The HARSH Realities Of Dating A Dime Piece Over 30

Allow Me To Drop Some Science On Y’all About Sex And Dating When It Comes To A Sexy Woman In Her 30’s. And It’s Not A Pretty Scene…But It Has Nothing To Do With Her Body, How She Looks Or How She Performs In Bed. It’s Scary Because Of One Specific Fact: She Finally Knows Who The Hell She Really Is.

When You Date A Teenager, You Are More Dating A Fantasy Than An Actual Woman, Not YOUR Fantasy, But HER Fantasy. She Thinks She Is All-This & All-That, But She Don’t Know A DAMN Thing About Herself Yet.

When You Date A 20-Something, You Are More Dating Potential Than An Actual Woman, As She Is Beginning To Scrap The Fantasy (Wants To Be A Lawyer Instead Of A Veterinarian) And She Is Constantly Going Through So Much Personal BS, She Is Quickly Discovering Things About Herself She Never Knew.

When You Date A 30-Year Old, You Are Dating A Jaded, Cold-Hearted Assassin Of Hopes & Dreams Who Will Get With You For Completely Logical And Thought Out Reasons. That’s Scary Because Teenager And 20-Something Were So Damn Emotional You Don’t Know How To React To 30-Year Old. But I Will Tell You This, Beware Of Dating And Falling In Love With 30-Year Old Because She Has Chosen You For Reasons You Will NEVER Know (Until Maybe Your Divorce).

A 30-Year Old Woman Does Not Operate On The Same SCALE That Other Women Operate On. She Doesn’t See The Difference Between A 1 And A 10 Based On How His Six Pack Looks, Or The Fact He Can Sing Or How Wavy His Hair Is. To Her A 10 Is A Man Who Is Accomplished, Successful, Good-Hearted & Independent, And His Physical Looks Have Almost NOTHING To Do With It At That Point Which We Are Not Use To. There Are Some SEXY 30-Year Old Women Out There That Are Gonna Start Coming On To You, And Unfortunately You’re Gonna Think It’s Because Your Punk Ass Actually DID Lose Some Weight After The 7 Sit-Ups You Did Last Week. NOPE.

If You Are Dating A Dime Piece Over 30 I Got Two Words For You: Prenuptial Agreement.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

19 Comments

  1. Gulaz the Gurundoro

    04/05/2010 at 5:33 AM

    Never have I read such an 'on-point' but candid description of 30 year old dime pieces. I have met and dealt with my fair share and boy is this true. Good thing bout it though, is that they have a weakness. Unfortunately i will not divulge, lest my bros that are in the game get sucker-punched.

    But this is classic…

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:10 PM

      You should divulge the info? Inquiring minds…

  2. Denise Azeez

    04/05/2010 at 8:31 AM

    LOL!! Linc…love the way your mind works! Damn, I'm over 30…got to get out there before all the men read this and you ruin it for me!! But you are on point with this one….I must admit!! Great job!

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:11 PM

      Haha you must have men in the palm of your hands

  3. shaun

    06/13/2010 at 4:27 PM

    You MAY have a point Linc. But why can't the 30 yr old be looking for stability and financial security? What's wrong with that? And why must the marriage end in divorce? What the hell is wrong with a man who is well-paid? Name one woman who is in her thirties looking to settle down with a financially immature dude. I don't know Linc, it's not as cut and dry as you make it seem.

    • Gordan

      11/08/2011 at 6:30 AM

      Buddy, read it again please. SMH

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:11 PM

      I think you may have confused the overall point he was making.

  4. lincolnanthonyblades

    11/08/2011 at 4:37 AM

    Ladies & Gentlemen, DO You Agree With This Post? Are Men Over 30 The Same Damn Way?

  5. BADDEST

    11/08/2011 at 8:39 AM

    ' When You Date A 30-Year Old, You Are Dating A Jaded, Cold-Hearted Assassin Of Hopes & Dreams Who Will Get With You For Completely Logical And Thought Out Reasons '
    LOL!…..Funny to me because its so damn true!! (*screws in her silencer)
    The only thing I would like to add is men dont need to despair about it…. we appear driven and slightly harsh on the surface but deep inside every jaded assasin of hopes and dreams lies a soft hearted, emotional teen who is dying to believe that romance still exists somewhere

    • Crystal Promo-Fernandez

      11/08/2011 at 4:05 PM

      Good point!

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:12 PM

      So you believe the description accurately fits you?

  6. MistaHarsh

    11/08/2011 at 1:03 PM

    30 year old women on the scene are veterans. Compare it to sports. They don't show up for practice and expect to start because they've mastered the mental game of dating. The physical nature may not be their strengths and it doesn't have to be. Getting mind facked is more powerful that anything a healthy fresh 20 year old can provide.

    But you are a little vague on why it would end in divorce or why it would even end up in a marriage to begin with. Nowadays people are waiting until their 30s to settle down anyways – I wouldn't consider these people as "jaded", not in these times.

    • MzDebbieFields

      11/08/2011 at 3:57 PM

      Last sentence = #TRUTH

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:12 PM

      "Getting mind facked is more powerful that anything a healthy fresh 20 year old can provide. "

      The unfortunate truth for older men as well…

  7. BADDEST

    11/08/2011 at 3:05 PM

    i interpreted him as meaning that when dealing with a 30yr old, 'pro' level ( as you alluded to) ,dime piece, who knows what she wants ….there aint much a man can use as amo against it….if she want to marry she will, if she wants to divorce …she will…..he will be esstentially at her mercy…….she'll have and take what she needs from the relationship soley based on her previous negative experiences and jaded heart…also, she will be more ruthless than other women because shes 'been there done that, had her heart broken'………..i may be wrong but thats how i read it

    • HerCommonSense

      11/08/2011 at 4:13 PM

      I agree with most of that.

    • MistaHarsh

      11/08/2011 at 8:06 PM

      I'm not sure this applies to women in the 30s anymore. Maybe divorced women or single women in their 30s with kids.

      There's nothing wrong with a woman that knows what she wants. For a mature man thats all we want. All cards on the table. I find that older women tell you exactly how they feel but the man doesn't want to hear all that because he's still immature enough to believe in wishful thinking.

  8. Crystal Promo-Fernandez

    11/08/2011 at 4:04 PM

    "When You Date A 30-Year Old, You Are Dating A Jaded, Cold-Hearted Assassin Of Hopes & Dreams Who Will Get With You For Completely Logical And Thought Out Reasons. That’s Scary Because Teenager And 20-Something Were So Damn Emotional You Don’t Know How To React To 30-Year Old."

    YOU BETTA PREACH!! LMAO

  9. HerCommonSense

    11/08/2011 at 4:13 PM

    Good piece but that's a lot of our womanly secrets out in the open now! lol

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