Earlier today, I had a long-ass BlackBerry Messenger conversation with one of my homegirls who will be going on a BIG first-date later tonight. The dude she’s dating is very accomplished, attractive and in-HIGH demand from beautiful women all over our city, which is filling her with trepidation. Her issue is she wants to stand out from the pack, which seems somewhat difficult to her because of the modelesque chicks constantly congregating around his ballsack. Seeing as she was being WAY too hard on herself, I had to let her in to a reality many women don’t understand about men: Being sexy is a necessary part of our attraction to a woman, but combining even GOOD looks with GREAT character is the key to KEEPING a man interested in building a relationship with you.
One of the reasons I don’t text, message or call a lot of people is because so many people are terrible conversationalists, have boring-ass senses of humour, and are equipped with inane perspectives on anything outside of Kim K’s booty-crack or Kanye’s new shoes. The reason I like messaging my homegirl is because she is FUNNY as hell, knowledgeable about everything from Glass-Steagall to Clear Stripper Heels, and she could write a 10 page essay on anything from the Suffrage movement right down to why Superman could beat Flash in a foot-race. I’m not saying her personality is BETTER than anyone else’s, but it’s definitely unique and substantive, and THAT’S what makes her a catch [plus, she's cute too]. When she sits around stressing about OTHER chicks looking better than her, she keeps forgetting that LOOKS is NOT all a man needs to quantify potential wife material.
I absolutely hate when women act like all men just want some dimepiece who can cook and has a fat p*ssy, as if we are troglodytes with no higher desire for love, affection and companionship. If there’s one thing grown-ass men can agree on, it’s that there is NO vagina on EARTH that can hold our attention from NOW until the end of time [no matter how sexy], WITHOUT an engaging and interesting personality. See a vagina is like a luxury car – it drives you WILD when you first see it, it’s amazing when you’re first in one, but the more and more you ride in it, the more the hype wears down. Before we know it, that Lexus SC430 feels like a 86′ Honda Hatchback.
But it’s her CHARACTER that keeps us coming back for more. The way she makes us feel, the jokes she says and laughs at, her giving spirit and just the overall high-quality woman she is everyday is what keeps every aspect of our relationship fresh [mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and YES, physically - especially if she's a freak]. Now don’t get me wrong, I will always live by my phrase “I can’t give your personality backshots”, so please don’t think I’m saying character is the ONLY thing that matters. I’m simply stating that it takes MUCH more than looks to KEEP a man interested – and if you are confident in your charisma [which you should be] then you stand MORE of a chance in MAINTAINING a solid relationship than any dime with her run-of-the-mill disposition.
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