This past week, because of the Daniel Tosh incident, I was subjected to a lot of misplaced anger and rage from excessively expressive anti-rape spokespeople who feel there’s merit and social justice in taking down a comedian over a joke aimed at a heckler, instead of doing something useful to actually further their cause of supporting victims and spreading a MEANINGFUL message through coherent discourse – but I digress. So, last week I read MANY articles on rape, listened to podcasts on rape and also watched vlogs on rape, and after ALL of that I came to one sad conclusion: In our society, rape is NEVER a funny topic – unless the victim is a man.
In my mind, rape is the most HORRIFIC act that can be perpetrated against another human, because it’s so personal, intrusive, dehumanizing, humiliating and violent. Although I believe that ALL things are equal in the realm of comedy, I more than understand the knee-jerk reactions the term evokes when spoken in public society. Hell, anytime someone brings up the fact that they were raped, it feels like the air is immediately SUCKED right out of the room, because it’s such a flabbergasting thing for someone to have lived and experienced. But I’m being polite when I say “someone” because the reality is, most of society ONLY find it depressing when some WOMAN has had to live and experience that, but for men – not so much.
I understand that women make up the majority of rape cases, but the one question I WISH I could’ve asked all the anti-rape advocates is: Where is your support for men who get raped and why is there no campaign to end humour aimed at male rape?
I more than understand why a regular woman or a feminist would inherently view rape through the lens of it being an exclusively female experience, but why exactly aren’t these rape committees (whose number 1 issue is defending rape victims) seemingly ignoring the REALITY that MEN are raped too? Men have become the lost victims of rape and sexual assault, and seemingly have NO SERIOUS allies in this fight to regain their intrinsic humanity.
The reality is RAPE is NOT a woman’s issue – it is a HUMAN issue. Unfortunately in the world we live in FAR too many women are raped and sexual assaulted – but also FAR too many men are raped and sexually assaulted too. And NO, it just is not happening in jails and at the hands of other men. Men are being raped out in society, and sometimes even by WOMEN. But what’s so interesting about male rape is that we can NOT get over stigmatizing male victims as either WEAK or HILARIOUS:
Now I find these comics to be hilarious, but the funny thing about THOSE jokes, is I NEVER hear a PEEP out of activists about “propagating rape culture.” But why not? All jokes aside, can you REALLY tell me that THIS sort of rape (that this inmate describes) is NOT equally as terrifying and invasive as any rape ANY human can go through:
Now my larger point here is NOT to compare how men and women deal with rape, but it is to address a very simple point that far too many people miss when it comes to rape: It’s TERRIBLE for both MEN and WOMEN, and we should be doling out an equal amount of support for ALL victims regardless of their gender.
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