As a man, it’s finally time to stand up and say that I am getting sick and tired of hearing dumb-a*s dudes b*tch and moan about how so many women are NOT wifey material…while their broke, lazy, unemployed, angry and unattractive ass is sitting in the passenger side of his boy’s whip yelling obscene comments out the window at high school girls in kilts and high socks.
Though I am about to slightly divert from man code, this needs to be said: Us men need to make sure WE are “Husband Material” before we start casting aspersions over which women aren’t “Wife-Material.” At ThisIsYourConscience you will get more than your fill of opinion, as I think blogging is an “occupation” made for people with strong ones, but to have firm beliefs does NOT = into you having to be judgmental. I try hard to NOT be judgmental because at the end of the day, I have so many overt flaws that if a woman (or anyone for that matter) decided to put me on blast I could end up with more psychological problems than Bi-polar ass Joe Budden. More men probably should try to be less judgmental too, because a lot of the women we THINK are Wife Material are so FAR out of our frowsy-league that we need NOT look to them; and the ones we Judge as NOT being Wife Material are the ones who realistically are right up some of our alley’s.
Now we all have our own definitions and descriptions of what makes a woman a Wife vs. a Scallywag, as with husband material. As far as I’m concerned, a good quality couple is based on how well they are socially and mentally aligned. When I hear about 2 porn stars getting married that makes sense to me, because as much as people might say she’s a h0e, at the end of the day they both have similar social tastes and the same outlook on life which makes her (as much of a h0e as she might be) perfect Wife Material FOR HIM. Which means you can’t turn up your nose at the $2 h0e when you are just a $2 Negro.
But how many guys are really ready to hear that? How many guys want to admit that to be able to say they DESERVE a certain type of woman, they themselves have a lot of work to do their-damn-selves?
Some of you dudes need to stop thinking you deserve CLAIRE HUXTABLE, when all you are bringing to the table is Theo’s friend COCKROACH.
This Is Your Conscience
15 Comments, Comment or Ping
SMDH
Well Said Lincoln! LOL.
May 28th, 2010
lincolnanthonyblades
Thank You Thank You Thank You..You're Far Too Kind! LoL
May 28th, 2010
sara
great post!
May 28th, 2010
Keepin It Real
I think this needs to apply to women too
May 28th, 2010
Keisha
AMEN
May 28th, 2010
shaun
*Dead* You are so right. I'm tired hearing musty ass men looking for dimepieces as you said those frowsy-ass men deserve the women just like them. It pisses me off as a woman to know that I'm out there trying to better myself, walk around looking and smelling clean and some barefoot bush negro wants to step to me. I agree they need to evaluate themselves first but I gotta hand it to them their self-confidence is to be admired. Lol!
May 28th, 2010
DatchikMalix
his def applies to everyone!
great post
Jun 1st, 2010
ChloeRayne516
You are what you ATTRACT!!!! *DropsMic*
Dec 27th, 2012
SMilez_920
+1
It’s not even the frowsy dudes that make me smh, I don’t pay them any mind. It’s the ones that semi have their ish together who think because they are the king of kings who create these quote on quote out of this world wifey material guidelines. One example a dude will be like I need a woman whose “over her exes and isn’t holding on to baggage from past relationships” yet in the same breath go “O I have a hard time opening” due to some girl who didn’t want his valentine in the 5th grade.
People; men and women always want things in a partner that they haven’t even began to look for in themselves. 80 percent of what you look for in a partner you should already have for yourself. (No ones perfect so I figure if you write down ten things that you want in a partner and you at least have 80 percent of that maybe whoever you meet can help you with the rest and vice versa)
Dec 27th, 2012
cynicaloptmst81
Agreed!!!!
Dec 27th, 2012
nolabels
Standing ovation…that last line definitely sealed it! Love it!
Dec 27th, 2012
petersburgh
Cosign
Dec 27th, 2012
Afia
I applaude you Lincoln! You demonstrate true maturity. Can't tell you the number of times, I have listened to a guy with little to write home about him talk about the "unwifelyness" of a woman and how he deserved that other girl; and resisted the temptation to blurt out " what makes you think you deserve that girl…"
Dec 28th, 2012
SamyJo
Hear hear!
Dec 28th, 2012
Jwillz
Brother Blades I actually agree with you and a few other ppl who posted, I for the longest time thought that women especially in las Vegas (which I'm from) were unwifeable, until I realized that I have to become the man who worthy of a good wife, I'm currently pursing my degree political science then offf to law school…so I know you gotta have your stuff together before you can demand top notch wifey women
Jan 1st, 2013
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