Women Who Can’t CUM During Sex – There May Be Hope For You [And Your Relationship]

There is a scourge that is slowly ruining relationships one small step at a time: The woman who can’t have g-spot orgasm during sex. Though it clearly is no fault of her own, studies suggest MANY women can’t bust a nut from straight sex with no clitoral stimulation, so the fact remains that many women out there are STRUGGLING through sex-orgasmless relationships. Why you ask? Because her man REFUSES to accept the fact that HE can’t make her cum from sex, and sex alone – but now he might actually have an answer to his problem.

I once wrote on this site that it would be VERY HARD for a man to enter into a serious relationship with a woman who can’t have orgasms through sex and I FIRMLY believe that to this day. Women may think it’s mean and harsh to say that, but what women need to realize is that the problem does NOT lie with you – it’s US. When a man starts to date a woman and finally gets the chance to get it in, and the sex is great, and he cums hard and he looks over at you and he KNOWS you didn’t bust, he will be overcome with a lot of feelings of inadequacy because men closely relate how well their woman’s nani is beat up to how good of a job he is doing in the relationship [as sad as you may think that is, that’s just the truth].

So the problem many men have with women who CAN’T have orgasms from straight penetration, is that instead of accepting that as a fact and exploring other ways she may cum [clitoral, anal, etc.], this dude decides that he’s gonna make it HIS MISSION to make her bust. Cum hard or die trying. And the fact is all that extra pumping, long-stroking, back-cracking and hard pounding is doing NOTHING but possibly giving dude a hernia, while she gets NO closer to that squirtastic orgasm, because this DUMB-ASS didn’t realize it wasn’t about how HARD or DEEP or LONG he was beating it up for, it’s just that she WON’T cum SOLELY from penetration. Period. When the dude finally gives up on Mission: Impossible, there’s a chance he won’t have that zest for the relationship anymore because sharing an orgasm is something EVERY man wants to do with his girl.

But that dude is no longer sh*t out of luck, because there is a technique he can use to TRY and make her cum, that many other penetration-orgasmless women have reported to have great success with:

The Coital Alignment Technique [aka CAT position]

Here’s how the Coital Alignment Technique works. He lies on top, his head resting on the mattress next to hers. She wraps her legs around him, her feet resting on his calves. Now, he rides up on her pelvis slightly, just enough so that the base of his erect penis pushes up against her clitoris. In effect, his penis “bows over her public bone,” Eichel says. The subtle, coordinated rocking movement can begin. Here’s the most important part: As she pushes up on the top of his shaft, he resists with less force than she pushes. Now, on the way back down, as he pushes down against her clitoris, she resists with less force than he pushes.

The result is a series of “small collisions,” rather than the standard friction of thrusting. But collisions is a strong word. The movement is subtle, coordinated, gentle, rhythmic, slow-building. This is more than a position; it’s a coordinated movement. We are now talking about vibration, not friction. Less in and out and more rock n’ roll.

The man is actually shallow when the woman is getting the most stimulation on the downward push. The Coital Alignment Technique looks a lot like the missionary position, but looks can deceive. “Riding high” is not the same as riding hard. She’ll enjoy constant clitoral stimulation and vibration on the nerve-rich area (urethral meatus, by the lower edge of her pelvic bone) just below the G-spot. He’ll enjoy the massaging action on his penis shaft, which stimulates the prostatic nerves, the counterpart to the G-spot.

They say the definition of frustration is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, so I say, to get something you’ve never had, you need to do something you’ve never done and unless you’ve tried and failed with the CAT position, I say give it a try – not now – but RIGHT now.

This Is Your Conscience

While you are cumming hard, here’s how you can help HIM have a better time too:

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

2 Comments

  1. Ikea

    12/01/2016 at 10:42 PM

    Hi I’m 19. And I don’t feel nothing.I don’t know if I’m nervous or what. But it don’t matter how big it is I just don’t get a feeling it’s almost like I’m just there while the guy assume the position. It’s like what’s the point of me having sex literally having sex????????
    I’m waiting my time

  2. D

    12/01/2016 at 11:57 PM

    I’m 23 & I know the feeling your describing! I suggest that you take a break from having sex . Take some time to learn your own body and figure out what gets you excited the most etc. When u get back to sex after understanding what gets u “there” , take the time to somewhat direct your partner and teach him how to please you . Hope this is somewhat
    helpful

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