all walking around with Male Whore stamped on their foreheads.

      • DatchikMalix

        10/18/2010 at 1:58 PM

        i HAVE to disagree with you Independent Woman:

        there's lying/cheating men and WOMEN all over the world. it's just the women are as glorified as the men.

        if Halle keeps finding herself with the same kind of guys that lie and cheat on her…then maybe she should be reading the post above this one (Just Because You’re In Love Doesn’t Mean Your Both Good For Each Other).
        women need to start taking responsibility as well. we can't control how someone acts but we can control going into bad situations!

        • Independent Woman

          10/18/2010 at 3:53 PM

          Halle has made a point of continually changing the types of men she goes for, so how can you blame her? She changes professions, race, age, etc. and gets screwed in the end, and you want to blame her?

          I hope your man never cheats on you because you sound like the type of girl that wouldn't blame him, you would sit around crying wondering what you did to make him cheat on you. Smh.

          • MistaHarsh

            10/18/2010 at 8:17 PM

            But she's never dated an ugly, broke dude who will worship the ground she walks on. So her range in men isn't wide at all. She dates men who can get women whenever they want and the men probably cheat to spite her and to knock her off her "my shit don't stink" pedestal.

          • Jemsstar

            10/20/2010 at 5:31 PM

            I concur!

  7. Kam

    10/18/2010 at 1:42 PM

    Wow you’re acting like Halle shouldn’t share some of the onus of these men not being good mates… We’re not in the stone ages the men she had didn’t knock her out and carried her to their caves … She chose them as women we are more vulnerable emotionally and physically …. She should of checked on the women beaters history and Eric’s past to see if had womanizing tendencies

    • Independent Woman

      10/18/2010 at 1:23 PM

      Um, this is not High School Kam. She can't just run down to the Caf and ask her girls to give her the 411 on cute Eric from Biology class. Please stop trying to blame Cheating and Lying on the person who's being cheated on and lied to.

      • DatchikMalix

        10/18/2010 at 2:01 PM

        you seriously need a reality check…honestly!

      • Kam

        10/18/2010 at 2:43 PM

        I never said this is high school but Eric was in the industry you think people don't talk? Halle has no intuition where she can't see someone can't be beneficial to her? You need to get over this feminist garbage Halle is not the victim and cannot be all that innocent she's been in how many failed relationship and everyone of these guys are the bad guys and she has no issues of her own?

        • Independent Woman

          10/18/2010 at 3:50 PM

          BS. First, let's understand that you are speculating on her flaws, but we know 100% that Eric Benet, Gabriel and the others all cheated on her, which means THEY messed up. How you can say it's her fault is saying that spotting a cheater is like spotting a toupe, something you can do in two seconds.

          Stop acting like men don't lie, cheat and FOOL women every single day. There are many women all over the world who have been cheated on, lied to and disrespected by more than one or two guys so please spare me the horseshit argument that she brought it upon herself.

      • Pretty Manny

        10/18/2010 at 2:54 PM

        No it's even better HOLLYWOOD majority of her exes have been famous guys, and in Hollywood that only means ONE thing everyone knows your business……. So technically she coulda ran to alot of men and women and as them for the 411 on some of those guys. Plus Im pretty sure she had heard or seen some of their ways b4 she decided to completely commit, but in an act of irrationality thought (like many women do) that her love could change any and all of their bad qualities. Speaking from experience if you pay careful attention to what a man says and does b4 committing to him you will have saved a life time of tears and drama

        • Independent Woman

          10/18/2010 at 3:51 PM

          Such a foolish statement. You are essentially saying that Halle knowingly walked into being cheated on. That's just flat-out stupid.

  8. The_Mad_HATER

    10/18/2010 at 4:03 PM

    Yall missin the underrated banger at 25!! look at them lips, bet she has a lot of great knowledge to give!!

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      10/19/2010 at 1:20 AM

      LoL…Thought The Same Thing…Sexy Nerdy Chick

  9. moi

    10/18/2010 at 4:30 PM

    at the end of the day if the same thing keeps happening to the same person, but with different people…."thats when you start to look at yourself"…cause that means you are the common denominator and it might not be what your doin, but maybe what your not doin. But you keep gettin the same type of people…hm

  10. MistaHarsh

    10/18/2010 at 8:11 PM

    no "maybes" it IS you. lol But seriously what if you are in charge of hiring and you look at a resume and the applicant has 4 quits or dismissals in the past year are you going to say the employers are no good or is the applicant the issue??

    Halle is damaged in a way that only the people who fall into her fly trap can truly understand.

  11. MistaHarsh

    10/18/2010 at 8:33 PM

    I know I'm going out on a limb but…I think Halle treats her men like they ain't shit and she lets the man know SHE wears the pants and runs the house. If you notice she's NEVER dated a man on her level or higher. Usually A listers date a leading man ie Jolie and Pitt. The closest she came was David Justice(when Braves had a dynasty) and he had to beat her ass…according to Halle.

    What else would cause a man to cheat on Halle unless they wanted to feel like a real man again? Sometimes cheating helps you psychologically take control over the relationship like "Yeah, yeah trick keep running the show while I'm screwing your assistant behind your back!"

    Just putting the theory out there.

    • Jemsstar

      10/20/2010 at 5:55 PM

      I hate to say this but I kind of agree with you. I understand where Independant woman is coming from, because no one wants to feel like you are the reason why you are being cheated on, even if it happens with every man you've been with. But the common denominator is Halle.

      P.S. I heard a rumor years ago that Halle is not the giving it up all the time type, and that she also won't do certain things in bed. IMHO that is a sure sign that you will get cheated on, what you won't do, even for your husband, someone else will!

  12. Sarah Petro George

    10/22/2010 at 1:58 PM

    As someone who has been called light-skinned and HATED it I agree with this article. At the end of the day I'm black, in the summer I'm still black just darker. It's one thing to be naturally drawn to a physical feature but it's another to completely disregard someone on purpose because of their skin tone is ignorant.

    I was having a convo with a friend once and he listed the type of girls he liked based on race; light-skinned black women were #1 and dark-skinned black woman were like #5. I asked him why didn't he just say black women and he said "because they aren't the same. You're lucky to be light-skinned". I was completely offended because I'm black and he said something ignorant about black women, regardless of tone, we are all still black.

    All tones have their sexy and there not so sexy.

  13. Ms. MusiQ

    11/15/2010 at 6:45 AM

    Did I miss something?? What the hell does the topic of this post, which has to do with SKIN TONE, have to do with anybody being cheated on?!

    I’m so confused…..

    Anyhow, beauty comes is all shades. I’m a dark skinned female myself and over the years I’ve learned this: Some dudes love chocolate & some dudes don’t…… We can’t all be everyone’s flavour all the time!!

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