As defined by the Urban Dictionary:
B*tchassness: A newly discovered disease running rampant, especially amongst men in an urban community.
1. punkish tendencies
see p*ssy or p*ssy nigga
2. cattiness, such as talking behind someone’s back
3. thinking highly of yourself, but only expressing it under your breath
4. claiming “hurt feelings” when you are called out on your bullsh*t
This disease effects much too many men, because they don’t actualize the one statement that will save their sorry-a*s lives: “I know I’m not EVER going to hit that.”
I am man enough to admit that when I was younger I had a little b*tchassness in me. As a young man born to traditional West Indian parents, I was taught the ins and outs of being polite, proper and mannerly (traits that many Bajans highly regard). I internalized this as the rudimentary characteristics of being a Nice Guy and carried these traits throughout my life especially in interactions with women. Why am I going into all of this? Because we need to understand where B*tchassness mainly derives from: Women.
The reason men act like moist nani’s in front of women is because 97.27% of the time their actions can be traced back to trying to get a woman, impress a woman, or do what he thinks she wants him to do. And the reality is Weak Men (full up of B*tchassness) usually act like this because they FAIL to realize one simple principle of being a man: It’s OK to act like yourself and not put on airs around every woman even if they get UPSET with you because you will NOT have SEX with every woman.
That little Bajan boy that I told you about earlier who was overly polite, acquiesced to every woman’s demands and thought he was respecting women by not cussing, disagreeing or even calling women out on their bullsh*t, DIED a terrible death – and this MAN writing this Blog is what is left standing. A man who is confident in stating his opinions, thoughts and beliefs all because I realized that all those times I thought I was being “Nice” by being agreeable, I was actually just exhibiting STRONG B*tchass characteristics, because I always had an intrinsic fear of women not liking me.
Then I grew up. And realized I’m NOT going to sleep with every woman in the world therefore I should have NO compulsion to attempt to be amicable to every woman in the world.
The second I realized this, I started to speak with a little more bass in my voice and be ME, instead of the caricature I thought I needed to be. I began stating my views and opinions on things (even in large groups of women) regardless of if I knew the women around me would disagree because at the end of the day, being real to myself was more important than trying to only act pleasing to them, when basic common sense tells you “You’re not gonna hit every woman in the world.”
I am more than convinced the reason most men aren’t forthright about their opinions, desires and do the things they WANT to do, is because they are afflicted by the disease of b*tchassness and desperately need to be cured. Well here’s step one: Next time you are in a debate, discussion, disagreement or even just a date, and you find yourself struggling with saying and doing what you REALLY WANT to and what you THINK you have to, remember that, you acting like an agreeable beeyotch is NOT what’s hot in the streets to women and imagine how much it will BURN to see her choose a guy over you who did everything you WANTED to but DIDN’T have the heart to.
This Is Your Conscience