I have a lot of friends who are still firmly entrenched in the nightclub/lounge/house party life, and they ain’t givin’ it up for a LONG time, and honestly, nothing is wrong with that. What I HATE though, is having the SAME tired ass conversations with my boys after they decided to spend ANOTHER frowsy night in some stank club. Essentially the routine they go through is this: They party hop until the find the event with the most amount of beautiful women; Then they stare at these beautiful women for most of the night and MAYBE get one dance if they’re lucky; They wait ’til the party is over and get rejected by a parade of dimes – only to retort either a) “So wha? Yuh tink yuh bloodclaat sh*t can mek fry dumpling!” or b) “B*tch! Ain’t nobody finna go home with a b*tch that look like Danny Glover in Lethal Weapon 3 you funky-h0e!” Dudes, we GOT to do a LOT better than this.
The first mistake MOST dudes make is even trying to holla at a DIME in a nightclub in the first place. Unless you are ballin outta control, famous at the most or a local celebrity at the least, or you are HOSTING the event, you need to understand that the setting you’re in has STACKED the odds against you two-fold because the CLUB is the most superficial atmosphere you could EVER meet someone in. Everyone is up in there overspending, acting like something they’re not, and letting loose balls gas their heads up WAY past their actual “dating net-worth.” The club is not the place for a real connection, so why are you getting REALLY mad when she doesn’t wanna connect with YOU?
So dudes, I’m here to help you out so you won’t have to spazz on another woman and call her a frowsy-skeezer because she didn’t want to give you her number, pin, email or even area code.
First, if your intent is to meet a woman at the club, please drop the Ralph Tresvant level of sensitivity and get your “Hit & Run” mentality on. For the record, I don’t promote trying to run through chicks like a subway turnstile [chlamydia and a baby mama is NOT what's hot in the streets] BUT the reality is a lot of dudes wanna have fun before they are married which is fine. But if you want long term potential, the club is NOT the place to be. If you can’t switch out of the Dave Hollister “One Woman Man” mindset where you see a DIME, lock your radar onto her for the whole night and pin ALL your hopes on taking that ONE woman home, then keep your ass OUT the club. Trust me, the second she plays you because you tried to ask her to lunch at Dairy Queen to share a large Blizzard, you gonna be sitting in the back of your boys Jeep on the way home like:
When you should have hit her with some superficial wannabe-player sh*t like “Ey shawty, bet you ain’t never seen a ninja do nuthin like DIS!”
Second, DON’T approach her with lines and you will NEVER have to cuss a woman out EVER again. I PROMISE YOU. All you simply have to do is casually engage her in conversation. Back in my club days, I would walk up to the prettiest girl in the club and ask her to settle an argument for me, then I would make up fictitious yet intriguing scenario happening at the event I’m at, then ask her what HER opinion is (since dimes generally like to hear themselves talk) such as “Excuse me, I need your help for just a quick second because I’m trying to settle an argument with my homegirl over there. See that drunk 300 pound asian girl trying to drop down and get her eagle on – that Chanel dress is a damn knock off ain’t it?” She will then be engaged and conversation can flow naturally from there if you have ANY game or sense of humour.
If you come at her disrespectful, expect to get your ass thoroughly cussed back nowadays because dimes get hollered at and subsequently CUSSED, ALL NIGHT LONG, and you REALLY don’t wanna be the dude that pushes ol’ girl over the edge, especially when just after she got cussed out the previous time, she was standing by the bar, holding her drink with a mean mug thinking:
Finally, just be the personable version of yourself, stay calm and remember that no matter HOW fine she is, she has a nerdy, nervous, geeky side that she is trying to cover up just as bad as YOU are.
This Is Your Conscience
102 Comments, Comment or Ping
lincolnanthonyblades
Ladies & Gentlemen, Do You Think Someone Can Actually Make A REAL Substantive Connection At A Nightclub Or Is It Really Just Good For A One-Night Stand & Meeting A F*^K-Buddy?
What Are Some Of Your PERSONAL Experiences?
Feb 1st, 2012
Lady Ngo
I've never really understood that whole mentality of not being able to meet a good man/woman at the club. Did i become a scallywag the minute i put on my heels and decided to go out? If you're a loser, you're a loser whether i met you at the club or in the grocery store. If you're a Rhodes Scholar, you're still a Rhodes scholar whether i met you at the Boom-Boom Room or at a MENSA meeting.
sidenote: the term "frowsy" has made its way into my regular vocab because of this blog lol
Feb 1st, 2012
Renee
The night club in my opinion is the worse place to try to make a connection. I find it hard to believe that I guy that jumps from one girl to another collecting pins throughout the night is marriage material. My friend met her "boyfriend" in the club, and they've reached year 2 and she's never met his family, gone to his house, and she doesn't hear from him on a weekly basis (So I'm led to believe that there's definitely something fishy going on). I think the club is just a place to have fun-maybe meet people that you could develop friendships with, but I don't think you should put your faith into meeting "the one" at "When Dance Did Nice Volume 78"
Feb 1st, 2012
ChloeRayne516
I never understood that “you can’t meet a good potential BF/GF in da club” mentality.. I met my ex-hubby in the club and we were married for over a decade before we split up. I feel if you are a good person with morals/values no 2 stepping in the club is going to change that. Just because you met someone in a club type/party environment does not a heaux/player/pimp make.
#thatisall.
Feb 1st, 2012
grandgryph
you can meet good people at the club, but you are going to find a higher concentration of people of substance at the library, church, the grocery store, a hobby oriented group that isn't salsa class or going to and from work.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
One of my friends got married to a guy who chopped her in a club. And I also had a relationship for almost 2 yrs with a guy I met in a club. I wouldn't say it's the worst spot to meet someone. Sometimes, you happen to run into someone who isn't always about going to a club but you and him both happened be in that mood of wanting go out. Maybe you both got out of a relationship, maybe work has eased up a bit , maybe they are going through something and their friends are dragging them out.
I know I'm a good woman and I still go to a club here and there (for friend's birthday's, certain themed party nights, etc), so I don't label everyone there as always on the prowl for finding some azz. But than there are the fools. The guys who don't get much play, incredibly socially awkward who come over and start yelling in your ear over the music. That is one thing I can't stand. Not only are they yelling in your ear, but usually their breath is not up to par as they've been smoking or drinking. Pop a breath mint if you are gonna holla…just sayin.
Great Post Linc!
G
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
"If you're a loser, you're a loser whether i met you at the club or in the grocery store. If you're a Rhodes Scholar, you're still a Rhodes scholar whether i met you at the Boom-Boom Room or at a MENSA meeting. "
I agree. I've met some men who have approached me in the grocery story with the worst lines than some at a club. If you are a good person, it will shine wherever you are, b/c real recognize real. Sometimes it really is just about the approach.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
Dang! 2 years and didn't meet his family or go to his house? Doesn't see him on a weekly basis? Yikes!!!
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
ChloeRayne – CO SIGN!
Feb 1st, 2012
Kam
I've heard if you think your shit mek patty but never the fry dumplin one…. Well I agree guys need to cool it with the aggressive butt hurt responses if a girl doesn't want to dance, talk just move on.
Also be careful how you approach and what you first say to a girl b/c that can just turn her off… I had a guy tell me in the club one time that the black girls in Toronto have attitude when I responded to him with class and said no not all of us and that there are nice ones he realized he messed up and kept following me te entire night …
Thats another thing don't stalk a girl in the club that's creepy they notice and that's also why they might turn you down.
Feb 1st, 2012
Adrian
Good people can be met at the club, but Linc was saying that's it's more difficult to make connections with those good people at the club, which I completely agree with. You can't carry a convo over the loud music, plus the girls have their defenses up to the maximum because they've been hollared at all night when they 'just wanna dance and party with their girlfriends'. Add to the equation the fact that "everyone is up in there overspending, acting like something they’re not, and letting loose balls gas their heads up WAY past their actual dating net-worth", and you can see why the store, library or hobby group is a much better option.
Feb 1st, 2012
sonicmel
Wow! stumbled onto your blog doing a google search.
Love it!
Drop my two cents later! (have to study)
Feb 1st, 2012
BoomBam
That says more about your friend and what she allows to happen than meeting people in clubs. She could have met him at the library as he paid his fines and still not have met his family.
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Thanks for posting sonicmel!
I would Really Love To Hear Your Thoughts
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Real Friggin' Talk
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
The Don't Stalk Thing Is A Mutual Lesson That Women Need To Hear Too
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
I Think Love Can Be Found Anywhere Technically, But The Reality Is The Club Is NOT Conducive To Substantive Connections…
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Co-Sign
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
I agree. There are times I do want to just dance and I must admit my guard is up when a guy tries to holla at the club. It's not impossible to meet someone substantial…but especially nowadays, it is harder.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
Nothing is worse than dancing and seeing that one guy's eyes following you everywhere you turn. Some don't even have the decency to PRETEND like they aren't staring. I remember at one ol' skool party I went to and this guy was dancing SO HARD to Michael Jackson' s "Don't Stop Til You Get Enough" with his big bulging eyes wide open and not blinking…staring straight at me. Not smiling at all. Just staring and flailing around on the dance floor. Very scary indeed.
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Real Talk!
Feb 1st, 2012
BoomBam
Truth! And lol @ salsa class.
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
And The Women Who Give Their PINS Out To A Million Dudes Throughout The Night To The Point That When You Hit Them Up They're Like, "Wait….Who Are You Again??"
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
if you've just met someone..stalking is not aloud…and its scary especially to females
I try to tell my dudes this but they ain't hearing it. *smh*
Feb 1st, 2012
Derrick
"I would Really Love To Hear Your Thoughts "
and you moan lol
Feb 1st, 2012
BoomBam
"Here, scan my PIN barcode". LOL. Guess an ongoing text relationship can exist without committing to the phone. The new age MSN address exchange.
Feb 1st, 2012
Tudor
"Wait….Who Are You Again??"
the amount of times I've heard that!!!
Feb 1st, 2012
MistaHarsh
I disagree too. The worst mistake I ever made at clubs is talk to women about school. No girl wants to hear a man say "so I heard McGill is a tough school how were your exams?….."
It ain't about who you are as much as it is what you present. In such a short time period and with the influence of drugs you can succeed in making someone believe you are who they want you to be for the night….And as a young man that's all I wanted –>> the night….
Feb 1st, 2012
Concrete_Rose
This post had me laughing soooo hard!!! But i do think it's possible to meet people in a club. (as i did my ex) Wherever ppl meet and form an attraction it is typically first based off of physical attraction and chemistry. As in anywhere you go, you never truly know someone. If the person was just looking to Take you home for he might that will be his intention wherever you go. There's no place that weeds that out. But if attraction is there and they conduct themselves right after, their winning!
As for the lines I've heard in the club. Geeze Louise I've heardddd soo much! From strAngers descriptively tellig me how they want to lick me up like that's going to work. Nope! From poetry, (which worked once-cause he was flustered, but it was genuine and corny but cute) i've heard some pretty harsh insults which I never understand cause its like you're here trying to talk to me! To writing on your phone what you want to say bc it's obviously too loud and you're trying to get deep LAME! And a lot of ridiculous and funny stuff! I'll eentertain most of this but come at me disrespectfully or smelling, Goodnight!
Feb 1st, 2012
Concrete_Rose
Hahaha don't you hate when you're at lets say a lounge and you've recognized who was going to be the stalker of the night. But the place is too small to truly get away from him. Or when the person asked you to dance once and you decline, but it's as if he didn't hear you and tries another 5 times!
Feb 1st, 2012
Concrete_Rose
Hahaha yup. My friend told me this girl waited for him outside the bathroom this one time when he was trying to get away from her
Feb 1st, 2012
Concrete_Rose
Strip club
Funerals
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
I like to meet new people no matter where I am, however, clubs have never been a place for a love interest…..at least not for me. I'm sure that there are plenty of nice people going out to have a good time (me included!) but 9 times out of 10 men who approach are only interested in going home with you (or you going home with them).
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
I Disagree WIth Strip Clubs Because The Strippers And The Patrons Are Both On The Same Level Of Depravity & Morality…It's A Match Made In Frowsy-Heaven
I Disagree With Funerals, Because Emotional Bonding Is Actually A Great Way To Make A Real Connection
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Real Talk Tho…We Haven't Even Begun To Really Touch On The Intoxication Factor
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
I'm Not Sure Why More Women Don't Use The "Talkative Dingbat Routine"..Makes Dudes Flee Everytime
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Hysterical! LoL
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
I'm Noticing A Lot Of Women Saying "It's Possible To Meet Someone At A Night Club…I Met My EX There"
Maybe That's Why He's An EX
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Poetry In The Club?? What Kinda Terrence Howard Shit Is That??
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
If it was a 2 month relationship then ok, I can agree with that theory. But if the couple met at the club and dated for years then parted ways, then no
Feb 1st, 2012
Whahapn
In my experience it aint the dime chicks that get attitude on ya, it's more likely to be the frumped out wannabe dimes who take shit way too seriously. lmao
The dime chicks are more up for it. I guess they know how to handle male attention better because they're used to it, and they're used to men who know how to handle female attention so they don't mind giving you theirs. So it all happens much more smoothly with them.
Like they say game recognizes game. LMAO!
Whereas wannabe dime's awkwardness and fake playa's awkwardness, leads to a clash of awkwardness which can cause all kinds of misunderstandings that end in hurt feelings.
chuckles.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
I agree Funerals. I was at my friend's son's funeral and having the guys trying to flirt was just plain out creepy. It's one thing if you are having a conversation and emotionally bonding, and it's another when they are flat out trying to hit on you with lames lines like "Yoooo…what are guys saying after this?" with a creepy up and down stare.
Feb 1st, 2012
MistaHarsh
if you've just met someone…
explain further please?
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
HAHAHAHA Oh yes, the infamous guy who will keep dancing even when you''ve stopped and walked away. Waiting outside the bathroom is even worse.
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
cause when you are at a club, you are not going to sit there and continuously yell over the music to scare a man off. I don't need laryngitis on top of my hang over, please and thank you!
Feb 1st, 2012
ChloeRayne516
Hmmmm,
I'm kind of on the fence with this right here though being this is the new age of Techno Dating and all. So what if a guy or girl gets mutlitple numbers during that night? — think of it like when you are dating- are you not dating more than 1 woman to see which one you are most compatible with?? So basically they are accepting (bbm pins/ cell numbers/fb names) potential dates to fill that slot for a future GF or BF if things go well and they find that they are compatible.
I see nothing wrong with it.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
Nah…you can't say that. I was with my guy for two years. Was at his mother's wedding, met his daughter, met his friends and fell in love. In the end it didn't work, but it didn't have to do with the fact that I met him at a club. And than there are guys who i've met through ACTUAL SO-CALLED FRIENDS where you think it would be "safe" but truthfully…NOT! I have to say Funerals is the worst place to go with INTENTION of picking up women. If it happens, than it happens…but don't go chopping when people are grieving. This isn't the movie "Wedding Crashers" where that tactic worked at funerals for that one lame-o character Will Ferrell played.
Feb 1st, 2012
ChloeRayne516
I only laughing because…………..
eff you linc.
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
Ya but Lincoln…are YOU personally wearing a FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT attitude? I never saw you that way at events. Not EVERYONE in the club is on that tip. Sometimes you are promoter (like yourself), or there for a friend's birthday, or just needed a night out to listen to some good music. I dont' think it's ALWAYS crawling with grimey men trying to lie to women about status.
I see what you are saying… b/c LOTS of people are there with whack intentions, but sometimes you do find some gems. It's not a write-off.
Feb 1st, 2012
ChloeRayne516
Exactly. Thank You Vicky.
Feb 1st, 2012
ChloeRayne516
#Logic
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
My experience is a little different. I met my ex in a club but we were both working so I don’t think a lot of what others were saying applies. I will say that working in the club industry can destroy relationships. The constant groupies offering themselves up on a silver platter just to get a hookup @ the door can be too alluring for some men to pass up and whether they cheat or not it swells their head a bit too much and that’s a problem….
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
I can't imagine a woman doing that kind of creepy shit. SAD
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
I actually like the fact that you don't have to exchange numbers right off the bat. It alleviates the stalker act…..you know, ringing down your phone. Best part, delete and ignore future invitations. I <3 my BBM!
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
I exchanged numbers with a guy I met @ a party my girlfriend was throwing a few months ago later on in the night I saw him making out with a wasted drunk girl. Can we say TURN OFF!!! 1st of all I can't stand to see women looking all sloppy and out of control. Second any man who finds that shit attractive is not for me… When he text me a few days later I politely told him I wasn't interested.
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
'just wanna dance and party with their girlfriends'… So true!
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
Wow! Reminds me of this one time I had met this guy at a club one weekend. Was not interested but I was polite (and NO that's not a nice way of saying I was using him….hell, I didn't even allow him to buy me a drink). He was a RASH!!! Followed me everywhere like a lost puppy until I gave him a number….so I did, just not mine! Anyways, the following weekend, round up the girls – PARTY. Another club, different area and guess who I see *facepalm* I was McGuyver that night – avoiding him by ANY means!
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
That's exactly what went through my mind when I read above!! Wedding Crashers
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
Agreed! An ex of mine became a promoter during college for extra money, and that was the beginning of the end…….
Feb 1st, 2012
msjordan11
@ Mista Harsh…sayin' I shoulda striked a posed, opened up my eyes big too and started voguein' and ting eeeeh? Next time…trust me,I will next time lol
Feb 1st, 2012
Adrian
Real talk, I've been stalked by girls on a few occasions and it's annoying as hell, especially if I'm not attracted to her. One time, I had a cute one following me, I let it slide, blamed her actions on the alcohol,… I had to allow it, she was really cute
Feb 1st, 2012
MistaHarsh
I met an ex in the most ratchet clubs in the east end and we lasted a year and change. But she's still an Ex so you might have a point… The way I looked at it was if I know I'm a good dude and I find myself in this seedy atmosphere how can I judge her.
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
If you get the digits at the club, grocery store, wherever it may be stalking is not aloud at all! The guy doesn't know the girl and vice-verse so it will damn sure creep them out even though you might want to it's not a good look.
Now if you know the person very well I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I would take it as a form of flattery but then again everyone's different. Just me I guess.
Feb 1st, 2012
sonicmel
I personally don't give out my number to guys at clubs. I just go with my girls to party and act a fool WITH MY GIRLS! (we always make sure there's at least one DD)
But guys do approach and try to talk. Honestly, it's all about looks for me. A guy can have a smooth talking game but if the looks aren't there, I ain't giving the PIN much less the number. Gotta know your worth
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
My Point Is, The Best Time To Meet The Real Me Is Not Inside A Nightclub, It Would Be Virtually Anywhere Else…I've Met Girls In Nightclubs Who Got Mad At Me When We First Talked Because I Wasn't The Wildly Hype, Energetic Guy I Was That Night…Like "Bitch I Was Drunk And Second Hand High!"
Feb 1st, 2012
Andy
lol
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
That's Not How I Prefer To Meet A Woman…I Don't Want To Re-meet You Another Night And That's Why So Many Dudes Get Numbers And Never Call Again…It's Too Much Work To Battle Through The Other Dudes Who Trying To Hit Just From THAT Night Alone That She Gave Her Pin Too..
Chances Are She Ain't Worth All The Effort Anyways..
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
That's Actually Really Gross
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
"Waiting outside the bathroom is even worse. "
*slowly raises hand* #guilty
Feb 1st, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
It Actually Took Me A Minute To Realize By DD You Meant Designated Driver And Not A Large Breasted Woman..>Clearly My Mind Is In The Gutter..
Props On Keeping It HONEST
Feb 1st, 2012
ddddd
im afraid to not give out my number at a club or bana especially when im with all girls…. @_@..ive been assaulted…. and almost ran over by the band truck……
i go to clubs to celebrate an occasion and have fun with my friends… but then im always stalked and harassed. and especially since im tiny… 5'3… its even worse. its like guys now a days cant hear 'no' or 'i have a bf no thanks'….. so i have not gone back to a club in a while.. gives me anxiety unless im with guy friends who can defend me……
as for finding a s/o in the club…. highly unlikely…. maj of guys askin for numbers ask for million others….. or have some kind of hyper-ego/confidence defect. in my opinion…. adamant guys freak me out rather than impress me anyways.. so maybe its just my own bias.
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
on the real though. might lose my man card for saying this but men are dogs. Real Talk.
I actually had to get rid of a few of them I used to be around for the simple fact I thought they were going to commit a crime. The things these guys talk about is actually a little disturbing.
Once I had my son I decided it was best not to be in that environment. They're probably in jail for rape by now
Feb 1st, 2012
Randy
lol
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
Right!! So tell me how I was labeled a stuck up snob for hating on the guy for "getting his"… (not my words)
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
LMAO @*slowly raises hand* #guilty
HILARIOUS!!
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
Thats actually a good idea. I'm gonna try the crazy look the next time and see how fast they run away. haha
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
I hate that you've been made to feel scared when you're just trying to have a good time. I worked in the club scene for a long time so I always know people everywhere I go. I like it that way because it makes me feel safe. Ask me that gain after this weekend… I'm @ a conference in Baltimore and some of the local girls are taking me out tomorrow night. Can't say I'm not a little nervous. I've been harassed since I left the airport.
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
I should make it clear I don't WAIT outside the bathroom but I lounge in the vicinity.
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
No, not my preferred method but you never know unless you try?
As for the rest, it doesn't mean she did anything but either reconnect with someone she hasn't seen in years, maybe she was keeping her options open, or perhaps she had one too many that night because she was celebrating something or simply networking. I've done that, exchanged PIN's with people inebriated, keeping my options opened, or there was a possibility for a business opportunity. Mind you, I did delete those within a few messages as they proved to be who just wanted the goods.
IMO, just cause I gave my PIN to someone else is not an excuse to try to get to know me or jump to that conclusion that I'm not worth your efforts (not personally directing to you, just saying)
Feb 1st, 2012
Vicky
I'm speechless (which doesn't happen often). I'm sorry to hear you had to have gone through something like that! No woman should ever have to experience any form of assault.
Boys…..*smh*
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
You should check out Gentlemens Gold if you're going with a few lady friends lol
I used to dance there before I moved to the West.
Feb 1st, 2012
sonicmel
Hearing this really pisses me off!
Feb 1st, 2012
sonicmel
I've seen that situation far too often. Some guys are just frowsy! (already using it lol)
Feb 1st, 2012
Janet
I blame the guy more than the girl. The girl was in the wrong because she allowed herself to be so intoxicated to be put in a vulnerable position. The guy (intoxicated or not) saw that the girl was defenseless and took advantage.
I can't stand guys like that.
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
The concierge @ my hotel actually recommended that place too. I've only been to a male strip club once and didn't enjoy it. I don't mind going for a bit if the other ladies wanna go but I need somewhere I can dance. Any suggestions?? I've heard good things about the 13th floor.
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
I hear you Janet, the guy was a douche bag . I think I just expect men to take advantage of the situation so to be honest it's up to women to carry themselves in a way that doesn't allow this. Its sad that it has to be that way but unfortunately thats the reality.
Feb 1st, 2012
NurseJilly
Exactly!!
Feb 1st, 2012
Concrete_Rose
It was super silly nothing deep, but he said he wanted to get my attention and do something different than other ways I might be approached! But hey humor/charm + looks, I'll vibe with that
Feb 1st, 2012
geturfundageup
Yeah it's a good spot but really only on Friday or Saturday.
The spot to be on Thursday is Dubai!
I'm bias though, my cousin is the bouncer there and he's best friends with the owner. I always get V.I.P. treatment
Feb 1st, 2012
Paul B.
Trying to meet somebody at the club is like driving with just your feet; it's possible to do, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea or should be done as a rule either. The environment itself, from the people being pretentious and fake, or extremely ratchet, to the copious amounts of alcohol, to the kind of music being played isn't conducive to building anything of substance, as a rule. I don't knock anybody that does meet somebody at the club and it leads to something real, but that is more likely an exception than the rule.
Then again, it could be just me. I know where I tend to be most comfortable and where I do my best work, and the clubs never were it for me. Lol
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
LoL..I Remember Them Damn MSN Days…They Were The Shit!
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Now You're Officially Part Of The Crew LoL
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Naw Hating Would Be Saying He Shouldn't Have Did What He Did So He Could Be With YOU…All You DId Was Simply State Your Body & Mind Deserves Better
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
Cute Chicks Get A Pass
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
OH SNAP! (At Least The Man's Honest!)
Feb 2nd, 2012
lincolnanthonyblades
LoL I Feel You Paul
Feb 2nd, 2012
Angela
I once had a guy come up to me and tell me "I love you" while I had a man. Like GTFOH! I was trying to enjoy my drink and this Ninja's trying to ruin my fun.
Feb 2nd, 2012
sonicmel
I love them too lol
Feb 2nd, 2012
sonicmel
I couldn't even imagine
Feb 2nd, 2012
sonicmel
*dead*
Feb 2nd, 2012
geturfundageup
Drop that knowledge!
Feb 2nd, 2012
Mike
So many better spots to talk to the ladies. That's what college was for lol
Feb 2nd, 2012
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