Rape Is NEVER A Funny Topic – Apparently Unless It’s A MAN

This past week, because of the Daniel Tosh incident, I was subjected to a lot of misplaced anger and rage from excessively expressive anti-rape spokespeople who feel there’s merit and social justice in taking down a comedian over a joke aimed at a heckler, instead of doing something useful to actually further their cause of supporting victims and spreading a MEANINGFUL message through coherent discourse – but I digress. So, last week I read MANY articles on rape, listened to podcasts on rape and also watched vlogs on rape, and after ALL of that I came to one sad conclusion: In our society, rape is NEVER a funny topic – unless the victim is a man.

In my mind, rape is the most HORRIFIC act that can be perpetrated against another human, because it’s so personal, intrusive, dehumanizing, humiliating and violent. Although I believe that ALL things are equal in the realm of comedy, I more than understand the knee-jerk reactions the term evokes when spoken in public society. Hell, anytime someone brings up the fact that they were raped, it feels like the air is immediately SUCKED right out of the room, because it’s such a flabbergasting thing for someone to have lived and experienced. But I’m being polite when I say “someone” because the reality is, most of society ONLY find it depressing when some WOMAN has had to live and experience that, but for men – not so much.

I understand that women make up the majority of rape cases, but the one question I WISH I could’ve asked all the anti-rape advocates is: Where is your support for men who get raped and why is there no campaign to end humour aimed at male rape?

I more than understand why a regular woman or a feminist would inherently view rape through the lens of it being an exclusively female experience, but why exactly aren’t these rape committees (whose number 1 issue is defending rape victims) seemingly ignoring the REALITY that MEN are raped too? Men have become the lost victims of rape and sexual assault, and seemingly have NO SERIOUS allies in this fight to regain their intrinsic humanity.

The reality is RAPE is NOT a woman’s issue – it is a HUMAN issue. Unfortunately in the world we live in FAR too many women are raped and sexual assaulted – but also FAR too many men are raped and sexually assaulted too. And NO, it just is not happening in jails and at the hands of other men. Men are being raped out in society, and sometimes even by WOMEN. But what’s so interesting about male rape is that we can NOT get over stigmatizing male victims as either WEAK or HILARIOUS:

Now I find these comics to be hilarious, but the funny thing about THOSE jokes, is I NEVER hear a PEEP out of activists about “propagating rape culture.” But why not? All jokes aside, can you REALLY tell me that THIS sort of rape (that this inmate describes) is NOT equally as terrifying and invasive as any rape ANY human can go through:

Now my larger point here is NOT to compare how men and women deal with rape, but it is to address a very simple point that far too many people miss when it comes to rape: It’s TERRIBLE for both MEN and WOMEN, and we should be doling out an equal amount of support for ALL victims regardless of their gender.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.

27 Comments

  1. lincolnanthonyblades

    07/17/2012 at 5:30 AM

    Ladies & Gentlemen, Do You Agree That Rape Is A Human Issue As Opposed To Being A Woman's Issue? Or Are Far Women So Disproportionately The Victims Of Rape, That It Only Makes Sense To View It As A Woman's Issue?

  2. petersburgh

    07/17/2012 at 6:35 AM

    I Co-Sign this article. I have too many female who have been raped and beaten and even some who from describing the experience to me were raped even though they don't think it is. When they describe it I get so mad sometimes I have to clench my inner being.

    I understand why the ladies will kick up from any rape issue but the truth is everyone laughs when it is a man that gets raped. I watched that Ross Kemp on Gangs in South Africa which is the last clip you have there and that man is psychotic. He talks as if he thinks nothing is wrong with anything he says and this is about raping another man.

    My idea on the whole situation is this. Everyone thinks the joke is funny until it's on them, their family or psyche. If he had joked on a man being raped I doubt that same woman would have complained

  3. mena

    07/17/2012 at 10:15 AM

    I am watching Prison Break on Huluplus. Well they just introduced a new character in season 1 and it's this kid that the guards put in with this huge dude just for him to get raped everyday. I am disgusted and hope that this one guard gets his by the end of the show.

    Until more men speak up and out about the abuses they faced as children and adults, the tide will not change. That is what it will take. The reason why female rape isn't funny is bc there is a face on female rape. We all know a girl, probably through less than 6 degrees of separation, that was raped and so it hits home. Male rape isn't funny either but it's easier to laugh it off when it's not close to your heart.

  4. Double K

    07/17/2012 at 12:04 PM

    Kudos, Link, for bringing this up. I was just talking about this the other day, not actually in relation to the Daniel Tosh thing. Nobody ever talks about rape like this. If it's going to be funny/not funny, then it's got to be the same across the board. People that laughed at the jokes above should see the humor in other rape jokes. Humor is meant to point out things that are terrible, but when it comes to rape, totally off limits to some people…except for when it's a man.

    I got two stories on how society treats these situations.

    1. I often teach people over Skype on various computer topics. One day a guy I was teaching tells me his 15 year old brother is "getting good pussy" from his teacher. WHAT? It took about two weeks of constant begging the guy to do something before he actually did.

    2. If you are a candidate for hypotension then you should regularly try to have a logical conversation with a radial feminist. Stating all that was said in this article during a talk, I was met with some of the most cold blooded reasonings I have ever come across.
    In regards to man rape; "It's violence of man against man. Maybe they can see how the other half has to life for once, because it's in men's nature to do evil so it isn't as bad." or in regards to child molestation. "He's going to now grow up and do the same thing."

    I think the general problem is just plain ignorance and the expectation for men to be able to deal with whatever life throws at them without complaint otherwise look like less of a man for it.

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