I believe deep down in all of us as human beings we have a need, not just to be love and be loved, but to have our bodies explored, caressed and ravished physically and intimately. Take a second and look at the people around you [your workplace, school, gym, etc.] and I can promise you MANY of the women there wish they could feel their lover deep inside of them and damn near ALL of the men there wish they could be long-stroking the cum out of their lover – but for a lot of them that NEED is hard to find, because it’s buried under a layer of daily stress and responsibility.
I once wrote a piece about ANYWHERE SEX where I stated the importance of dudes making sure to beat their woman’s nani up as soon as she got home from her long ass day. I wanted to convey the point that we as men need to make our women feel like the main object of our sexual desire sometimes by showing her that there’s nothing we won’t do to please her and nowhere we are afraid to make love to her. But there were TWO very real complaints I got about that piece: 1) “Hey man! Us dudes need some anywhere sex after work too!” [Very True] and 2) “Trying to get someone in the mood RIGHT after work is a LOT easier said than done!” [Also Very True].
Hell as a man I can definitely testify to the notion that I don’t ALWAYS want to be the one to have to start every sexual encounter. That burden is far too heavy for a man to carry because we NEED to feel wanted sometimes too, and the idea that our woman is so damn horny she can’t keep her hands of us is a definite aphrodisiac. But, quiet as kept, grown ass men and grown ass women are a lot alike when it comes to juggling a passionate sex life and the daily responsibilities of being an adult: The sex usually LOSES.
As much as we love to joke about women who fake headaches after long-ass days so their frowsy boyfriend doesn’t try to climb up inside of them, we rarely talk about how many men are quickly losing interest in getting it in with their partner because of a long day of working, commuting, fighting bill collectors, raising the kids and dealing with all the other BS in their lives. Sometimes the second a man walks through the door, he NEEDS his pillow for a long ass nap more than a prop to keep his girls ass raised in the air when he hits it from the back.
So what’s the solution to escaping this mentality and reinvigorating your sex life and your relationship? KIDNAP your damn partner.
Obviously I don’t mean tie them up and put them in the trunk on some Paul Bernardo type-sh*t – but I mean PLAN a secret getaway for them and capture them when they least expect it and BOUNCE. It’s NOT about extravagance, large-budget activities and booking weeks off from work, because it can be as simple or elaborate as you want it to be – just make sure THEY don’t know and it involves time for y’all to be alone.
I remember I suggested this to my friend one time and he was like “Nigga, I ain’t paid like that to take my girl to goddamn Niagara Falls on a Tuesday like a BAWSE! Sheeeeiiitttt, she betta like some back seat boning in the Chuck E Cheese parking lot!” My response: “Bruh…if THAT’S what will work then DO THAT.”
Now I personally don’t find anything sexy about Chuck E Cheeses parking lot, but the POINT is that you are taking them somewhere unique by doing something outside of the norm, to show your appreciation for them and their body. To Kidnap them can mean picking them up outside of their work before they hit the subway and driving them to a 5-star hotel suite to spend the night, or it can mean unexpectedly dropping by the school library to take them away from a long afternoon of studying and beat it up at your apartment. In the end YOU should know your significant other well enough to know what would turn them on.
You got to alleviate your routine to help alleviate some of your daily stresses. If you don’t get that stressful, tiring and annoying routine out of the way, your sex life [and subsequently your entire relationship] will end up suffering. Go out and be unique and prove to your lover how much you NEED their ass – regardless of what BOTH of you are commonly occupied with.
This Is Your Conscience
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lincolnanthonyblades
Ladies & Gentlemen, Do You Think This Could Be An Effective Technique To Spice Up One's Sex Life?
Have You Ever Done Anything Like This Before?
Feb 6th, 2012
sonicmel
wtf?!
Feb 6th, 2012
Concrete_Rose
YES and YES.
If there is too much stress in or outside the relationship a getaway may be needed. But it doesn't even need to need to be taken outside the house/apt. Like you said, it's about knowing your partner well enough to know what turns them on, and doing something outside of the routine. For guys, most girls love a romantic touch. Do the rose petals, do the candles, do the candle light dinner, play some soft sexy music, let her come home from work. Put the music on. take her bags off. tell her you just want to hold her in your arms for a min. dance with her. plant those kisses. get to the shower, get to the bed or wherever! theres no fighting in that. OR know her spots well enough that you get her squirming at any location, there you go. Women. just be naked or very close to naked. Cant go wrong with that. Turning down a naked person is a no no. make up games. do things that are fun. Spice is alwaysssss good… I've done a lot of things to spice things up. BC its true. You can easily get caught up with the responsibilities of work and school. know their soft spots, the type of mood they like to be in and know what they would never expect and DO IT!
Feb 6th, 2012
geturfundageup
forget that shit! it ain't even going down like that!
Feb 6th, 2012
geturfundageup
I'm with you baby girl
Feb 6th, 2012
sonicmel
NO YOU AREN'T!
Feb 6th, 2012
Independent Woman
YES and YES.
Feb 6th, 2012
Independent Woman
LMAO!
Feb 6th, 2012
Independent Woman
Something tells me a girl would be lucky to get a Supersized fries out of you…SMH!
Feb 6th, 2012
sonicmel
lol
Feb 6th, 2012
The_Mad_HATER
you damn right I have!! my ex use to take a 3 hour subway commute to work and back everyday so sometimes i would pick her up right from work and take her back to the cabin for some stabbin!!
Feb 6th, 2012
The_Mad_HATER
wtf is the wtf for???
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
That was hilarious IW…
Feb 6th, 2012
The_Mad_HATER
i will get the rose petals but I aint sweeping that shit up later tho!!
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
Danm… Just when I feel all happy and content being single you write something like this. FML…
Feb 6th, 2012
The_Mad_HATER
man i can tell some of yall dont know how to please a man or a woman!! the point is just be unique and unexpected and that will keep shit on and popping!
Feb 6th, 2012
sonicmel
I don't believe in this kidnapping thing.
I just want to be held tight and tender
Feb 6th, 2012
geturfundageup
as long as your "tight" I'm with it lol
Feb 6th, 2012
geturfundageup
funny I just heard that song a couple weeks ago
Feb 6th, 2012
James
it probably would have been better if you reworded it…I don't know….maybe f*** me? lol
Feb 6th, 2012
James
easier said then done
Feb 6th, 2012
James
*than
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
Can I ask how old you are Sonicmel? Cause the hold me tight and tender is nice but eventually you may want a little more aggression to keep the excitement there.
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
EXACTLY!!
Love the unexpected:)
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
That's actually amazingly sexy. Just to have the presence of mind to relieve her from her commute probably turned her on as soon as she saw you.
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
I don't think both are mutually exclusive..
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
I think thats implied… lol
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
Good point. I think it's important to know that this appears to be a tactic to switch things up once in a while. Too much of anything (even a good thing) can become incredibly routine and boring.
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
I'm really shaking my head and laughing out loud at the same time.
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
What's your issue with kidnapping a lady from her stressful life once in a while?
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
Aw Jilly, what's the problem with it?
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
True…but it's not too hard to not even try..
Feb 6th, 2012
sonicmel
Let's just say 25. I know I probably should be into that but I've never had a guy do that to me. Maybe it's something I'll require of my next bf idk
Feb 6th, 2012
Tudor
I agree!
Feb 6th, 2012
Tudor
Agree again!
Feb 6th, 2012
James
; )
Feb 6th, 2012
msjordan11
VERY EFFECTIVE!
I've never had anyone do this. But if they did…boy oh boy!!!
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
Just reminds me of the fun I'm missing out on… :*(
Feb 6th, 2012
Concrete_Rose
Lol she might do it gladly and Naked if you're good to her! Or she might be goood to you and you just might crawl around and pick it up yourself
#just saying
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
I don't see a great woman like you going much longer without a great man in your life. I think you just needed time to flush that last loser totally out of your system.
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
I think the tactic being written about here will be much more appreciated once you are a little older…I'm pretty young myself, but I know after I have kids and I'm working 50 hour work weeks, its gonna take some creativity to get that 'ol thang back' lol
Feb 6th, 2012
HerCommonSense
None of your past BF's "kidnapped" you? Really?!
Feb 6th, 2012
geturfundageup
Best I'll do is a broom …if that!
Feb 6th, 2012
grandgryph
you actually should tie them up though.
that shit's ill.
Feb 6th, 2012
NurseJilly
Awww.. Thanks girl:)
Feb 6th, 2012
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