FYI Ladies: Men In “Happy” Relationships Cheat Too

A few days, ago a young lady emailed me asking the one question I receive FAR too much: “Why do men cheat?” But before giving me the chance to respond, she answered her own question in the very same e-mail and stated “Yes, I know the reason most men cheat is because they are unhappy in the relationship.” It was at that point I had to stop reading and start replying – because she was 100% incorrect. One major misnomer about male-cheating is that it originates from a place of displeasure with their woman, and it’s that ignorant ideology that allows SOME women to start taking the blame for being cheated on which a woman [or a man too for that matter] should NEVER do.

For those of you who DON’T know, the reason why men cheat is simple: New vagina will ALWAYS be greater than old vagina. That is the BASIS behind why men continue to chase and/or accept nani different than the one they are suppose to be committed to. But to take that concept a step further, the reason why men cheat is because many of us are opportunistic and weak-willed when it comes to p*ssy – and any man who isn’t willing to admit that is probably a well-trained LIAR. But the reality of cheating that most people don’t understand is this: Most women never find out how loyal their man really is, because they never find out how weak willed and opportunistic he is – and they never find out how weak willed and opportunistic he is [when it comes to p*ssy] because most men are never TRULY tested when it comes to being faithful.

The idea that men cheat because they are unhappy is an ideology that was propagated by a b*tch-ass, half-a-man who had NO business speaking for the male gender at large. And worse, it promotes the idea that a woman can possibly be guilty by proxy of NOT keeping her man happy enough to be faithful, when his douchebag behaviour should reflect him and him alone. So understand, happy men cheat too – and their satisfaction with their relationship is NOT the problem -it’s their shaky ability to be resolute in their faithfulness.

Look, you can give me TEN high-quality, happy and amazing men who are completely enthralled with their women – then give me Paula Patton in a matching lace bra and thong – and put each and every one of those dudes in a room alone with her and see what happens. I guarantee at least 7 of those happy-men end up deep inside her guts. Why? Because ALL men love new nani [whether they are willing to go through with getting it or not] and most men have never REALLY had their loyalty tested in a SERIOUS manner.

The same dudes bragging about being “good guys” because they never cheated before, are also the same guys knocking dudes like Tiger Woods for what he did, but they absent-mindedly forget one simple fact: The difference between THEM and the dudes they are condescendingly looking down on is the access, opportunity and quality of the nani they have to turn down. There’s old dudes I know who stay bragging about their consistent level of incorruptible reliability, which they loudly state is due to their high level of class.

Let’s just understand one simple point: When a man decides to beat up new nani, it rarely has to do with his woman’s shortcomings – as much as it has to do with his own selfishness and greed. So, with that said, let’s stop perpetuating the idea that most men cheat because they are unhappy and let’s just start remembering that most men cheat because they are d*ckheads.

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When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.