Criticism Is NOT Bullying

By now, I’m sure many of you have seen the video of CBS’ WKBT News Anchor Jennifer Livingston responding on air to some DOUCHEBAG who took time out of his day just to let HER know that HE thinks she is too heavy to be on TV. As far as I’m concerned, the dude that went out of his way to throw shade at her deserves to be drop-kicked in his neck, because he’s simply talking out of his ASS. Before you make definitive statements about someone’s physical condition, you should probably ASK questions first to give your thoughts some proper context BEFORE you spew ignorance around all willy-nilly. Although his ignorant e-mail annoyed the F*^K out of me, the only thing that annoyed me more was her damn BULLYING plea. That ignorant jackass was a LOT of thingsbut a bully is NOT one of them.

Here’s the video of her going eloquently HAM on dude:

The best part of the video is when she says “You think I don’t KNOW that?” which is what EVERYONE in the WORLD struggling with weight problems thinks when we hear some skinny-c*^t try and dress us down about our weight issues as if everyone is born with the same ability to lose and gain weight. I REALLY wish she just ended it there, politely told that douche that she has a thyroid problem, told dude to go F*^K himself and cut to the next segment – but she decided to go on further and insert her ENTIRE foot in her mouth.

Now before I get on her for calling his thoughtless email insensitive, I really want y’all to take it in:

Hi Jennifer,

It’s unusual that I see your morning show, but I did so for a very short time today. I was surprised indeed to witness that your physical condition hasn’t improved for many years. Surely you don’t consider yourself a suitable example for this community’s young people, girls in particular. Obesity is one of the worst choices a person can make and one of the most dangerous habits to maintain. I leave you this note hoping that you’ll reconsider your responsibility as a local public personality to present and promote a healthy lifestyle.

Was there some shade in this email? YES. Was it inconsiderate? YES. Was it BULLYING? NO. The man didn’t come out calling her a fat piece of sh*t who needs to be hooked with handcuffs onto a treadmill, he stated that [in his IGNORANT opinion] she should be doing MORE to be a better role model. You don’t have to agree with his uninformed opinion but to unilaterally label it BULLYING does nothing but underscore what REAL bullying is, and frames dissenting opinions and thoughts in a negative manner.

If we are going to promote a REAL anti-bullying campaign, we need to realize that there are people out there being verbally accosted in the most horrific and painful ways. People are out here being mentally and emotionally abused beyond belief, and while bullying shouldn’t just be categorized by EXTREME examples, it should be CLEARLY removed from the realm of unpopular opinion. If THIS dude’s email is BULLYING, then what ISN’T bullying?

Hey Kanye,

I don’t know what you were thinking when you made Cruel Summer, but I miss the ‘Ye from Late Registration days. I would love to see you make a return to producing albums like that.

Is THAT bullying?

Hey Michael Phelps,

Stop being a damn pothead and focus on swimming. Your nation needs you to be great so you can inspire more kids to want to swim just like you and make America proud.

Is THAT bullying?

I would throw both of those emails into the same pile as the ignorant dudes, as a statement that DOESN’T need to be said and based off ill-informed logic, BUT it doesn’t make them BULLIES, and to drastically blur the lines on an issue as serious as this does nothing more than hurts REAL victims and demonizes not-so-PC opinions.

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When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.