PLEASE Stop Using Your Damn Kids As An Excuse To Live A BULLSH*T Lifestyle

So yesterday one of my blogger friends put up a post on their site about Superheads recent Twitter rant where she goes OFF on her [stupid-ass] husband. This filthy, triflin’, piece of sh*t went all the way in on her current husband, who for all intents and purposes, is probably the most PATHETIC excuse for man in the Northern Hemisphere. I’m not one to enforce MY standards on anyone else, but I think a basic requirement of wifey material is making sure she DOESN’T have a nickname like Superhead. Anyways, here are some excerpts from her classic low-life rant:

“I’m tired of pretending your mediocracy is okay with me. I’m tired of pretending I don’t miss G650′s. I’m tired of pretending I don’t deserve a f-cking BOSS!”

“I’m tired of pretending your d-ck isn’t the smallest d-ck I’ve ever seen in my life. Cuz it is. I’m tired of pretending your favorite rapper didn’t just beat it up on Friday.”

“Yes. He’s better than you. Next question. All night. ‘Til 6 in the morning. Next question.Yes. And I didn’t have to pay for none of it. Next question. Presidential suite. Next question. About 10 inches. Next question.69. Next question. Like a boss. Next question. Balls deep. Next question. I’m tired of having to pretend you’re not the 3rd worst decision I’ve ever made.”

“I hate your whole face.” [Actually I’m stealing that one]

For those of you who may not know a lot about Superhead, she is a frowsy, self-promoting h0e who sleeps with celebrities for financial gain and has bagged dudes from Lil Bow Wow & Usher, all the way to Bill Maher and Shaq, then wrote a best-selling novel detailing every graphic and disgusting act. While I don’t typically care about h0es choosing to be h0es, there is one thing about her public displays of whoredom that actually saddens me: The fact that she has a 14 year old son.

But seeing her still acting like a low-class scallywag while trying to be a mother is not even the worst part – it’s how she unapologetically believes that her lifestyle choice wasn’t truly a choice at all – just a necessary sacrifice based on what LIFE gave her:

“When he ask, I’ll answer honestly; that is the only way to handle it. If he asks, ‘Mom–how did you get to where you are?’ [My answer?: ‘Your mother had to strip and ho and do whatever she had to do to get you into this house. He is going to love me for being honest and doing whatever I have to do to make sure that he’s being taken care of. I could be a crack whore on the corner and my son will still love me; that won’t matter. Everything that I’ve done, there is nothing that is shameful, so why would I be upset? It’s not a big deal.”

As disgusting as it is, I know there’s some of you nodding your heads in agreement like “I feel her, I would do anything for my children too!” But the reality of the situation is that people who say this often WOULDN’T. Because, unless you were born into modern day slavery, indentured servitude or a third world hellhole where rape and murder is the social norm, you are presented with a simple choice between taking the fast and easy road or travelling the long and hard route. Choosing the fast and easy route is just that – a CHOICE. And that doesn’t make you a better person or parent, it just makes you a douchebag without self-respect, so STOP using your kids as an excuse.

If you really would do ANYTHING for your kids, then why wouldn’t you work two jobs and go to school at night? Why wouldn’t you risk 8 hours of sleep for 5, just to make sure the extra three is spent studying to pass an exam that can ultimately lead to the career you aspire to? Our economy is absent of many GOOD jobs, but there will ALWAYS be a need for menial jobs in a capitalist society – but the truth is, these people don’t want menial jobs. As much as they say they will do ANYTHING for their kids, they won’t do THAT. It reminds me of this STUPID-ASS video I saw back in the days:

It kills me because as a man with 8 godchildren I have seen so many women close to me have children in EVERY adverse situation you could possibly imagine – yet I’m proud to say none of them resorted to selling p*ssy “out of necessity.” Because the fact is, it’s NOT a necessity – it’s a CHOICE. I am NOT going to hold any judgement against your choice of thinking stripping and/or hooking is the way to go [hey, do you – just save some money for your childs’ future therapist bills] but admit that the road YOU took WAS in fact a choice YOU made.

But I will leave you with this: Ladies and gentlemen, whether you sell ass or drugs or guns or directly hurt yourself or other people to survive, please understand that every action you make WILL eventually be part of your child’s intricate psychosis. The ideology that “it’s no big deal” is a load of BULLSH*T. EVERYTHING you do as that child’s parent IS a big deal and will shape parts of that child’s brain and subconscious for the rest of their lives in ways you could NEVER even imagine.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.