It’s EASY To Find A Man – If You Have NO Standards

She may have a lot of dudes around - but that doesn't mean they are QUALITY..

I have a homegirl who is really beautiful, successful, intelligent, a great writer, an entrepreneur, has large breastesses [I’m mentioning that to help my fellow dudes reading this draw an accurate mental picture] and is completely, absolutely 100% single. Whenever we talk about finding love, settling down and having kids, she is very much open to dating different men and doing whatever it takes to let love run its course in her life. One thing she sometimes makes her discouraged about the dating scene is the fact that she doesn’t go out on a lot of dates with different dudes, while she has friends who are perpetually wifed-up and courting different guys. Every time she mentions how this makes her feel bad, I get REALLY confused: Isn’t the fact that her homegirl is CONTINUALLY in DIFFERENT relationships a solid sign that she ISN’T making the BEST dating choices?

But it’s not just my homegirl, I notice a lot of women sometimes get down on themselves because they aren’t attracting the same type of dating-interest as their friends, yet they all seem to ignore the simple truth of the situation: It’s EASY as hell to find a man – if you have NO standards.

If you just want to get long-d*cked in every crevice of your body and have multiple, squirtastic orgasms and get sent home with a coke and a cab ride, then finding a dude should be simple. If you just want some simp-ass negro to take you on a one-two dates [my Toronto slang shining through] so you can fill your belly and send him home with nothing more than a polite hug and the faint, lingering aroma of your perfume that he will use to jerk off to, then finding a man should take NO effort. These dudes are out here in abundance.

But if you are looking for a life partner, like my homegirl is, then you need to realize that YOU and the women who seemingly have NO trouble finding men, are playing TWO different games. She’s in it for hard d*ck and bubblegum, while you are trying to find a life partner, which requires a MUCH more advanced level of screening and scrutiny.

But here’s the funny part: If she’s trying to “play” the same game as you, SHE is actually the one losing, because she hasn’t mastered 1 simple ideology – QUALITY over QUANTITY. I hate when women tell me about how long it’s been since they’ve been on a date, on how few men approach them and get their number and how little attention she gets at the club, because I always end up asking them the same question [the only one that really matters]: Was he HIGH-QUALITY to YOU?

Who gives a F*^K if some chick is outpacing you in the dating scene because she is out EVERY OTHER NIGHT with some dude? Finding a good man or woman takes time, but when you do, that one relationship will TRUMP the other persons entire frowsy dating resume.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.