Over 50% Of Men In Relationships Are Faking Orgasms – Here’s Why

Researchers at the University of Kansas did a study on orgasms and found that most orgasm-faking is taking place in committed relationships [something we ALL could have easily guessed] but it’s the NUMBERS that may shock you: 78% of women have faked an orgasm with their significant other, which to me is a HIGH ass number. That means about 4 out of every 5 women a dude dates has faked an orgasm with him, and I don’t know about other dudes, but if that’s the case, then it’s troubling to think I’ve probably dated some Oscar-award winning actresses. But we’ve talked to death about women faking orgasms, so let’s get to the REAL interesting fact: That same study revealed 53% of men have faked an orgasm with their significant other. So ladies, that means half of the men you’ve dated in your life eventually gave up on busting a nut and put on a Leonardo Dicaprio performance inside of you.

Think about that for a second ladies: if you fall inline with this study, more than half of your past boyfriends felt it necessary to actually put on a performance about how GRAND your vagina is, just so he can pull out and get some much needed rest. Honestly, even as a man I’m a little shocked it’s THAT high [I would have guessed around the 33% mark]. But as a dude with some very open male friends, I can give y’all some insight into the TOP reasons why dudes in relationships are faking orgasms [because honestly, any man faking an orgasm outside of a relationship is an IDIOT].

Reason #3: He’s Simply A Long-Stroker

As I’m sure many women know first hand, there are some dudes out there that simply take FOREVER and a DAY to bust a nut – these dudes are called Long Strokers, cause they can keep stroking the nani for the length of the Lord Of The Rings trilogy or the elapsed time a Joe Budden album is pushed back. You know what pushes most of these dudes to end up faking? His woman asks something to the extent of: “Why you ain’t cum yet?!” And in his mind all he’s thinking is: “B*tch stop interrogating me and let me finish!” And the second his mind goes there a dreadful reality usually filters into his mind – ‘it’s not happening tonight’ – and at that point he has a decision: Pull out, roll over and deal with some BS problems OR fake, go to sleep in her arms and live to fight another day. Like a wise man, he chooses the latter.

Reason #2: He Doesn’t Want You To Feel UN-Sexy

Men have easily abused egos, but what goes under-reported is the fact that women have easily abused egos as well. As much as many women are confident and comfortable enough in their own skin to not give a flying F*^K what any man outside of her house thinks about her – she DOES care what her man thinks. And women do NOT take feeling unsexy very well at all, simply because women aren’t use to it. If there’s ONE thing women are use to, it’s men wanting their nani – but the ONE man she cares about wanting it is HER man, and if he appears to be uninterested inside of her, she will automatically feel un-sexy and that will bleed over into other parts of the relationship and eventually ruin it.

Reason #1: Because His Emotional/Mental Happiness Is More Important Than His Physical Satisfaction

This is a sacrifice that we typically attribute to women and why they fake orgasms [i.e. she would rather build a life with Harry Homemaker even though she will never forget the one night stand she had with Joe Grind or Mandingo]. But the reality is MEN deal with this same issue too. A lot of men strive to get as much nani as they can before they get married, and in doing so, they end up having some wild, freaky-ass experiences. The problem with all this great, nasty sex, is that it creates a high-standard of nut-busting that he NEEDS his partner to live up to, so when he meets a great woman who he connects perfectly with from an emotional and mental standpoint, BUT who can’t suck richard like that chick from South Beach or throw it back like those Twins he smashed in Cuba, then he has a real dilemma on his hands. And what he ends up doing at THAT point is making the most out of the sex he has with her because she is a dime in so many other aspects of the relationship in which he deems to be MUCH more important.

It’s something we do for love.

Of course there are SO many other reasons men fake orgasms [unhappy with THEIR body, depression, drug abuse, etc.] but whatever the reason is, dudes need to understand ONE simple thing about faking orgasms: The second you get caught, your relationship will take a HUGE step into the grave.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.


  1. lincolnanthonyblades

    06/15/2012 at 3:33 AM

    Ladies & Gentlemen, Have You Ever Suspected Your Significant Other Was Faking An Orgasm? Looking At Those Statistics Does It Make You Question How Satisfied Past Lovers REALLY Were?

    Hell, Have YOU Ever Faked An Orgasm??

    • ChloeRayne516

      06/15/2012 at 12:33 PM

      As a women I can say for US faking a Big O is not Uncommon but not does not mean we didn't enjoy the thrust session — sometimes we know that O ain't happening too night but we still want to get a tickle.

      I am still having a hard time swallowing the fact that men fake it too, I mean I always thought the fact that they "shot off" was their O… Am I missing something here?? *confused*

      • Crystals_Back

        06/15/2012 at 1:03 PM

        I know it must be easy for them to fake if a condom is involved…

        • The_Mad_HATER

          06/15/2012 at 3:29 PM

          much easier!!

      • The_Mad_HATER

        06/15/2012 at 3:29 PM

        he just has to pull out and pretend to nut into a rag!! easy!!

        • ChloeRayne516

          06/15/2012 at 6:12 PM

          Nuttin ina rag!!?? *lol* that's too extreme don't you think?? But I understand the swindle needed in order to succeed.

      • Jae

        06/15/2012 at 4:25 PM

        Depends, if she has enough moisture she won't know the difference, she just gonna grab the nearest rag and wipe, she aint looking at it, no?

        • The_Mad_HATER

          06/15/2012 at 5:14 PM


        • ChloeRayne516

          06/15/2012 at 6:14 PM

          Ummm, i know the difference between my moist moist and his spunk. #justSayin..

  2. mena

    06/15/2012 at 9:02 AM

    "Looking At Those Statistics Does It Make You Question How Satisfied Past Lovers REALLY Were?" I don't equate having an orgasm every single time to being sexually fulfilled just like I don't equate not having an orgasm every single time to being unsatisfied. So no, I don't question this statistic. These things happen.

    • Smilez920

      06/15/2012 at 10:15 AM

      Agree while having an orgasm is great, realistically you might not have one everytime you have sex.

    • A Grown Ass Man

      06/15/2012 at 11:59 AM

      I definitely agree with you here, but as far as men go I know I'm in the minority

      I think most men except to cum once at least

      • mena

        06/15/2012 at 12:15 PM

        That's understood but if it doesn't happen then it just doesn't happen. Not saying this should be the case every time but once in a while…this doesn't surprise me one bit.

      • The_Mad_HATER

        06/15/2012 at 3:30 PM


      • Jae

        06/15/2012 at 4:27 PM

        With new chick maybe…. same chick you been with sometimes it just is not there.

    • The_Mad_HATER

      06/15/2012 at 3:30 PM

      naw thats not how men work and any man who says that is lying!!!!

  3. iluvwhoiluv

    06/15/2012 at 9:51 AM

    I do admit I have faked an orgasm just for the act to be over with. I do realize in hindsight I should have been more upfront and let him know since in some cases, it led to his ego being falsely stroked. Not saying his performance wasn't good to other women; it just wasn't stellar for me.

    • A Grown Ass Man

      06/15/2012 at 11:59 AM

      Does this make you believe any of your past lovers faked with you?

      • The_Mad_HATER

        06/15/2012 at 3:30 PM

        notice she dont wanna answer that!! lol!!

        • Jae

          06/15/2012 at 4:28 PM

          I feel you all…. a lot of woman think the got sunshine when it ain't nothing but a cloudy day…. Don't get me wrong tho, 99% is good (enough).

  4. NurseJilly

    06/15/2012 at 11:45 AM

    Wow.. I'm shocked @ the percentage of men doing this.

    • A Grown Ass Man

      06/15/2012 at 11:58 AM

      You didn't answer the question tho Jill? Does it make you question any of your past lovers

      • NurseJilly

        06/15/2012 at 1:16 PM

        To be honest no, I can't see my ex doing that at all. I'd be really surprised to find out he did.

    • ChloeRayne516

      06/15/2012 at 12:34 PM

      Girl. So am I. So am I *facepalm*

      • The_Mad_HATER

        06/15/2012 at 3:31 PM

        women need to stop overrating themselves!!!

        • Jae

          06/15/2012 at 4:30 PM

          True. But I rather deal with the overraters then chick that needs me to LIE and tell her it was the shit even though I'm looking around her watching the game…

          • ChloeRayne516

            06/15/2012 at 6:17 PM

            Thank You!!!

            Shoooo, we grown let's have a pow wow so YOU *snickers* can make it better. *lol*

    • Crystals_Back

      06/15/2012 at 1:01 PM

      Soon it may be as much men faking as women! SMH

      • NurseJilly

        06/15/2012 at 1:16 PM

        Its a sad day…

        • The_Mad_HATER

          06/15/2012 at 3:31 PM

          women just need to step their games up is all!!!

  5. Dyquen

    06/15/2012 at 12:41 PM

    Guilty of reason number 3, just once though. She had a habit of not trying get it on any other time i either worked a 2nd shift or had the next day off, but always, always trying to mix it up at 12am i gotta be up 6am, and this is when she would be in a mood for an hour long make out session before phase 2 foreplay got rollin. After that first time fakin it so i could sleep, i had to tell her the truth and the reason behind it. Yep, i was banished from nani-land for weeks, at least I got to sleep fine till i made sure I bottled up some sleep and made up for it another day i started work early. Being up and basically workin 14hrs straight needs more sleep bottled up than you think you do.

    • Crystals_Back

      06/15/2012 at 1:01 PM

      Not to sound rude, but she sounds like a selfish ass chick!!

    • ChloeRayne516

      06/15/2012 at 1:35 PM

      Nah, no one can blame you for this!!! You had good reason to fake it.

      • NurseJilly

        06/15/2012 at 2:05 PM

        Agree!! You get a pass for that one

    • The_Mad_HATER

      06/15/2012 at 3:31 PM

      fuck sleep get that puss while you can still get it up!!!

  6. Crystals_Back

    06/15/2012 at 1:02 PM

    I think one reason that's not listed is men who watch a lot of porn…I think porn stars have raised the expectations so high of what men expect regular women do to and act like, they can't just have good ol' fashion sex anymore smh

    • NurseJilly

      06/15/2012 at 1:17 PM

      Interesting point Crystal.

      • Crystals_Back

        06/15/2012 at 2:41 PM

        I really think some men feel like all of their sex should resemble a Booty Talk dvd lol

        • Jae

          06/15/2012 at 4:33 PM

          LOL, You raise a great point… yeah I tell young young dudes to stay away from porn unless you got 12 inches or more… shit will make you feel insecure for no reason, lol. And yes… I remember chick telling me stop comparing her to a fucking porn hoe one time… I got her point and realized takes a "special" chick to do some of the things in porn.

    • Dyquen

      06/15/2012 at 11:47 PM

      Mmmmmmmmnnnnnope. well at least not for me. I actually cant stand professionally made porn or "professional" pornstars. They all look fake and they are FOREVER LOOKIN AT THE FLIPPIN CAMERA!!! with that fake ass look. And maybe its just me but most male pornstars suck at the work they put in or they always look like they took more of a "woman" than they can manage. Homemade is more realistic the women are better looking. plus it gives you that baseline to compare your throw-down game to what these braver souls have uploaded.

  7. The_Mad_HATER

    06/15/2012 at 3:32 PM

    any woman thats ever faked on me just did herself a disservice!! lol!!

    • ChloeRayne516

      06/15/2012 at 6:20 PM

      Maybe Not!!!



  8. Jae

    06/15/2012 at 4:24 PM

    This is why men do it… an old joke about Calvin Coolidge when he was President … The President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental government farm. When [Mrs. Coolidge] came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, “Dozens of times each day.” Mrs. Coolidge said, “Tell that to the President when he comes by.” Upon being told, President asked, “Same hen every time?” The reply was, “Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time.” President: “Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge.”

    Sometimes only reason we do it is because if we don't you all gonna accuse us of cheating!!!!

    • The_Mad_HATER

      06/15/2012 at 5:16 PM

      another real point too!!

  9. China

    06/16/2012 at 12:31 AM

    Never had a partner fake an O. And I know this cause its either in the condom, in or on me. I on the other hand have faked it. Reason being not to bruise a fellas ego. :-)

  10. petersburgh

    06/16/2012 at 3:22 PM

    I've never faked one but what I tell any woman is that I won't fake mine so if that makes you happy or gives you some kind of relief that's up to you. What I can say is that there were a couple of times I didn't have one but the sex was still great to me but I don't if any of the guys ever had that

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