I Don’t Give A DAMN What Your Opinion About KIM & KANYE Is

It seems nowadays everybody has an opinion on Kanye West & Kim Kardashian. Everybody SEEMINGLY knows whats best for them, if their relationship is a hoax or not, why Kanye should find a better woman and why Kim should jump off an overpass into oncoming traffic. But it doesn’t stop there – everyone seems to feel entitled to give cogent and logical advice to EVERYONE else in relationships these days and there’s ONE reason why it absolutely PISSES me off: Because anyone who offers advice that they don’t follow themselves is an absolute DOUCHEBAG.

When it comes to Kim and Kanye, my feelings are pretty much this:

So I’m NOT interested in the ins and outs of their real or fake union, but what I DO care about is the fact that so many people in our society want to appear to be endowed with the ability to deliver relationship advice that even they don’t follow, combined with their OWN self-righteousness which REALLY gets under my skin. On this weeks Relationships & Bullsh*t podcast I spoke about self-righteousness being the ONE negative characteristic that someone can have that will drive me absolutely insane, and it is MOST apparent when people condescendingly chastise other peoples relationship choices.

Let me say this very clearly so I am 100% understood: When it comes to sex, love and relationships we are ALL incredibly FLAWED. We ALL experience moments where we are weak, stupid, immature and irrational all in the name of trying to find, marriage or even just a nice, hard nut. But what’s hilarious about us as human beings is the second we see ANOTHER couple, we attempt to analyze and subsequently criticize their relationship – about sh*t that WE are JUST as guilty of too.

Fellas, I don’t wanna hear a DAMN thing Kanye wifing up a chick whose giving another man head and made a sex tape – because chances are YOUR girlfriend/wife has done the SAME thing. And y’all can MISS me with the “well she used it to get famous” debate, because MANY people have a price for fame/riches that they would be willing to pay. You think your girl is a cashier at Safeway instead of a millionaire-socialite because she CHOSE that life?

Ladies, I don’t wanna hear a DAMN thing about Kim K chasing the wrong men – as if YOU somehow have some magical power of insight that can detect which souls are perfect for each other. Hell, YOU need to stop acting like YOU make the best damn choices in your OWN life. The same women wasting keystrokes on Kim K’s men are the same frowsy looseball chicks dating unemployed dudes who have 7 kids and a history of felonies. Who the F*^K do YOU think YOU are to be handing out advice to ANYONE? Especially when you are incapable of taking your OWN.

And that’s why I will continue to repeat on this site that I try to offer INSIGHT instead of ADVICE, because the same sh*t I self-righteously criticize others for, will be the SAME BS that I do in my own personal life. So, you can state your opinion on Kim K and Kanye all you want [hell ANY other celebrity couple for that matter], but the second you want to condescendingly DISS them for all the same sh*t that YOU are guilty of, I will have to simply remind you of what I stated above:

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.


  1. lincolnanthonyblades

    07/16/2012 at 3:03 AM

    Ladies & Gentlemen, When It Comes To Giving Friends/Family Relationship Advice, Do You:

    A) Not Bother To Give ANY
    B) Give As Much Advice As You Can
    C) Offer Your Insight & Opinion WITHOUT Advice
    D) Tell Them To Work It Out Their DAMN SELVES!
    E) Other {Please Explain}

    • Keyla

      07/18/2012 at 2:35 PM

      C or A, depends on who it is, i used to give of advice to my single friends when i was in a relationship…now eh… not so much when im in the same single boat as them

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  3. GrandCentral

    07/16/2012 at 5:59 AM

    F) I tell them how I would handle the situation if it were me.

    Yes, I'm guilty of giving advice. However it's because EVERYONE comes to me for advice and, I believe I actually give really great advice. Now, do these folks actually listen? That's another story for another day.

    Kim can have Kanye's crusty ass, who cares!

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/16/2012 at 12:39 PM

      Wouldn't That Technically Be E)? LoL

      If Someone Asks For Advice It's Cool To Provide Them With It – Just Don't Provide Them With Advice That You Don't Adhere To Yourself.

      • GrandCentral

        07/16/2012 at 12:54 PM

        Yes. LOL! I thought I hit "E" but hit "F" instead.

        oh yes! I never give advice I wouldn't adhere to. I think that's why people always come to me for advice. I always stress to them, that this is what I would do.

  4. petersburgh

    07/16/2012 at 6:26 AM

    E. Like Grand Central I usually say what I would do in the situation but I do point out that because I would doesn't mean they should. That's my usual stance. The truth is most people do come to me for advice and sometimes I do give but the issue is most people come saying "what would you do in this situation…?"

    I don't really care about celebrity gossip. I only listen to news about Rihanna and that's a Bajan thing. Here's a funny story, a guy once told us "I ain't want no woman that went down pun a man?" HUH!!!!! I asked him if he knew the maximum sentence for statutory rape or the abuse of a minor. I also told him that KY will be his new best friend given what he's looking for. Idiot. Most people you meet have done things(amateur porn etc) SO WHAT? I have a friend who did it and it got out and I still see her the same while others shunned her

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/16/2012 at 12:40 PM

      How Did It Get Out??

      • petersburgh

        07/16/2012 at 1:02 PM

        I think the guy involved had it and either him or someone he was involved with sent it out. Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless device from LIME.

        • lincolnanthonyblades

          07/16/2012 at 1:24 PM

          Guys Like That Need To Be BITCH-SLAPPED.

  5. MistaHarsh

    07/16/2012 at 8:25 AM

    Wait define advice because | thought that meant giving your insight and opinion? I don't give instructions on what to do a,b,c and guarantee results(isn't that more like consulting?) but I like to ask a variety of questions first before I give my opinion and/or insight.

    Its easy to comment on famous people because we BELIEVE we know more about them than we know about our friend's business simply because they live their lives on the big screen.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/16/2012 at 12:37 PM

      To Me Advice Is Giving Someone Definitive Instructions On How To Proceed. An Opinion/Insight Is Just Adding Your Thoughts On Their Scenario.

  6. Smilez_920

    07/16/2012 at 9:22 AM

    If someone asks me for advice I give them my opinion, then I tell them do what makes them happy. Most of the time when people ask for relationship advice, they already know the answer to their question. They either want someone to side with their opinion or they want someone to prove them wrong about something/someone.

    It’s always easier to tell someone how to act, because your feelings are not involved. I know if one of my younger cousins tell me about a situation and I’ve been through it and I have the chance to guide them away from the poor choice they are about to make, I will do my best even if that means sounding self-righteous.

    As far as Kim K and Yezzy go, I agree with you. Girls out here calling Kim K a hoe, and talking about the men she’s with, yet they have smashing a different club promoter to sit in VIP every Friday night. At least the men Kim picks have something going on for themselves. I can’t judge her on the sex tape because lots of people have them; the only difference is hers got out. And the way girls post half naked to naked pics on FB and Twitter how can they talk about her.

    • Paul B.

      07/16/2012 at 9:56 AM

      Pretty much sums it up in that last paragraph. These same people who throw shade at Kim K. are the same ones bragging about how well they give head,and even worse are big supporters of Basketball Wives and Love and Hip Hop, who are pretty much famous for the same thing. I don't want to make it an ethnicity thing, but an argument can be made for why it appears to be that way…

      • lincolnanthonyblades

        07/16/2012 at 12:51 PM

        Good Point.

        Some Women Out Here Criticizing Kim K In One Light, But Then Biggin Up Joseline Or Whatever His Name Is, The Very Next Second.

        • Vicky

          07/16/2012 at 3:17 PM

          Simple, planned "leaked" sex tape has allowed her to now be EVERYWHERE in the media, who the hell knew her before the Ray-J tape? Yes, her father was a celebrity lawyer, and she was around but as soon as that got out, the whole family exploded on to the scene. They do not deserve the amount of attention they all get and to make matters worst, apparently the leak was done by her mother (WHICH IS TWISTED AS F*CK)

          But then again, people who actually care are envious that it wasn't their sex tape! *just sayin*

          • lincolnanthonyblades

            07/16/2012 at 4:10 PM

            WE Gave Her That Fame Tho…It Is US Who Keeps A Celebrity In The Public Eye. It Was True Of Pam Anderson BEFORE Kim Or Paris Was Anyone, And It Will Be True Of Whatever Woman Comes After Her.

          • Vicky

            07/16/2012 at 4:19 PM

            *Sigh* it's true

            Some BS on how to get famous! That's it, I'm leaking out my (photoshop) tape of me and Kayne! LOL!

        • MistaHarsh

          07/16/2012 at 4:00 PM

          lol@"His" I watched the first episode when there in the studio and they were sitting across from each other…"he" was sitting in a way that only a man can sit:slouched, legs sprawled open with one arm resting on top of an adjacent chair…thats a man baby!

          • lincolnanthonyblades

            07/16/2012 at 4:09 PM

            I Haven't Seen The Show But That Dude Looks Weird In His Pictures

    • kema

      07/16/2012 at 11:54 AM

      I think Kim K just give people a common person to hate.

      • lincolnanthonyblades

        07/16/2012 at 12:51 PM

        Why Hate HER At All Though?

        • Paul B.

          07/16/2012 at 3:18 PM

          Because one, she's not black. Two, she has access to guys like Reggie Bush and Miles Austin; guys a lot of women wanted but never had a chance to get with.

          • Vicky

            07/16/2012 at 4:02 PM

            I couldn't care if she's purple, I just think her fame is not warranted! The fact that she has access to these men is nothing to me either. I'm just sick of seeing her and the rest of her fam everywhere

          • Paul B.

            07/16/2012 at 4:43 PM

            Then it doesn't apply to you, which is great. But I'm saying that there are some who hate her for those reasons and others as well. Not everybody hates her,some don't pay attention to her at all..

          • MistaHarsh

            07/16/2012 at 4:07 PM

            her not being black and only dating black men is just one aspect of the hate but there are many more people from various races that hate this woman for a lot of other reasons. She's Paris Hilton 2.0

  7. iluvwhoiluv

    07/16/2012 at 10:34 AM

    I'm the one people seem to always come to for insight and advice, but I would never give out anything I wouldn't be willing to do myself, nor would I come across as someone who has not made mistakes. If anything, I cite my experiences as examples…now whether people follow what I have to say, that is another thing entirely. I always warn people not to come to me if they want their egos stroked because that's not the type of person I am. I give it to you straight and you may not like the delivery.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/16/2012 at 12:52 PM

      I Appreciate Anyone Who Keeps It Real. I HATE When People Tell Other People What They NEED To Do – But Then They Don't Follow It In Their Own Lives.

  8. GrandCentral

    07/16/2012 at 1:11 PM

    I hate to snap back at your tweet Lincoln. Please do not defend this girl! Please!

    The problem with Kim K is her influence. It’s not an issue that Kim made a tape, the issue is that she then released that tape to make a profit and went on to make further profits due to the influence of said tape. She has a large audience and following and that is bad. We tell young women to respect themselves, use their brains, be change agents and all that jazz. Yet, we have Kim K and many others (I am fully aware that she is not the only one), who have created a path to wealth and “success” based on nothing. The worst part is that the country embraces it. She has a television show? 10-15 years ago, this chic would have been feed to the wolves and never heard from again, no, a television network decides to glorify her, as if she represents something positive. That’s why people can’t stand her. There was once a time when “whores” kept their affairs in private, not today. Kim personifies the worst type of woman. Plus, let’s not even gloss over the fact of why she is able to get away with this mess. If she were a black girl, we wouldn't even know who she was. I really don't care about her relationship, I don't watch her show, nor do I follow any of her other ventures.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/16/2012 at 1:34 PM

      Here's The Problem I Have With People Hating On Kim K's Fame.

      Fame Is Not Simply Collected – It Is Generated Through Mass Consumption And WE Are The Primary Consumers. The Fact Is, It Is US Who Catapulted Her To Such A High Level Of Importance With A Cult Following. It Is US Who Continually Watch Her Shows And Take In Her BS To Support Her Brand.

      But Then It Is Also US, After Consuming SO Much, Who Complain That She Is Popular. Kim K Didn't Push Some Magic Fame Button, WE Gave Her That Fame, And WE Should Be Ashamed Of OURSELVES If Anything.

      • GrandCentral

        07/16/2012 at 1:45 PM

        I would tweak your argument a slight bit, because she was given her fame ad you've stated, but she was then pushed on us by her pimpager and the television network. Those who supported her, built the brand. The credible argument against her, is that she was given fame and I can co-sign with you 100%.

        However, let the record reflect, I DON'T support anything this woman does. In fact, I don't support reality television and most of the stuff that is being shoved down our thoughts, I don't even let it come near me. I read, watch the news, follow politics and give my allegiance to a few scripted television shows.

        • lincolnanthonyblades

          07/16/2012 at 1:51 PM

          I Don't Believe You Can Simply "Give" Someone Sustaining Fame. Her And Her Family's Shows Have Been On TV For Awhile, And While They May Have Got Those Shows Because They Had Friends In High Places., They Aren't Successful And Making Millions Out Of The Blue. It Is US Who Keeps Generating Her PR Machine. Our Intrinsic Interest Is The Gas Fueling Her Engine.

          • GrandCentral

            07/16/2012 at 2:08 PM

            Yes, Lincoln! That is the problem! She was given a shot and people embraced her. My point is that people should have been so appalled by her and the fact that she had a show, that they should have steered away, and the show would have never even had ground to stand on. However, as a country we've lowered our standards and have given priority and praise to all of the wrong things.

            Bottom line – We shouldn't even know who this chic is!

          • Vicky

            07/16/2012 at 3:19 PM


          • lincolnanthonyblades

            07/16/2012 at 4:12 PM

            But We Do – So Now It's A Matter Of Personal Opinion. I Don't Watch Her Shows Or Support Anything She Does, But To Hear Basketball Wives Watchers Go In On Her Is Nothing But Corny Ass Hypocrisy.

          • MistaHarsh

            07/16/2012 at 4:12 PM

            have you not watched television in the past 20 years. Sex sells. Always has, always will. Kim k is part of the american dream

          • Paul B.

            07/16/2012 at 3:35 PM

            That last sentence sums it up perfectly. Even though some tune in just to laugh at her and see how stupid they think she looks, it's still ratings. If you hate her and watch to see her fail, it's still ratings. There's no differentiation between the ratings of people who like her and the ones who don't; the ratings and money stack up all the same.

          • lincolnanthonyblades

            07/16/2012 at 4:12 PM


  9. China

    07/16/2012 at 10:22 PM

    I agree that it is a reflection of the masses. She is famous because there is an increasing number of below average individuals and morally bankrupt people.

    • lincolnanthonyblades

      07/17/2012 at 3:58 AM

      I Can Agree With You There.

      Hell, Love And Hip Hop Was Trending #1 In The World On Twitter Today.

  10. Aboriginal

    07/17/2012 at 1:21 AM

    But really, why care if she is famous? If this is how she wants to live her life, so be it, and I applaud her for doing it. The same goes for Kanye West, he's living his own life, and it's not a scripted one.

    As for the tv shows, if you (anyone in general) knows the name of any of these reality shows and such and such who stars (used loosely) in them, you are part of the problem. Personally speaking, I have no idea what the titles of these shows are called, who is in them, what time/day/channel they come on, etc. I don't waste my time with television, nothing productive is on, I only watch football, basketball, SYTYCD and Like It Is (before Gil Hodge's death), other than that I make use of my time, really just doing things that can be taken for granted.

    My point is, these sexy women on tv are going to bring in the ratings, people want to see women fighting over nothing important, not realizing these shows are scripted and the drama is manufactured to keep the audience coming back waiting to see what's gonna happen next. If society can ignore these shows and force the networks to broadcast ANYTHING that would be better than that, we wont have to worry about girls getting famous over sex tapes.

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