The Black Woman Booty Conundrum: Why Black Women MUST Have Big A*ses

This past weekend I was having a discussion with a young woman about one of my blog topics I wrote months ago []. She stated that while she DOES agree that there is negative imagery heaped upon Black men by the characterization of the MANDINDO sexual warrior, BUT it pales in comparison to the characterization of how Black women WITHOUT ample amounts of Booty are treated in total – especially by OTHER Blacks.

The booty pic above is not just solely for stimulating visual effect, but it typifies what the world [including MOST Black people] like in a beautiful a*s, yet seemingly DEMAND unflinchingly from Black women. She continued to state that this is NOT just a psycho-sexual issue about identifying the strengths and weaknesses of the modern day Black woman’s struggle with staying sexy, but something a LOT deeper than that: According to her, we as a society have not only correlated the Black woman’s bum with her sexual identity, but with her overall worthiness of being a Black woman – and I could not agree anymore.

After taking a step back to really think about it, there is a difference in characterization between any race of women NOT having a DONK and Black women who don’t. When it comes to causcasian, a*s size is nothing more than a footnote; a physical character that can be used to describe a woman if she so pleases.

If she sits down too fast, guarantee she dislodges some vertebrae

And while Latin & Asian women face their own steep battles of objective beauty, the reality is there is nothing more annoying and potentially self-sabotaging to the female psyche than a Black woman who, for all intents and purposes is gorgeous and attractive:

But then has to explain why she has this dragging behind her:

When I first heard that Countess Vaughn (a.k.a. Kim Parker from The Parkers) got a booty-implant, I was actually not surprised at all, because like so many Black women, she wrapped her a*s-appeal around more than just looking SEXY, but looking like a “Real” Black woman. And while it would be so easy to blame the white man and their prejudicial eye of Sara Baartman, I’m afraid the continuation of this stereotype likes in the hands of US – ALL Black people.

The reality is, we STILL don’t have the Black Female form in proper perspective. We as Black folk need to STOP attributing lack of assets to being inherently less Black but hopefully we can address this topic like mature adults and not just run away from the conversation like we seen a ghost – or Vybz Kartel holding a tin of Cake Soap.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.


  1. max

    01/25/2011 at 9:41 AM

    As an ass-deprived Black woman I approve this message.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/25/2011 at 8:59 PM

      Prove It!


    • missa

      03/07/2013 at 12:52 AM

      OMG so true, i am naturally thin and i have heard it all first skinny jokes when young, then how i should gain moe weight of course my favorite consistently being told i should date white men because they would like me more? I have been getting more and more distraught by it because i am small chested and feel to attract someone i need a bigger butt.i know exercisse can help but i will have to be consistent. it hurts its like your ugly and not a woman or not attractive and so many black men so they have no attraction for a woman if she does not have a large butt. To be honest most women do not have these insane shapes if a woman is larger she is creating that or if they do have it they are super young, but its creating a need to get shots and plastic surger to feel wanted and sexy.

    • nika

      05/05/2016 at 2:34 AM

      I dont c the use of this message it doesnt mk me any happier to be flat assed and African

  2. hisandhersinks

    01/25/2011 at 10:35 AM

    I don't even know how to begin to thank you for writing this post. A Black man is speaking the truth on this issue??? Who are you? I'm elated! As a black woman who is lacking the approved threshold of ass I thoroughly appreciate this post. It is a pocket of intraracial ignorance that people are starkly bound by. It's sad my own people, my own sisters relegate my value because I don't have a fat ass and wide hips. "The reality is, we STILL don’t have the Black Female form in proper perspective." #supremeanalysis. Here we are thinking that as Black people we have embraced this so called unique beauty despite the hate of White people while all we've done is segmented our culture and devalued more Black women intraracially. It is quite a complex not be embraced by the majority White society alongside sheilding the rejection you face from your own people for not having a "Black woman's body". This is by far the most relevant post I will read all year!

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/25/2011 at 8:59 PM

      Thanks hisandhersinks…I Appreciate The Love

    • sassa piffesas

      07/26/2011 at 7:31 AM

      you can lookat body shapes esthetically, ie purely on artistic terms, and say is this beautiful? Or you can look at racial divisions, which ultimately are nonsense because these rules were devised by 19th century german scientists who wanted to produce a scientific reason, justification for their racism. we all humans are the same, we all got the same great great great gran mamma in kenya!

      I remember a conversation i had with a friend once having a few drinks, and he commented on a woman's shape: Tht woman has great child-beraring hips! isn't that what it's all about at the end of teh day.

      I must admit that for me, that shape, smallish tits and big bum is very attractive, even sexually arousing. But that just reinforces Darwin's point, doesn't it? Survival of the fittest? and all that. My guess is that in 2, maybe 3 hundred years time there won't be any white people left, or black people, or yellow or brown, there will only be mxed races.
      Say goodbye tyo your prejudices folks. As for me though, black ass is king. or should that be queen?

  3. madscientist7

    01/25/2011 at 11:31 AM

    great post. honestly while looking at and holding a great a$$ is a thing of beauty i must say that sometimes it is simply overrated. sure if a woman has it then that add points but i don't think it should subtract points from women who don't have those assets.

    • ATLienSince82

      01/25/2011 at 12:19 PM

      You gone way too far now fam!

      Big ass aint neva been overrated

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 12:31 PM

        Thank you ATL!

      • madscientist7

        01/25/2011 at 12:52 PM

        this isn't something that i came up with on a whim. check out this post:

        Big Booty Judy:

        • The_Mad_HATER

          01/25/2011 at 1:06 PM

          big asses are played out? nigga are you on heroin?? a nice phat ass while never go out of style!

          • madscientist7

            01/25/2011 at 1:20 PM

            you don't have to agree. i didn't say i didn't like one i just mean there are more important things i factor in when determining a woman's beauty. a lot of dude's get blinded by a woman's hind parts and end up giving extra points to mud ducks.

          • Starita34

            01/25/2011 at 2:01 PM


          • ATLienSince82

            01/25/2011 at 2:08 PM

            Extra points in what category though? We talked yesterday about big titty and ass girls getting a lot of luv for their bodies but not as wifey material…mud ducks or whateva deserve to get credit as least for they ass, but acting like they aren't ahead of the game is like women sayin size don't matter

          • madscientist7

            01/25/2011 at 5:45 PM

            why do they deserve credit? they're mud ducks! if your face isn't on point then that ends all discussion in my book. *shrug*

    • Queen Erudite

      01/25/2011 at 12:51 PM

      Very classy statement good sir.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/25/2011 at 9:00 PM

      As A Certified Ass Man,. I Gotta No-Sign You On This One, But I Feel What You're Saying Though..

  4. Kamla Kay

    01/25/2011 at 12:00 PM

    i do alot of squats. ALOT. I don't even need to look like pic #1 and just sure as hyull need to not look like pic #2.

    uhmmm yeah…sorry for making light of the issue!

  5. I'm Just Saying

    01/25/2011 at 12:01 PM

    this is great! it is true, and we as a people need to value our women more for than how much or how little of a physical asset they have. it is just another way of making black women feel insecure in inadequate because of what others say. women of other races dont place so much of a value on A*s/backside/booty/bumpah/whatever you want to call it, so why should we? We have beautiful strong women that we need to value and appreciate no matter their shape.

    • Queen Erudite

      01/25/2011 at 12:52 PM

      We need to do more to uplift young black girls.

  6. A.j. Black-Beauty

    01/25/2011 at 12:10 PM

    Great post! Unfortunately, this issue is mostly unacknowledged by the vast majority of black people and always will.
    I say, what good is a fat a*s if it's attached to a complete idiot? Just a thought.

  7. ATLienSince82

    01/25/2011 at 12:21 PM

    I ain't tryin to offend everyone and break up the love fest, but yawl need to ease up on dissin women blessed with booty…i love me some Melysa Ford and I'll be damned if I hear yawl degrade her good name (and ass) LOL

    • The_Mad_HATER

      01/25/2011 at 1:08 PM

      these people trip[pin up in here tho! bout fat ass is played out!

  8. MzDebbieFields

    01/25/2011 at 12:30 PM

    As a white woman with a round booty, I honestly think Black Women overdo it too much with this topic…

    Like I refuse to believe that a Black Woman with a flat ass has a more difficult life than a White Woman with a flat ass or Asian woman etc…in our society we expect all women to have a certain body type, not just Black Women..

    I think Black Women are beautiful but there's a time and place to play the race card..#JussSaying

    • Independent Woman

      01/25/2011 at 12:47 PM

      As a white woman period, you should probably shut your mouth because you know not what you speak…

      If you do have a "round" booty I hope you also got the memo that you are part of a new special 'Club' of white women without flap-jack ass. Men are use to you, asian women and all other types of women not having ass…

      But black women on the other hand..

      we are pressured to be round, curvy, fit and voluptuous and WORST, if we are not those things we are accused of "looking like a white girl" and even treated as such. Do NOT compare our booty struggles with your own. EVER.

      Thanks in advance.

      • Queen Erudite

        01/25/2011 at 12:52 PM


        • max

          01/25/2011 at 1:58 PM

          I can't believe I'm about to agree with these two, but yeah. You're speaking out of school here.
          You can refuse to believe what you want but you are not qualified to speak on whether a Black woman's existence is more difficult than anyone else's.

          • ATLienSince82

            01/25/2011 at 4:33 PM

            *Screen Shot*

            Max I will take this as a sign the sky is falling! LOL

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 2:24 PM

        I could just as easily say that since white men want and expect white women to have big boobs that we have been psychologically traumatized when we have AA titties but I think it's foolish to exclude any other race of women in the world who go through that.

        Skin colour is not the issue here!!

        • Independent Woman

          01/25/2011 at 2:31 PM

          You are missing the point Debbie (such an appropriate name). We ALL understand the plight of women and we have to deal with misogyny, sexism and prejudice everyday. The difference is, we have the added pressure of dealing with RACISM on top of all that too.

          Society has doubled-down on their oppression of Black women and you will never understand that. White women were granted sovereignty by the suffrage movement WAY before Black women were allowed to receive it, so stop trying to act as if our struggles are the same!

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 2:44 PM

            Independent Women sometimes you amaze truly. Thank you for schooling her she's speaking greatly out of turn and past her place.

      • Tracy

        01/25/2011 at 5:09 PM

        white girls always trynna down play our issues , like I said before…

        good for you Independent woman..

        • Independent Woman

          01/25/2011 at 5:30 PM

          Thank you for being smart yourself Tracy.

          • DatchikMalix

            01/27/2011 at 3:56 PM

            Mama…i swear i could hug you for these posts!!!!!


            tell em again!

      • missa

        03/07/2013 at 12:56 AM

        Preach… There are songs after songs about a black woman having no butt or having a butt. How many white songs are song strictly about a womans butt like ours. You have no idea how it feels to be a black woman without a large butt.

    • Kam

      01/25/2011 at 1:59 PM


      In the Caribbean my mother said if you were skinny people use to think you were sick. Small frames were not accepted at all in the black community. The idea of having a round behind and wide hips determined your status, and is a sign of fertility. Men would determine if you would bare a lot of children because of having a voluptuous frame.

      As you said you have a "round booty" right well all of a sudden you guys have adopted this idea that having a round butt is a good thing where black women have always had those assets. Kim Kardashian is praised for what black women like Pam Grier and other black women have had for centuries. Please sit down with that black women take it too far. Black men enjoy round butts and big tits why do you think black women want them.

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 2:26 PM

        and white men enjoy bouncing boobies so much so that white women use to wear boustier's and risk their health for good cleavage. All women have had to struggle not just black women!!

        • Kam

          01/25/2011 at 2:33 PM

          Where do you get off talking about race card. You're being insulting and condesending. You have no idea what having vulumptious frame ment and still means in the black community that's what this article is tryiing touch upon. If having bouncy boobies is a big thing in the white community go talk about the white community this is not YOUR ISSUE. I'm sick and I'm tired of white people like yourself acting like black issues do not exist. It does and you do not need to be in it.

          This idea of big butts are getting so bad that black women are saying their thick when they are actually obese and suffering from weight issues.

          I'm not a racist but when it comes to things you don't know anything about please do everyone here a favour a be silent.

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 3:08 PM

            All I am saying is that maybe we should be looking at this from a bigger perspective and how it effects all women. Not once did I say this didn't exist in your community, all I said was that I think Black women overblow it too much sometimes.

            Women of all colour commit suicide over their body issues. Women all over are told they are not good enough. This is an issue that can connect us as different races and one gender, instead of seperating us.

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 3:14 PM

            Yes then go make a post about that. This is an ISSUE ABOUT BLACK WOMEN AND BLACK WOMENS BODIES. Like the lovely lady stated under me we all have issues but not the same. We have different issues that arise from issues in OUR COMMUNITY FROM OUR HISTORY AND CULTURE.

            This is not the race card sweety this is us talking about and issue that stands today. Considering that a black man made this post how could we as black women be pulling the race card huh?

            Yeah Max is right you have no card to pull and the race card move is really an underline derogatory term. No one is looking for sympathy what this post was trying to invoke is how we should start looking at black women's body image differently something you will never understand.

          • Bajanprincess

            01/25/2011 at 6:01 PM

            I can clearly see that this comment is going to be a waste of time. but I will make it anyway… Maybe Lincoln MAY make an article about WOMEN IN GENERAL having "body issues" ANOTHER DAY…but RIGHT NOW he is TALKING and RELATING TO BLACK WOMEN seeing as this IS an issue wether you believe it or not. He is a BLACK MAN and HE is even speaking from a different stand point… It just like this girl I use to work with that was white and like 30 yrs old….she had the ODASITY to say to me and a few co-workers"racisim does not exist anymore does it? That stuff does not happen any more!" while we were talking about "racial profiling" . We didnt get mad at her, we just realized that she wouldnt EVER know since she is not black, how the hell is she gonna know, she does not live as a black person. Cant fault her ignorance, we can just tell her some stories and information and hope that she is open minded enough to understand and acknowledge that it does happen and learn something.

          • Bajanprincess

            01/25/2011 at 6:01 PM

            And not be ignorant and say that we are over reacting! THIS ARTICLE IS ABOUT BLACK WOMEN AND THE UNFAIR IMAGE PLACED ON US. Like someone said earlier you can hear both white men AND BLACK men say "DAMN you got a white girl ass" if your BLACK and your ass is flat. OR "DAMN she got a black girl ass" if your WHITE and have an ass! THAT IN ITSELF SHOWS THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE EXPECTED TO HAVE HELLA BODY (in OUR COMMUNITY…WHICH IS THE BLACK COMMUNTIY) and if your WHITE (and BEING JUDGED BY OUR COMMUNITY, you get a PASS cause you are not EXPECTED to have one)

          • missa

            03/07/2013 at 1:00 AM

            Ok but the topic here is about how black women who dont have large butts are put down? If you are not a black woman then the topic does not pertian to you. Start your own topic instead of telling black women which you are not how to feel. If i said that white women should get over not being thin enough and you struggled with that and i am black and dont really deal with that issue as a black woman how could i tell you how to feel. You are not black so therefore you can not understand so move on please.

        • Cheekie

          01/25/2011 at 2:53 PM

          "All women have had to struggle not just black women!! "

          Point is, we all don't have the SAME struggles.

          • hisandhersinks

            01/25/2011 at 4:11 PM

            That's all she wrote! Its that simple and blatant what the point is. How dare someone who is totally misfit for the subject matter try to minimize or remix the point. smh

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 4:28 PM

            Why can't we struggle together as women?? What joy do you get out of not fighting this fight with women of other races who experience similarly painful experiences??

          • hisandhersinks

            01/25/2011 at 4:43 PM

            We can but not on this issue b/c THIS is NOT about any other women than Black.If you want to struggle together we can talk about that on my blog topics or at some other women's empowerment event that relates to us as a whole however this is NOT it. I get no joy out of it which is why I am trying to reiterate how simple the point is. I for one am a WOMAN before I am Black so the fact that we have struggles to fight together is not lost on me.

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 5:22 PM

            So you think only Black men want their women to have large asses??

          • hisandhersinks

            01/25/2011 at 6:12 PM

            Girl, bye! Vapid….

          • imakesense

            01/25/2011 at 9:26 PM

            lol, i just read this whole argument. She completely misses the point every time.

            How dreadful

          • imakesense

            01/25/2011 at 8:57 PM

            MzDebbieFields, you are not fooling no one trying to pass that as you in that pic. You know damn well that is Joanna Shari, who do you think your fooling?

            You probably got that inverted ass triangular shape -________-

          • lincolnanthonyblades

            01/25/2011 at 9:04 PM

            Naw She Did State In One Of The Football Posts A Few Weeks Ago That She Only Uses That Pic Because She Likes Joanna And She's Been Told They Look Alike

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 4:44 PM

            Our struggles come from different places hun. Black women not only have to struggle as women we have to struggle has being BLACK as well. We have race and culture issues that affect us being black women. Yes similar but not the same like she said we all have issues but not the same issues not deriving from the same places.

          • Shaun

            01/25/2011 at 5:25 PM

            You talk about struggling but still talking bout ur booty, if u wanna struggle, help dispel the myth of black w omen's bodies. Not all black women have big tits and ass. Just as much don't have anything spectacular. And furthermore if u were so concerned about struggling together then why are your white peers trying to get ass implants? If you wanna struggle, let them know that it is pointless to risk your health and life for a fat ass. And ny many who only values a woman based soley on her looks is not worth our time. We are more than our bodies. And should never let ppl define us as such.

          • Shaun

            01/25/2011 at 5:26 PM

            … and any man who only values women…

          • Independent Woman

            01/25/2011 at 5:32 PM

            Amazing post Shaun!

          • Independent Woman

            01/25/2011 at 5:31 PM

            She's not hearing you though…

    • Starita34

      01/25/2011 at 2:35 PM

      I get where you're going and I'ma let you finish but…"I refuse to believe that a Black Woman with a flat ass has a more difficult life than a White Woman with a flat ass" is just kinda ignorant…l

      Just the fact that you started with "as a white woman with a round booty"…um…

      And don't get it twisted, I think Independent Woman is way foul, as usual, in her response to you, but she's kinda right-although our struggles as WOMEN overlap more often than not, you and I (I'm white too) could never speak from a Black woman's perspective and vice versa.

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 3:11 PM

        As a woman Starita you have to admit that you have your own body issues too. We do not feel any less pain or scorn just because we are white! I'm so sick of hearing black women say that we don't understand them, but in the same breath will say that they fully understand what we go through though.

        Some pain doesn't have a colour.

        • Kam

          01/25/2011 at 3:22 PM

          Of course you're not going to feel less scorn being white women white people have been the standard of beauty for years and still today. HOW THE HELL CAN YOU FEEL LESS ABOUT SOMETHING IN A SOCIETY WHITES HAVE CREATED THAT PRAISES THE WHITE IMAGE. Here's a link

        • hisandhersinks

          01/25/2011 at 3:42 PM

          I think you are forgetting that this IS SO about Black women! Not about white women. Its about an intraracial issue.

        • Starita34

          01/25/2011 at 3:51 PM

          Of course I do, and no one is trying to take away the fact that you or any other white women may have body issues <del>except maybe Independent Woman</del>. But you came stomping through a blog post written about Black women by a Black man regarding a race specific issue with muddy boots on effin up the couch. You don't expect anyone to be offended?

          Are all women's body issues the same? No. I have a small ass, I HATE that I have a small ass. But have I been teased since childhood about it? No.
          Has my mother massaged my ass in an upward motion and prayed over it so that it would grow? No.
          Am I repeatedly categorized as "less white" or less of a woman because my ass isn't, not just large, but HUGE? No.
          The African American standard and ramifications of having a gorgeous ass seem to weigh heavier. I figure it's kinda like "being skinny" for us. Many Black communities see "being skinny" as an insult, whereas most white communities "being skinny" is the best thing a girl can be! And you singing kumbayah (all the while insulting the opposition's opinion) and ignoring those facts, when people that live it every day are telling you that it's very real…well it makes you look ignorant and self important.

          Face it, your "large ass" is simply a decent ass by gross African American standards, yet as a white woman, you seem incredibly proud of it-and you should be, but NOT at the expense of others. Like, for example you getting on MadScientist above for daring to say that a big butt and a smile aren't the end all, be all for him. That's his prerogative, but it seems that since you've got a nice ass, you can't stand to hear someone downplay it…

          Speak on your experience, not others. We all feel pain and like I said above, I truly do feel like we (women) share a lot of the same issues, but there are some things that we will never experience. It's not a pissing contest on who has it the worst, but respect the struggle and viewpoint of all sides.

          Some pain doesn't have a colour-and some does.

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 3:56 PM

            I like you, 😀 . Please continue to post on this site always once again you showed humility and intelligence.

          • I'm Just Saying

            01/25/2011 at 4:22 PM

            *Standing Ovation*

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 4:30 PM

            Definitely agree on the "being skinny" point. But I would never use that point to throw it in Black women's face to make the point that black women could never understand our pain and how hard white men judge weight gain. I just feel we should fight the fight together!

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 4:37 PM

            How are we throwing it in your face? We are tried to explain it to you calmly and you refuse to admit that you are wrong you accused us of playing the race card, and seeking sympathy. You have been disrespectful, condescending and ignorant in this post. No one has thrown anything in your face.

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 4:39 PM

            Furthermore I don't think black women would talk about weight issues in the white community since they are NOT white. My goodness this is how it started you commenting on something you shouldn't of commented on and being rude and ignorant on top of it.

          • Nicky Nicky 9 Door

            01/25/2011 at 5:19 PM

            First post on this site ever but I have to step in

            Ladies, I forget the actual quote but it goes something like "don't argue with a fool because from the outside no one can tell the difference"

            She doesn't get it. Some white people will NEVER get it. Racism exist and sexism exist. We are not in any "fight" together so let's not get this twisted.

            How dare you talk about the race card when the post is related to RACE. Black women and THEIR booties. MzFields, please take a step back .. life isn't all roses and lollipops and candy canes.

            I suggest you gracefully bow out and accept that the experience of a black woman is not one you can comment on!

          • Independent Woman

            01/25/2011 at 5:33 PM

            Your first post was a complete success! POST MORE

            We need more brilliant young black women around here

          • Bajanprincess

            01/25/2011 at 6:12 PM

            I COULDNT HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF!!!!! SHOOT Im BLACK AND my family is from the CARIBBEAN…ALL YOU HEAR is teasing if your too skinny and have a flat ass. Your family will TRY to give you tips on how to get it bigger if they can. Or the best one is, "I dont know where she get that flat ass from, no one in this family has a flat ass" lol We ALL have strugles as WOMEN YEEESSS…But dont down play someone elses stuggles in LIFE period. UNLESS YOU LIVE IT…YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND HOW TRULY HARD IT IS. LOVE that you understand where we comin from!!! CUDOS!!!!! *STANDING OVATION* x10000

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            01/25/2011 at 6:22 PM


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        • missa

          03/07/2013 at 1:05 AM

          Wow really. Why are you on a black topic trying to make yourself sound good? You must date black men. Its very obvious and you prob need to make yourself feel better than black women, lady be gone.

      • imakesense

        01/25/2011 at 9:28 PM

        thank you Starita,

        You give me hope in white girls again! smh

    • @iCh3ryl

      10/18/2011 at 8:40 AM

      OK. Allow me to pose this same conundrum in terms you may better understand. Prime example, whites idealize the proverbial bleach blonde, blue-eyed babe with the formidable D+ cups. I got to the point brunettes and redheads were sick of this status quo, and counteracted by calling blondes everything from bimbos to airheads. Nevertheless, it's no secret white chicks from all across America were not happy with themselves (and somehow felt less feminine and beautiful) unless they looked like Malibu Barbie, Heather Locklear or better yet Pamela Anderson. To this day, blonde hair (blue eyes = added bonus) is perceived as a symbol of Aryan beauty, youth and vitality in white society…specifically, conservative white men… no? I mean just look at the Hugh Hefner harem. They must be the pick of the litter, sort of speak. Why is that? I'll wait…

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  10. The_Mad_HATER

    01/25/2011 at 1:07 PM

    theres too much bs going on right now! yall hatin on big ass having girls to make yall selves feel better?! i cant rock with that!

  11. Gordan

    01/25/2011 at 1:46 PM

    Not having an ass dont make u less black andu shouldnt be teased. To me vivica fox still has a little

  12. law and order

    01/25/2011 at 1:51 PM

    I've seen Vivica's booty look huge before… I'm shocked and confused. probably just a bad pic.

    • The_Mad_HATER

      01/25/2011 at 2:02 PM

      it looked round as hell in booty call!!

      • lincolnanthonyblades

        01/25/2011 at 9:06 PM

        Very True

  13. Gordan

    01/25/2011 at 1:54 PM

    Ass. I thjnk she wearing a horrible fitting jean and dont forget she older now that shit loses a bit of elasticity. But if a black girl is packing what that first white girl had!?! That unacceptable. To me thats the same thing as not feeling sorry for fat people cuz they indulged in glutton. The girl with no ass too me didnt eat enough, and didnt engage in herself well in activity of any kind sports, walking, exercise in general. That wud at least give her roundness, whi h is a pass by me, but that white girl bum deserves a bit of teasing. But not the sort that would absolutely have her feeling less black

    • The_Mad_HATER

      01/25/2011 at 2:01 PM

      nigga you bout to get your ass handed to you!! lol

    • ATLienSince82

      01/25/2011 at 2:10 PM


      • lincolnanthonyblades

        01/25/2011 at 9:07 PM

        Right On Time! LoL

    • Independent Woman

      01/25/2011 at 3:00 PM

      "The girl with no ass too me didnt eat enough, and didnt engage in herself well in activity of any kind sports, walking, exercise in general."

      Look people, this is exactly what smack does to your brain..

      Are you so dense that you actually think a woman having no ass is her fault?? By that logic I guess maybe if you ate more beef and red meat you may have a richard big enough to satisfy a woman instead of that HI-LITER cap you call a penis

      • Starita34

        01/25/2011 at 4:15 PM


        I have to agree with Independent Woman! I don't wanna do it, but this statement is just TOOOO much truth.

        Don't get used to it.

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 4:31 PM

        LOL! You had that coming Gordan

      • ATLienSince82

        01/25/2011 at 4:35 PM


        That thang that makes your soul burn slow..

      • ddddddddd

        01/25/2011 at 6:24 PM


      • lincolnanthonyblades

        01/25/2011 at 9:07 PM


  14. Kam

    01/25/2011 at 2:13 PM

    In the black community there is pressure to have the thick look and then it goes to far and you have women claiming their thick when their really overweight and obsessed so this issue runs really deep.

    There is pressure to have a certain body type, but embrace what you have don't feel ashamed that your part of the itty bitty titty comity or you have a small bum. People are going under the knife to get bigger breast, bums, lips its just not necessary.

    I had a someone who is close to me who felt she should get breast implants I told her NO …she was beautiful and did not need to change or alter her body image in anyway. Their will be a man out their who will find you attractive no matter what shape you have.

    Their some girls out their with some big bums and their face is not all that. So leave it alone some girls will have a pretty face some will have better bodys that's just how it goes.

  15. MzDebbieFields

    01/25/2011 at 3:05 PM

    Oh please, there is nothing racist about admitting when people are actually using the race card. Everyone here is being so sensitive that you all WANT me to be a racist, but if you knew me, you would know I'm not.

    I just want to have this discussion without the BS and talk like grown ups. All women have it difficult and to make it seem like black women have it the hardest in the world, when i would argue middle eastern women have it WAYYY harder, is just begging for sympathy.

    • max

      01/25/2011 at 3:34 PM

      Okay we've officially reached the point of the discussion where it's no longer about as$es and it becomes about your ignorance. You inserted yourself into a discussion among Black people about our experiences and have the audacity to tell us that it's not about race as if you have the first clue as to what it's like for us.

      For you to say that we're being "sensitive" or "playing the race card" is dismissive and judgemental and shows that you didn't come here to participate in a discussion and learn anything about a viewpoint you could not possibly share.

      And by the way, a discussion among Black people about our experiences is not exactly begging for sympathy any more than a white woman commenting on this post talking about her "round booty" is begging for attention.

      And that's about enough time spent diverting the discussion away from Lincoln's excellent post. You want to go in on this some more you can find me on my spot.

      • Kam

        01/25/2011 at 3:52 PM

        Thank you Max, Max for president lol.

        Like I said underneath how could she understand as a white women about black women body issues when the white women have been the standard of beauty for years and still currently. Even Lincoln made a post about this.

        We may all have image issues but they will never be the same.

        • MzDebbieFields

          01/25/2011 at 4:26 PM

          Not all white women are skinny with long blonde hair! The is a standard of beauty that is created by men and is unrealistic as hell (Barbie doll syndrome) and white women are messed up by that too.

          White women, black women, asian women and spanish women all have to live up to unrealistic body standards!

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 4:34 PM

            White women period have been held as the standard of beauty not only blonde and blue eyed. Did you read that post Lincoln made, obviously not. Yes we have body issues NOT the same NOT stemming from the same place.

            This post has stopped being about a$ses your a blatantly choosing to remain ignorant and admit that you are wrong. You past your place.

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 4:54 PM

            Either you are not listening or you have a hard time understanding easy concepts..

            White women struggle with body image too! How difficult is that to understand?! Geez Whiz

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 5:10 PM

            Either you are slow or were dropped on the head as a baby. You DO NOT UNDERSTAND THAT YES WE ALL HAVE ISSUES BUT NOT COMING FROM THE SAME PLACES YOU GET OR AM I TALKING TO A BRICK WALL…actually you know what maybe the brick wall would of got it. ( you want to get disrespectful I will get disrespectful too). Clam yourself "hard time understand easy concepts" not smart not any of the post you have made today have been smart you have really showed you limited intelligence.

          • MzDebbieFields

            01/25/2011 at 5:19 PM


          • Independent Woman

            01/25/2011 at 5:28 PM

            You put your foot in your mouth and you are determined to keep shoving it down your throat.

          • Kam

            01/25/2011 at 5:44 PM

            Please hun. You continue to make yourself look stupid by each post you. Your first post was an over emotional attack and I responded.

          • ddddddddd

            01/25/2011 at 6:10 PM

            and all of those body standards are NOT equal accross cultures. which comes back to this post where we emphasize that black women are expected to be curvy with a round ass. this expectation is specific to us. it is not a general standard. meaning no, we arent begging for sympathy or playing a race card for an issue that applies predominantly to us. we get that all women have standards to live up to, but YOU dont get that this is one that BLACK WOMEN have to live up to.

      • hisandhersinks

        01/25/2011 at 3:59 PM

        I am so appalled that she would even begin to think that her commentary was appropriate. Simply appalled. #somebodydonetoldherwrong

      • Miss Patterson

        01/25/2011 at 4:17 PM

        THANK YOU, Max. That is all. I'm giving you a standing ovation right now.

      • ebonyebony

        01/26/2011 at 6:50 PM

        Thank you Max!

    • Shaun

      01/25/2011 at 5:18 PM

      From the times of slavery BLACK women have had it hard especially where their bodies are concerned. Go pick up some books and do some reading, my "round booty" friend. Hope it aint an implant.

      • MzDebbieFields

        01/25/2011 at 5:20 PM

        Au Naturel, thank you very much.

        Why are you bringing slavery into a woman's issue?? You realize that back in the days women were considered less than a full person regardless of race right?

        • ddddddddd

          01/25/2011 at 6:14 PM

          if youre seriously trying to say all women were regarded equally regardless of race your a couple of cards short of a full deck.

        • Nicky Nicky 9 door

          01/25/2011 at 7:31 PM

          Sweet Jesus…

          Debbie – Sweetie.. let me try to put this to you as nicely as possible..

          Parlez-vous Francais!? Maybe if I speak French you may get it. anyhow…stop using your cockaminie and audacious parallels to try to argue a debate you've already lost…

          This reminds me of when my gay worker somehow swore he knows my struggle because after coming out of the closet he was no longer the most powerful and dominant in society (white-straight-Anglo Saxton- male).. please just understand when you walk this earth you see it from your body and your point of view, a self aware person allows others to share and have theirs – even if they don't agree

  16. Streetz

    01/25/2011 at 3:31 PM

    I agree withNotorious LAB on this one…

    Personally, I love a plump booty but its far from a deal breaker. Women can naturally make their butt look voluptuous witjh squats and lunges. simple as that.

    Great commentary too!

  17. I'm Just Saying

    01/25/2011 at 4:05 PM

    lol yes you are a woman…but a WHITE woman…so you're not qualified to speak on issues that affect black women…just because you have more ass than average white girl doesn't mean you're anywhere close to relating to black women! you can talk about body type expectations for days and thats cool but the second you wanna talk about black issues without being black is a no no…

  18. hisandhersinks

    01/25/2011 at 4:07 PM

    Btw, I've decided that I'm gonna be the first Black woman with no ass to grace the cover of KING, XXL, etc. And you, and you, and you….You're gonna love me!!!!!!! lol

    • A Grown Ass Man

      01/25/2011 at 6:35 PM

      Lol. I'm surprised ATL hasn't hit on you yet! He's slipping!

      • imakesense

        01/25/2011 at 9:08 PM

        Um, cuz he's e-taken

    • keisha brown

      01/27/2011 at 11:57 PM

      *hands in vote! 😉

  19. ATLienSince82

    01/25/2011 at 4:34 PM

    OMG!! #2..

    Where am I? What universe is this? Is this Ground Hog day??

    • Independent Woman

      01/25/2011 at 5:29 PM


      Stop being so stupid ATL!

    • ddddddddd

      01/25/2011 at 6:15 PM


  20. Kam

    01/25/2011 at 4:52 PM

    Yes you're Irish well as someone who is black I can't speak for Irish issues can I? I may be able to relate but I will never fully know their struggles b/c I'm not Irish. That's the same with Black issues. And trying to come off all innocent now pppfft. You accused black women of playing the race card, said we're are being sensitive and trying to seeking sympathy I think everyone here calls bullsh!t.

  21. MzDebbieFields

    01/25/2011 at 5:15 PM

    That;s NOT how things are nowadays! All women get looked down upon…thats why so many white women are getting butt injections like Kim K

  22. Kam

    01/25/2011 at 5:18 PM

    Yep we're women and we may have some of the same issues that don't affect which race we are but NOT this one. You have the standard of beauty you we do not. Our issue about our a$s comes from cultural, historical and social issues. We may relate but can't fully understand. Sigh.

    • Independent Woman

      01/25/2011 at 5:28 PM

      She just won't get it.

  23. Independent Woman

    01/25/2011 at 5:26 PM

    In the end, white people can NOT keep trying to align their arguments with minorities and frame them as the exact same problem. There is a thing called "White privilege" that prevents white people from understanding what we are going through, and Debbie proved that.

    • imakesense

      01/25/2011 at 9:00 PM


  24. Streetz

    01/25/2011 at 5:30 PM

    OK MsFields,

    I think you aren't getting it at all and I understand because most non black people will ever get it. You have a point thatw omen have been objectified period. i get that. What you are missing is that this post was related to the Black WOMAN plight of oversexified bodies. This is a race issue because the writer brought it up as such.

    I feel you on the Irish plight. 99% of African Americans in this country have no idea of their true origins because of slavery. We are a displaced people. In this country, we were reduced to only physical value. In other countries (hotentot venus anyone?) our black womens curvaceous, veloptuous nature, was put on display like they were zoo animals.

    White woman havent had a SHRED of that happen to them, which is why the black women in this post are so vehemently against your POV. As women, you have a struggle. This is segmented to black woman though.

    Even latina women, who get grouped at times with black women, don't know as much because thats not as much a defining character made by society(their assets) as much as long hair, accents, and a "mira mir papi" attitude is, which they will flip out over as well!

    No one disputes your points about womens plight and discrimination, we are just saying that in a post that specifically talks about how this affects black women, you cant say people are playing a race card. Thats like me telling Superman that kryptonite poisoning is manegable in small doses.

    Hope that helps.

    • Independent Woman

      01/25/2011 at 5:35 PM


      And that's from a Black man Debbie, so get it straight.

    • imakesense

      01/25/2011 at 9:01 PM

      Kudos brotha

    • max

      01/26/2011 at 9:56 AM

      *flings panties at Streetzie*

  25. madscientist7

    01/25/2011 at 5:59 PM

    i take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day and this is what i come back to? just smh privileged attitudes i tell you.

  26. A Grown Ass Man

    01/25/2011 at 6:32 PM

    Is it just me or is Independent Woman slowly becoming one of the better posters on this site? Lol.

    • ddddddddd

      01/25/2011 at 7:06 PM

      LOL. its true

    • ddddddddd

      01/27/2011 at 7:34 PM

      Lol..I was just thinking that with her last comment too!

  27. Cherysh Blackman-St.John

    01/25/2011 at 7:14 PM

    First the easy part – I don't think this post or the subsequent comments were meant to highlight a black womans ass as played out but simply instead to illustrate that for all black women across the myriad of space we occupy the one standard we are expected to meet is that of a large ass – even Jack asses like lil Wayne who expect his women to be red, with long flowing weaves grey eyes and a perfect nose ( the Caucasian beauty standards forced upon all women) expect the black women he surrounds himself with to have a fat ass – and black women who do not possess such are not simply seen as less beautiful as all other beauty standards do across all races – they are seen as less of a woman – period.

    • naynay

      01/24/2015 at 4:22 PM

      Lil' Wayne has HIV! Hope he stays with nonblack women!!

  28. Cherysh Blackman-St.John

    01/25/2011 at 7:28 PM

    For ms. Fields – don't get me wrong I neither agree with you nor disagree with you I just think you're confused – you viewed this as a post on standards of beauty – it wasn't – the current established standards of beauty are hard to achieve yes, but as a caucasian woman it is inherently easier for you to achieve said standard of beauty ( it being based on caucasian women) than it is for other races – but and I will pull the race card out and throw it right across the table – it is hardest for a black woman or woman of majority African descent – to acheive said standard. What the post was about was the pressure placed on black women by this particular beauty standard that originated within their own community – the mere fact that the standard is internal means there is that much more pressure to attain it, and lacking it means that there is not just oh a cute flat ass black girl walking around instead she is viewed as having something inherently wrong with her, she can't be completely black if her ass is flat – there is something wrong with her. I have been asked on numerous occasions if I am mixed and what prompted the question was not my complexion or my hair texture or even my features ( which are according to phenotype etc. Etc. More white than black) but because I do not have a black ass – plain and simple.

    And to the idiot that posted about food, squats and lunges – no it doesn't necessarily contribute to the size and roundness of the ass – what determines the size and shape of the buttocks is the size and shape of the muscle within – full stop. You might be able to make it bigger but if it looks flat when it's small it'll still look flat when it's big.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/25/2011 at 9:09 PM

      Underrated Post Of The Day..

  29. imakesense

    01/25/2011 at 8:52 PM

    omg 119 comments?

    MzDebbieFields and her fake avatar is a hot mess!

    *edited to add* I am now aware she knows damn well that ain't her -_-

  30. law and order

    01/25/2011 at 9:12 PM

    Ummmm just a question, if Ms. Debbie Fields is so concerned with the objectification of ALL women, then why is she the only trick butt a*s naked in her pic??!! hahahahahahahaha

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/26/2011 at 1:48 AM

      Nah That's Not Her…She Stated In Another Thread It Was Just A Picture Of A Girl People Says Looks Like Her…

      • keisha brown

        01/28/2011 at 12:02 AM

        LAB…you are adorable.
        you think my avi is my juicy lip-glossed lips by accident???
        naw playa…if i google this chick im sure there are PLENTY of pics that show her FACE..

    • keisha brown

      01/28/2011 at 12:01 AM

      there arent enough exclamation marks in the world.
      *hugs law and order.

    • sean

      11/26/2011 at 9:22 PM

      y are hot my name joe

  31. imakesense

    01/25/2011 at 9:44 PM

    This issue is actually more serious than it seems.

    I'm not Carribbean, however I have had many friends inform me of a "chicken pill" or "fowl pill" used to thicken chicken up.

    Females were ingesting these pills to thicken up their bum and thighs. It works but eventually you start to gain weight ALL over.

    It was actually banned because women were dying from intenstine cancer complications due to the pill. People are still importing it from JA to Canada to this day.

    A thick booty or life? I think I'll choose the latter…

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      01/26/2011 at 1:49 AM

      I Think That's Why This Particular Blog Got So Many Comments…It's A Serious Issue That Effects Damn Near ALL Black Women

  32. Streetz

    01/26/2011 at 12:30 PM

    wow this post still goin…

  33. ebonyebony

    01/26/2011 at 7:08 PM

    That isnt even her. hmm. It's a damn shame you all wasted so much valuable time on this debbie garbage. Ya'll should have left that right where it was. SMH. Five seconds of typing that I can never get back. Sigh.

  34. Tasha

    01/26/2011 at 10:36 PM

    Can everyone STOP trying to explain things to Debbie Does Dallas…or whatever her name is…

    Obviously, she really wants to be a Black woman since she has tried to change a Black woman's issue into a woman's issue…to try and fit in. I will bet her and all white friends have children with Black men.

    PS – The blog addresses a BLACK woman's ass, so if you aren't BLACK you don't understand. If you are white and you agree with the blog, just say "I agree with this blog because as a white woman I feel some pressure to live up to certain expectations with my body too" and leave it at that!

  35. MistaHarsh

    01/27/2011 at 1:19 AM

    I like how Linc is sitting in the background eating popcorn watching this ish go down. 100+ posts of this wretchednes and you haven't said sheeeeit

  36. keisha brown

    01/28/2011 at 12:05 AM

    i got nothing to add (mostly because it's x amt of days later and its already BEEN said)…but i want to S/O IW, Max + Star for their insightful amazing commentary as per usual.
    i've never hit the thumbs up so many times in one post!

  37. ÉmpressGoddard

    02/08/2011 at 12:54 PM

    :s I’m sorry I’m only reading this now. Even though I have a booty I agree and appreciate this article because it opens up to a much bigger problem that we as a people have amongst ourselves. For black women it doesn’t start and end with our booty’s. We’re teased for not having “good hair”or long hair vs short hair, being dark skinned as opposed to light skinned, and yes if we have a booty or if we don’t, being “white-washed” for choosing to use ebonics or act in a way that’s not considered “black”. Its something I do agree goes back to slavery n not having a sense of what it really is to be a black male or female. A lack of racial identity and pride having not a clue about our true history and the extent of our accomplishments. But that’s another blog topic to come I’m sure.

    You irritate me. Numerous people have tried to break it down for you but you don’t seem to get it. This is NOT a blog about the struggles of white women and white men. This isnt a blog about black women vs white women. This blog is about black women and the things we struggle with amongst our own. This is not a “oh how white people did black people wrong” blog so I’m not sure what “race card” you’re talking about. It was clearly pointed out at the beginning that all women have issues within their own race, so you had your mention. The author of this blog touched on what he or she knows about; how a gender of their race(namingly black women) is objectified within their own community. Take a note from his book and make a blog speaking on what you know about because you clearly do NOT know anything about this seeing as you couldn’t possibly even get the simple message. Which is that as oppose to bringing each other down on things such as “whether or not she’s black enough based on the size of her behind.” although it wasn’t mentioned this issue is deeper than just being objectified by a man or even a black man. Because you’re not black, you don’t live it and will NOT understand it and shouldn’t ever pace your place to even form an opinion on it never mind publish it.

    Moving on, that being said we should be trying to uplift each other as a people. There has been years of other races and yes, especially white people telling us our black is not beautiful or if it is then only this shade and type is beautiful. We don’t need to be telling each other that we’re not beautiful. If we weren’t busy pulling each other down it wouldn’t matter what any other person of any other race had to say. Point being I can brush off someone of another race telling me I’m not beautiful but it hurts more n probably does a lot more damage hearing your own telling you “you’re not beautiful or black enough because…”

    We have a crab-in-the-bucket mentallity that hinders us from growing, progressing, and even loving and getting comfortable with ourselves.

    Thank you soo much for opening this up and giving people and most importantly other black people something to think about! <3

  38. ÉmpressGoddard

    02/08/2011 at 1:03 PM

    @ebonyeye & tasha wish I read yours first. Wrapped it up very nicely lol

  39. @TAARenaissance

    02/09/2011 at 1:19 PM

    I have a FB too…

  40. Uk

    02/10/2011 at 10:59 AM

    Here is a link to the pressures of not having a big ass.

  41. Jon

    03/06/2011 at 12:03 AM

    As a Young black Man, I appreciate everyblack woman. I am especially attracted to women with big asses. This attraction I am afraid is sometimes is just physical and nothing more. I can't see myself going any further with most big assed girls. Reason being, some Black Women with big asses act as though thats all that matters.They've let the ass overshadow them.

  42. poediddly

    03/24/2011 at 3:21 PM

    A girl with no ass gets no dick from me,srry miss..I gotta have at leats a little butt to smash like a jogger girl/atheltic booty at least,a prefer a nice big ass.

  43. b bro

    05/22/2011 at 2:38 PM

    Kam you said it all. On point. Nature giveth body and booty. But sometimes it just don't happen. Most everybody else just proving that nature's gift of the mind sometimes ain't just small but actuallycan taketh away as often as giveth. A white woman like Mz Fields (who knows anybody's real pic, and i don't care anyway) gives an opinion and we all defining what we say we try to disprove. Black community trying to isolate and struggle within about this that or the other definition of a black woman, booty size shape or how best to git it, why we wanna hit it tellin Mz Fields that white opinions aren't a part of the problem? Come again? Thank you Mz Fields however your booty look. For the dialogue even though you don't really understand the depth of the prob. But how is she supposed to? Kam ty for stickin to the issue. The rest is fluff.

  44. class of fitness

    06/14/2011 at 11:39 PM

    where did that image come from, i mean the white guy hands on the black women booty?

    • sassa piffesas

      07/26/2011 at 7:07 AM

      from colonial times obviously. there's this thingthat some white men still have that any black woman is "available". contemporary advertising just reinforces that. Economics comes into it, most black peopel are still poor, relatively speaking, so they can still be exploited by euopeans and increasingly chinese.

      i am sassa.

  45. 18daboo

    07/08/2011 at 4:30 PM

    Sometimes i do feel that my ideal as a black women was degraded/subtracted due to my lack of booty. I had a friend whos ass was off the chart, then there was me, lol. Ive had guys tell me that i wasnt a true black girl because i didnt have enough ass. :{ which is total wrongness. haha im trying to do some booty lifts now.

  46. Michael E McQueen

    07/16/2011 at 12:52 PM

    I think you are who you are from birth. accept what GOD gave you & move on with life. I see allot of white women with Much BIGGER asses then Black women. but I love my BIGGER female asses to be Chocolate so i prefer Black women. who started up this "Black Women Have Bigger Asses Then White Women" Shit?… how stupid. its on a individual basis. No matter what the color of the women is i PREFER my female asses to BE As LARGE as the women toting it around can get hers.

    • Donnelle

      12/06/2012 at 8:46 PM

      It is a well known fact that African descended women are naturally better endowed in the backside, hips and thighs then any other ethnicity. That is just the reality of it. I live in the Caribbean where it is the norm and for a black woman not to be so endowed is well….not applauded. There are exceptions to every rule. You may have seen some Caucasian women with wide hips and butt they are the exception, not the rule. Just as in the community of African people, the men love to see a full hipped women who gives the perception of being healthy and able to bear children well. It is just how it is. These are our African cultural expressions. To the African-American women who are the exception in the booty department, I say still love yourself because at the end of the day it does not matter.

  47. Black Devil

    10/13/2011 at 6:52 AM

    Niggers are scum. Even ur skulls haven’t evolved, and u represent z caveman that stayed in the oven too long

  48. michelle

    12/01/2011 at 1:19 PM

    I think the irish girl is half right and half wrong. I think that all woman have it hard on body images in thier own ways. Black woman are in a steryeo type were they all need to have big asses . That sucks for the black women who dont have big asses because they are treated diffrently and can be called names. Since all races of men have adopted to like big asses now white girls struggle because most dont have asses so they have to doo sooo much to try to accually get an ass to prove the steryeo type wrong and get attention from men that they have nice asses too..So both whites and blackes have it hard.

  49. Tanisha

    12/22/2011 at 7:59 PM

    As a young black teen who is thin, the pressure from other girls to have big butts is RIDICULOUS!!!! In my high school where the majority of students were black, the girls kept telling me that I had no butt, even the ones who were thinner than me and had NO CURVES to speak of !!! I do have a good size chest, not to big or too small, and they assume that my ass should be the same! However, according to my measurements I'm proportionate! Even my friend, who is bigger than me (almost 200 pounds) and doesn't have much of a butt, tries to say that she has a bigger butt than I do! The reality is that black women don't naturally have bigger butts! Our butts may be more lifted, but they are in no way bigger. And if it is in our DNA to have such big butts, WHY are so many black women getting booty implants and shots!!! We created this stereotype, we have to get rid of it!!! I've always said 80% of black women with big (I mean huge, not reasonable sized) has altered it in some way, wether it be artificially or with clothing!!! And the next time someone tells you that you don't have a big butt ask them : "why do you care, did u wanna have sex with me?" because that is the only reason black men like big butts, nothing else!!!!!

  50. guest

    01/05/2012 at 6:40 PM

    i am a black female and i love big black women with big asses and tits.does that make me gay?

  51. rudylipz

    02/06/2012 at 11:06 AM

    I got to add my two cents everyone had riveting comments .Miz independent t kudo ma……….. I am black and I live in A caribbean society that’s is booty prejudice been black and not sexy is a definite no no out here u have to have a drunk in the trunk trust Me you will walk on the street and it is there so if u batty flat Next……… Its simple as that Black woman are put under pressure countless of times to fit in some mold that is just always not possible White people will never understand even when u associate when them the stigma of racism will never disappear it will inherently be there it just depends on who u associate with……… In terms of the slavery comment why do you think there are so many mixed raced those slave masters were attracted to the curvaceous figures to begin with so debbie u need to check your history before u step on we may be black but we are not stupid the facts are there!!!!!!! Be aware before you talk about black issues because u will never know what its like to live in a society that Visual!!!!!!!!

  52. marshall

    02/19/2012 at 5:38 AM

    I think Debbie's comment kinda stems from intimidation. Black girls have something they are known for and even if it's detrimental to the black girls who don't have a big ass she still feel offended because it's another standard of beauty to add to pressure of all women including her. which gives her more body issues welcome to the cruel world Debbie. I also highly doubt the black girls running around in urban areas have any work done because I doubt most can afford it, so with that being said having a big ass isn't a big deal because it is so common.
    To have big ass, a pretty face, and big tits is much better. So the standard of beauty is high even for black girls Debbie. In fact not to have AT LEAST a big ass and be a black girl is the issue that they are talking about Debbie do you get it now? Black girls without at LEAST a big ass get treated like white girls with red hair like freaks of nature by all races of men. It's wrong but it's true and that is the issue they were addressing.

    • Mary

      06/04/2012 at 12:27 AM

      Here here to that….geeze and we're suppose to be the least intelligent???!!! So many post on Black cultural issues where it seems whites seek out to spew racist comments…next topic…white obession with Black topics…

  53. gabby

    07/17/2012 at 11:58 AM

    This is why I am open to dating mostly non black guys I have always been turned down by black guys. Being a skinny small booty black girl is tough

  54. ILoveMyBigBooty

    11/10/2012 at 9:13 PM

    I am a black woman with a big ass and it ALWAYS comes up at least twice a week in a conversation I shit you not. The men at work always flirt with me old and young black, white, asian etc. When I was younger I wanted to be white because all the pretty girls on TV were white. I went to a mostly white school when I was young for 2 years and was teased about my hair and big butt relentlessly and that destroyed my self confidence and worth. As I got older and much wiser and big booty became mainstream I thanked God for not answering my wish for shrinking my butt–not just because of mainstream but because by that time my confidence had skyrocketed by simply loving and accepting myself. I always seem to surprise people, even my own because I speak intelligently I'll speak slang too when I feel like–that's just me. I've had men tell me that they're glad I'm not just all ass and no brains. DUH I went to college for a reason. As a race we haven't done enough to study the psychological affects/effects that slavery had on us. Without going into a long story this is what I've learned. I will ALWAYS love my people because we come in so many shades–more than any other race. Embrace it. DO NOT be ashamed of your BIG or SMALL booty EMBRACE it there is someone out there for you and THEY DO NOT HAVE TO BE BLACK everyone has a preference and as long as they are NOT rooted in self hate more LOVE and LIFE to you and yours. Society wants us to be ashamed of being black period but me I'm actually glad and proud God made me a woman and a black one with a fat behind I would not have it any other way. I dont have much in the rack department but I have handfuls and that;s fine by me. We have NO idea how strong our black race is if we would just stop with the bullshit and truly love ourselves and each other and stood up for one another. No amount of money or racism would EVER divide us. We ARE powerful and it scares other races because when a black person does something EVERYBODY else wants to do it too. I LOVE MY BIG BOOTY and it does NOT define me but it definitely helps when you're looking–to find me lol. My favourite thing to do is shatter people's (lowered) expectations of me and my race and that's what we should all do. If they're gonna paint us all with the same brush I'm gonna be the one to paint over it with my own brush.

  55. Guesswho

    02/03/2013 at 5:25 PM

    Most women who are well endowed in that area are overweight. However, so many black women, including our own mothers, will not tell a teenaged black women who is endowed that she is also overweight. They do not want them to lose their 'figure', which often includes a big stomach and a fat face, for fear that they will lose the backside. In addition, some women who did not have a backside but ended up with an overweight daughter who happens to have one, encourage poor eating habits so that the daughter can 'keep' what the mother never had.

    When I was overweight, I had a 'backside' and I hated it. It wasn't necessarily my figure that I hated, but I knew that I was unhealthy and that was the reason for my 'big backside'. Now that I have lost weight, I no longer have a backside, but generally, I look better than before. Even, my face looks better thinner. Unfortunately, I had my own mother to tell me that I am 'supposed to have a woman's figure' and that I was 'flat'… I took it as a sign of jealousy, because the rest of the women in my family have a backside, but it comes with a big stomach and a never-ending appetite as well.

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