On Monday, I posted an article on how Useful Relationship Advice SHOULD Hurt Your Feelings which ended up turning into a discussion on Male bloggers and their perceived responsibility to create more fair and balanced posts (to which I completely disagree with). One point that I made is that the blogosphere is comprised mostly of women, and ridiculous rhetoric is a thing done by BOTH sexes, NOT just primarily men. Well, before you all sit back and actually get into the REAL point of the post I want you to read THIS ARTICLE.
For those of you without the patience to read the full article, let me sum it up for you: It’s entitled “The Top 10 Reasons Black Women Are Disgusted with the Way the Black Man is Handling Himself” and it is chalk-full of intellectually profound gems such as: “Black men seem to have the lamest dating strategies”, “Black guys love screaming loyalty but are usually the most unloyal ones”, and “Most men wouldn’t know how to take care of home without a woman”. Whether you decided to read the entire article or not, one thing should be patently clear: The writer’s perception of the Black-dating dynamic is more indicative of HER own dating decisions than of the community at large.
Let’s keep it funky for a second: If you date, congregate and conjugate with only FROWSY ass people, your negative perception of the dating scene is not true of the MAJORITY, but just simply reflective of the fact that you continually make terrible F*^King decisions (see what I did there?). I’m sick and damn tired of hearing women complain about ALL men, or a LARGE group of men by using generalized characteristics that do nothing but represent the WORST of mankind. All men DON’T cheat, all men are NOT afraid of marriage, all men DON’T smash jumpoffs raw dog and all men ain’t out here pushing candy-painted ‘lacs trying to get chicks with pink and lime weaves to give us head in the front seat so we can record it and post it on Worldstar – just the dudes YOU date.
It makes me absolutely SICK to hear dudes complain about all women being stanking-ass gold-diggers, or complaining that all women are just trying to TRAP a dude with an illegitimate baby, or that all women spend their baby bonus and food stamp money on getting her hair and nails did, because that’s not reflective of ALL women – just the ratchet heffas YOU date.
If there’s one statement I CONSTANTLY make on this site it’s this: At some point you have to look at what YOU are doing wrong. F*^K what major media is trying to propagate, the reality is there ARE good single men and women out there, and there ARE people who would better suit YOU than the frowsy candidates you are bringing into your life. Either go find THEM or refrain from trying to have us believe sh*t is THAT bad, just because YOUR dating life is musty as hell.
This Is Your Conscience