Dear Lesbians: There’s A Question I’ve Been Meaning To Ask You…

First, let me start off by saying I have nothing but love for any human being that can not resist the eloquent beauty, wondrous curves and just downright let-me-stick-my-tongue-in-your-mouth sexiness that women all over the world have, whether man OR woman. I support lesbians (though I will admit I like Bi girls a little better for obvious reasons) but I have always been puzzled as to why women turn to other women, who frankly, look like MEN.

Now I understand that this particular blog post might have a very quizzical gaze, but I do not mean to seem derisive or divisive, because this is an earnest question, so here goes: What exactly is the attraction of dating STUDS or DYKES that strongly resemble, act and carry themselves like men?

Now I can understand lesbian up to a point. For starters, I think this is what ALL men envision [and LOVE] when they think about the L-word:

Two beautiful, gorgeous and sexy Femmes who are SUCH dimepieces its HARD to fault them for NOT hooking up with one another, instead of some frowsy-richard dude. I get that they have the same attraction to the opposite sex that I do, and in my own mind I can comprehend the attraction.

Then, beyond that you get into another class of Lesbian, who fit the more stereotypical PGA-Golfer archetype of Gay women such as:

Rachel Maddow

And Ellen Degeneres

Both women I can see where another woman can find them very attractive and even boyishly-handsome in a sense. But  after that, we get into a part of the lesbian world that I simply can’t process: The Femme attraction to the overtly manly Dyke/Stud, such as:


And what’s even MORE interesting about the whole dynamic of Studs & Femmes, is the fact that some studs almost EXCLUSIVELY smash their girlfriend with a STRAP-ON. And Not just that plastic rocket, but the realistic dild0 with the veins and anatomically correct glans and texture. There are even studs who take TESTOSTERONE to help them lower their voice, and give them a more manly essence altogether.

When it comes to sexual attraction I believe to each his own, but in this case I would honestly like some real insight into that choice. I am honest enough to admit I have very little understanding of human attraction that does not fall in line with my own, so I would like some helpful insights.

So Lesbians, I ask you: When it comes to studs, how do you differentiate sexual attractiveness from a man, when the stud is flawlessly replicating a man? In other words, how do you choose to get it in with Snoop with a strap on, as opposed to just dating him?

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

3 Comments

  1. Rebecca

    08/08/2016 at 1:35 AM

    I am a lesbian and I utterly agree with you, I myself am a feminine girl who is only attracted to feminine girls because what is the point of me dating a female that disregards everything feminine and looks like a man? I might as well just date a man, am I right? I’ll never understand why some not all but some females date girls that look exactly like men and from what I’ve seen I think it’s only because they’re confused with their sexuality

  2. Tarzan

    10/04/2016 at 9:26 AM

    As a man, I always found studs confusing! Not cause they dress, act, and try to carry themselves like men. I’m more confused about their partner, the woman who is fem, likes wearing dresses, getting pedicures, manicures, etc. Why do they choose to date a stud if they like women?
    I get that once the clothes come off, she’s a female, but some studs be as built as a bodybuilder, making themselves as rock hard, muscular wise to a man. To me it just seems like she’s not fully comfortable being gay, its like openly hiding. On the surface my partner looks like a guy, but at home I know she’s a girl type thinking in my opinion

  3. Dream

    10/09/2016 at 2:40 AM

    A stud often has the masculine exterior with the perfect mix of feminine and masculine interior. They can be genuinely sweet like a female while protecting you like a male. It’s the best of both worlds. . Not saying men cannot be sweet but it’s harder to find. .The affection I get from my Stud has been unmatched by a man.

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