You are borrowing a page right out of HER book...
One of the most ANNOYING, SELF-AGGRANDIZING & LOW-LIFE statements I’ve ever heard in my entire life as a member of the male species, is when some frowsy heffa approaches a man who she ASSUMES is interested in her, and proceeds to say some ignorant sh*t like “you know what, I’m not free this weekend so I think I can LET you come and take ME out.”
Now DON’T get this confused with women who were ALREADY asked out by a dude deciding to give said dude a chance at the date he originally requested – there’s obviously NOTHING wrong with that. What I take exception to particularly is the idea that, as a man, it should be my TOTAL, COMPLETE & SOLE pleasure to take her ass out on a date which is suppose to be a mutually-beneficial occasion.
She might as well say, “since your punk-ass is so desperate, I will give you the HONOUR of driving across town and burning off a quarter tank of expensive ass premium unleaded in your 8-cylinder truck so you can come pick ME up. And then I will give you the PLEASURE of paying for the steak I ordered, which my ass couldn’t even finish and was too damn wasteful to even get a damn doggy bag. Oh, and mostly I will give you the GLORY of a nice, wet, sloppy kiss on the cheek for the troubles, and never call your ass again unless my belly is empty.”
Well ain’t I the luckiest dude in town?
She ain't mining for natural gas..
And YES this DOES happen frequently as any single male can attest to. There are too many women these days making the out-of-pocket demand that men should take them out on dates, even though THEY floated the idea out there, and then making it HIS responsibility to foot the bill. I wouldn’t have a problem with that if we still living in a traditional patriarchal society where it’s women’s job to sit down and shut the f*^k up, but we live in a modern age where women have rights and independence. Demanding a man take you out is NOT chivalrous or traditional - it’s being a c*nt.
The classy move (or what a REAL independent woman would do) is realizing that by bringing up the date, she essentially is asking HIM out, at which point the assumption that HE’S paying and chauffeuring her ass around town is null and void. In fact, I subscribe to the theory that the person who REQUESTS the date, regardless of sex, is the person who should PAY. But how are YOU gonna request the date by demanding it, and then framing it like it’s just MY pleasure and MY bill? That’s the opposite of being independent – Question?!
This Is Your Conscience
44 Comments, Comment or Ping
lincolnanthonyblades
Gentlemen, Have You EVER Had A Woman Say Some Mess Like This To You? Does It Frustrate You When Women Act Like It's All YOUR Pleasure & Responsibility To Take Them Out?
Ladies, Do You See Anything Wrong With This Question? Is This Piece Taking A Simple Question Too Far?
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
We debated this a bit ago, yes I am with you… person who asked should be the one to pay. Anyway, I have had a few ask, but not many… Some have asked in a joking way, and that was cool. You know, like we bet on something and the loser had to take the other out, stuff like that. Honestly the last few times I dated they woman were racing me to see who gets the money out first to pay. The times when they actually requested… well hopefully they got someone to take them because it was not me.
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
But….. I deal with Mary Ann's not Gingers. Gingers are the ones that are looking to be a kept woman…
Nov 7th, 2011
KemaVA
Im a Ginger Ann… lol! Yes I will EXPECT you to take me out and pay but I dont look to be a kept woman.
Nov 7th, 2011
KemaVA
As long as there are men willing to do it… It is what it is. I guess we live in a society where I can have rights and independence AND a man willing to take me out. YAY!
Nov 7th, 2011
grandgryph
sigh. what ever happened to decency and principles? given that men generally have more advantages than women do, what if (more) men applied that predatory logic a took advantage of women at every turn? then some the same `it is what it is' women would be carping about `chivalry' this and `real men' that. it is a racket. on that show that behaviours we ascribe hormones and chromosomes are more power and status: `independent' women can be just as predatory, and `double standards' keeping as they say men are.
Nov 7th, 2011
BoomBam
A woman being 'independent' does not mean she does not deserve to be taken out. It has nothing to do with gold digging because we've already defined her as independent, so what is she digging for?
No wonder men have no qualms about women asking them out. The assumption is then that she should have to pay for that date.
Nov 7th, 2011
Paul Brown
To be honest, this idea of "equality" is a joke, plain and simple. What some want is superiority , not equality.
Nov 7th, 2011
grandgryph
and that's fine in my book, be superior queen divas empresses if that's what she needs to feel on a level.
but, why use the language of equality, social decency and rights to try to do so? that sort of cowardice is so unappealing.
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
It sure is.. Because I ain't even going to lie to you — I don't want to be treated as your equal, I want to be treated much better!! *lol*
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
I used to be a straight Ginger.. but I've learned in this 21st century dating game that I fair along way better being a Hybrid, I can be a Mary Ann at times dressed in Ginger getup when in the mood, but Ginger is still there because I do have conditions on as to when I would pay for a date.
Nov 7th, 2011
NurseJilly
I can't see myself ever being that forward. To assume that someone would want to take me out seems so arrogant to me. I would love to have the confidence to ask a guy out but I'm too shy for that too.
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
"Demanding a man take you out is NOT chivalrous or traditional – it’s being a c*nt."
I respectively agree, because I would never DEMAND a man to take me out but what I will do is SUGGEST we go here or there which seems to work without fail because if he wants to spend time with you he will do it.
Nov 7th, 2011
gtman811
Well, isnt that nice…suggestions………..and of course he will do it because its part of the game to get into that nani of yours.
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
Only if I let him….. *lol*
We know it's part of the game, that is why we like for you to pay.
Nov 7th, 2011
gtman811
You know what else gold digging women do, imply that you take them somewhere. I will drop that five dolla chick like a bag of s**t. She better have a magical nani, keep a conversation, be able to debate politics, talk about the meaning of life and more, much more for that.
Nov 7th, 2011
MistaHarsh
Here's the big question….If you're suggesting a date are you in essence asking ME out and therefore, by women's logic, expected to pay for ME?
Women always say the person who does the asking should do the paying. So what's the deal? If the answer is I'm not paying……*in his best Jeff Foxworthy's voice* she might be a gold digger
Nov 7th, 2011
J Howe
You can expect all you want… I became some what of a “I’m in the area dude”. When I am single and dating I would need another job to afford the bills, I just give them the “I’m in the area for whatever reason, come out and grab a icecream”… there they got a dollar out of me and we got to figure out if something was worth another date for… The one looking to be kept will be, I will keep your ass wondering why I never asked you out again, lol.
Nov 7th, 2011
J Howe
I feel what both of you are saying and I can appreciate that. I am not trying to come across as someone who will never drop a dime on a woman as that would be lying. I am just not one to do so when I get the feeling chick just dates habitually or is hungry at the moment…
Nov 7th, 2011
J Howe
Dqamn, what he say? lol
Nov 7th, 2011
J Howe
This is true, she has a right to be taken out… just not asking for it. And on that, I guess its HOW they ask. I have had a women jokingly say “so, your never gonna ask me out”… and I took it as nothing more then her letting me know she was interested. However, I have had the type… I want to go see _____, you should take me… Hell no.
Nov 7th, 2011
MistaHarsh
Back in the day I had a girl meet me in a neutral place(we both took public transportation) only to tell me she forgot her wallet "so you'll have to pay for pay……is that ok?"
Doesn't look like you gave me much of a choice does it trick?
I also had a girl tell me at the counter before purchasing the movie tickets that she doesn't have cash as her "modelling" job paid her by cheque and didn't have enough time to cash it before our date "if there was a place I could cash the cheque I would"
I bought 2 tickets for the later showing of the movie and walked that heffer to the nearest MoneyMart(which was about a 30min walk) and made her keep her word on principle.
Women are creative as hell with their non-direct gold digging ways
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
grab a ice cream??? who are you?? scarface!!
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
what the hell is a mary ann and ginger??
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
smh!! i hope you know you gotta work for that!
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
what point are you even arguing???
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
but you got the confidence to save lives everyday?? man up woman!!
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
exactly!!
Nov 7th, 2011
The_Mad_HATER
you shoulda bought yourself a ticket and bought her a two dollar magazine to read in the car until the movie was over!!
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
LOL, I don't get the Scarface reference… Kinda slow I guess. Anyway, when your dating, I mean date every night type dating im an average dude, don't got no bread to be treating everyone to dinner… At in that internet dating and all and maybe I just want an in person glance to know if wethe photos I saw were the up todate version or something from 05!
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
Oh yeah, it has not failed me yet… LOL
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
LOL, two chicks that use to come on a sho called Gilligans Island. One was the fancy girl, looked high maintenance… They other (Mary Ann) was the easy to please type, not fancy but still looked good…
Nov 7th, 2011
HerCommonSense
Lmao…watch Scarface again when him and Manny are talking about women! My ex got me onto that film.
Nov 7th, 2011
HerCommonSense
Thats what im wondering too!
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
No Problemos…
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
When I suggested, they still paid…. now there have been a couple of instances when I just said "Hey let's go bowling… MY TREAT" like i said before there are conditions in which I will pay for date (active outing i.e pool/bowling) but dinner/drinks I leave that to the man to pay for unless it's a special occasion (his birthday) then I grab the check.
Nov 7th, 2011
ChloeRayne516
It's not that hard to spot a chick who dates for meals…. You just have to look out for the signs.
If she only calls you when she wants to go out to dinner or time for you to open your wallet.. then yeah she's a habitual dater and she dates for drinks/meals..
Or if she is a one time dater (you only get 1 date with her and then she on to the next victim) then yeah she was just bored and hungry
Nov 7th, 2011
NurseJilly
I'm a pretty confident person in every other aspect of my life. When it comes to men I don't have that confidence. I don't know if its the fear of rejection or what but I have a really hard time approaching a man.
Saving lives is a hell of a lot easier than dating:)
Nov 7th, 2011
Jason Howe
Shit, just remembed… You a fool for coming at me with that reference, and HCS your a fool for remembering, but… Too funny. Since I am sitting in tow truck I needed that damn laugh…
Nov 7th, 2011
Kema
Hah! The funny thing is I dont remember! lol! but it wasnt harsh or anything
Nov 7th, 2011
Paul Brown
Co-sign
Nov 7th, 2011
Tasha
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
Nov 8th, 2011
mmmj
THIS!
everything about this is spot on. *insert high golf clap*
Nov 8th, 2011
lincolnanthonyblades
I Didn't Have Anything To Do With That Being Deleted..
Nov 8th, 2011
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