I Don’t Give A DAMN What Your Opinion About KIM & KANYE Is

It seems nowadays everybody has an opinion on Kanye West & Kim Kardashian. Everybody SEEMINGLY knows whats best for them, if their relationship is a hoax or not, why Kanye should find a better woman and why Kim should jump off an overpass into oncoming traffic. But it doesn’t stop there – everyone seems to feel entitled to give cogent and logical advice to EVERYONE else in relationships these days and there’s ONE reason why it absolutely PISSES me off: Because anyone who offers advice that they don’t follow themselves is an absolute DOUCHEBAG.

When it comes to Kim and Kanye, my feelings are pretty much this:

So I’m NOT interested in the ins and outs of their real or fake union, but what I DO care about is the fact that so many people in our society want to appear to be endowed with the ability to deliver relationship advice that even they don’t follow, combined with their OWN self-righteousness which REALLY gets under my skin. On this weeks Relationships & Bullsh*t podcast I spoke about self-righteousness being the ONE negative characteristic that someone can have that will drive me absolutely insane, and it is MOST apparent when people condescendingly chastise other peoples relationship choices.

Let me say this very clearly so I am 100% understood: When it comes to sex, love and relationships we are ALL incredibly FLAWED. We ALL experience moments where we are weak, stupid, immature and irrational all in the name of trying to find, marriage or even just a nice, hard nut. But what’s hilarious about us as human beings is the second we see ANOTHER couple, we attempt to analyze and subsequently criticize their relationship – about sh*t that WE are JUST as guilty of too.

Fellas, I don’t wanna hear a DAMN thing Kanye wifing up a chick whose giving another man head and made a sex tape – because chances are YOUR girlfriend/wife has done the SAME thing. And y’all can MISS me with the “well she used it to get famous” debate, because MANY people have a price for fame/riches that they would be willing to pay. You think your girl is a cashier at Safeway instead of a millionaire-socialite because she CHOSE that life?

Ladies, I don’t wanna hear a DAMN thing about Kim K chasing the wrong men – as if YOU somehow have some magical power of insight that can detect which souls are perfect for each other. Hell, YOU need to stop acting like YOU make the best damn choices in your OWN life. The same women wasting keystrokes on Kim K’s men are the same frowsy looseball chicks dating unemployed dudes who have 7 kids and a history of felonies. Who the F*^K do YOU think YOU are to be handing out advice to ANYONE? Especially when you are incapable of taking your OWN.

And that’s why I will continue to repeat on this site that I try to offer INSIGHT instead of ADVICE, because the same sh*t I self-righteously criticize others for, will be the SAME BS that I do in my own personal life. So, you can state your opinion on Kim K and Kanye all you want [hell ANY other celebrity couple for that matter], but the second you want to condescendingly DISS them for all the same sh*t that YOU are guilty of, I will have to simply remind you of what I stated above:

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.


  1. lincolnanthonyblades

    07/16/2012 at 3:03 AM

    Ladies & Gentlemen, When It Comes To Giving Friends/Family Relationship Advice, Do You:

    A) Not Bother To Give ANY
    B) Give As Much Advice As You Can
    C) Offer Your Insight & Opinion WITHOUT Advice
    D) Tell Them To Work It Out Their DAMN SELVES!
    E) Other {Please Explain}

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  3. GrandCentral

    07/16/2012 at 5:59 AM

    F) I tell them how I would handle the situation if it were me.

    Yes, I'm guilty of giving advice. However it's because EVERYONE comes to me for advice and, I believe I actually give really great advice. Now, do these folks actually listen? That's another story for another day.

    Kim can have Kanye's crusty ass, who cares!

  4. petersburgh

    07/16/2012 at 6:26 AM

    E. Like Grand Central I usually say what I would do in the situation but I do point out that because I would doesn't mean they should. That's my usual stance. The truth is most people do come to me for advice and sometimes I do give but the issue is most people come saying "what would you do in this situation…?"

    I don't really care about celebrity gossip. I only listen to news about Rihanna and that's a Bajan thing. Here's a funny story, a guy once told us "I ain't want no woman that went down pun a man?" HUH!!!!! I asked him if he knew the maximum sentence for statutory rape or the abuse of a minor. I also told him that KY will be his new best friend given what he's looking for. Idiot. Most people you meet have done things(amateur porn etc) SO WHAT? I have a friend who did it and it got out and I still see her the same while others shunned her

  5. MistaHarsh

    07/16/2012 at 8:25 AM

    Wait define advice because | thought that meant giving your insight and opinion? I don't give instructions on what to do a,b,c and guarantee results(isn't that more like consulting?) but I like to ask a variety of questions first before I give my opinion and/or insight.

    Its easy to comment on famous people because we BELIEVE we know more about them than we know about our friend's business simply because they live their lives on the big screen.

  6. Smilez_920

    07/16/2012 at 9:22 AM

    If someone asks me for advice I give them my opinion, then I tell them do what makes them happy. Most of the time when people ask for relationship advice, they already know the answer to their question. They either want someone to side with their opinion or they want someone to prove them wrong about something/someone.

    It’s always easier to tell someone how to act, because your feelings are not involved. I know if one of my younger cousins tell me about a situation and I’ve been through it and I have the chance to guide them away from the poor choice they are about to make, I will do my best even if that means sounding self-righteous.

    As far as Kim K and Yezzy go, I agree with you. Girls out here calling Kim K a hoe, and talking about the men she’s with, yet they have smashing a different club promoter to sit in VIP every Friday night. At least the men Kim picks have something going on for themselves. I can’t judge her on the sex tape because lots of people have them; the only difference is hers got out. And the way girls post half naked to naked pics on FB and Twitter how can they talk about her.

  7. iluvwhoiluv

    07/16/2012 at 10:34 AM

    I'm the one people seem to always come to for insight and advice, but I would never give out anything I wouldn't be willing to do myself, nor would I come across as someone who has not made mistakes. If anything, I cite my experiences as examples…now whether people follow what I have to say, that is another thing entirely. I always warn people not to come to me if they want their egos stroked because that's not the type of person I am. I give it to you straight and you may not like the delivery.

  8. GrandCentral

    07/16/2012 at 1:11 PM

    I hate to snap back at your tweet Lincoln. Please do not defend this girl! Please!

    The problem with Kim K is her influence. It’s not an issue that Kim made a tape, the issue is that she then released that tape to make a profit and went on to make further profits due to the influence of said tape. She has a large audience and following and that is bad. We tell young women to respect themselves, use their brains, be change agents and all that jazz. Yet, we have Kim K and many others (I am fully aware that she is not the only one), who have created a path to wealth and “success” based on nothing. The worst part is that the country embraces it. She has a television show? 10-15 years ago, this chic would have been feed to the wolves and never heard from again, no, a television network decides to glorify her, as if she represents something positive. That’s why people can’t stand her. There was once a time when “whores” kept their affairs in private, not today. Kim personifies the worst type of woman. Plus, let’s not even gloss over the fact of why she is able to get away with this mess. If she were a black girl, we wouldn't even know who she was. I really don't care about her relationship, I don't watch her show, nor do I follow any of her other ventures.

  9. China

    07/16/2012 at 10:22 PM

    I agree that it is a reflection of the masses. She is famous because there is an increasing number of below average individuals and morally bankrupt people.

  10. Aboriginal

    07/17/2012 at 1:21 AM

    But really, why care if she is famous? If this is how she wants to live her life, so be it, and I applaud her for doing it. The same goes for Kanye West, he's living his own life, and it's not a scripted one.

    As for the tv shows, if you (anyone in general) knows the name of any of these reality shows and such and such who stars (used loosely) in them, you are part of the problem. Personally speaking, I have no idea what the titles of these shows are called, who is in them, what time/day/channel they come on, etc. I don't waste my time with television, nothing productive is on, I only watch football, basketball, SYTYCD and Like It Is (before Gil Hodge's death), other than that I make use of my time, really just doing things that can be taken for granted.

    My point is, these sexy women on tv are going to bring in the ratings, people want to see women fighting over nothing important, not realizing these shows are scripted and the drama is manufactured to keep the audience coming back waiting to see what's gonna happen next. If society can ignore these shows and force the networks to broadcast ANYTHING that would be better than that, we wont have to worry about girls getting famous over sex tapes.

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