RiRi Didn’t Let Your Daughter Down – YOU DID When She Became Your Daughter’s Role Model

This past Christmas day, the Los Angeles Lakers hosted the New York Knicks at the Staples Center (In a game I told y’all the Lakers would win – I’m looking at YOU Nightfall) and besides getting to see Nash back BALLIN’, the next moment that caught my eye was seeing Chris Brown & Rihanna sitting court-side hugged up. I wasn’t too shocked because they had both given overtures to getting back together (Riri posting instagram pics of Chris laying on her hotel room bed) but it was slightly interesting that they chose such a public forum to display their love in. This is the equivalent of a Jamaican dude doing a backflip off a speakerbox and landing between a girls legs – an attention whore moment. But after checking Twitter minutes after they were spotted, I remembered something I realized a few years ago: Most people have NO F*^KING common-sense at all.

Besides all the lame and corny “that richard is too good for her to leave alone” and “guess Rihanna loves the way Chris ‘beats it up'” comments, I actually read a comment that really pissed me off. A woman, in all her self-righteous rage, had the damn nerve and gall to type: How can I be OK with Rihanna being my daughter’s role model seeing her run into the arms of the man who abused her? Upon reading that disgusting-ass tweet, all I could think was “B*tch why the hell is Rihanna your daughter’s LIFE role model? And why are you OK with it NOT being you?”

Security guard: “Damn Ri you letting this ol’ b*tch-ass nigga hit it again?! Get it? hit it!”

I think it’s more than cool for someone to have a role model in the particular field that the star excels in. If Michael Jordan is your BASKETBALL role model cool; If 50 Cent is your RAP CAREER role model cool; Hell, if Ciara is your stripper-dance role model then that’s fine too. The problem is when you start letting these characters become YOUR ENTIRE LIFE role models. If you want to shoot a fadeaway baseline jumper like MJ, then go ahead, but to idolize his ass off the basketball court is to praise a crude, self-centred, egomaniacal, terribly dressed gambler. If you don’t have the ability to separate an on screen character from your real life, then YOU have a LOT more problems then you assume Rihanna has (what’s up with Chris looking like THIS cartoon character these days?)

But what about kids? Well, if those kids are lucky enough to know at least ONE parent, it’s THAT parents’ job to make sure that their child has to look NO FURTHER than the dinner table for their role models. It’s a tough, turbulent and sometimes thankless job, but EVERY parent should strive to be THEIR child’s role model. The fact that the woman who tweeted that BS had NO SHAME about announcing her daughter’s role model as being ANYONE BUT herself is startling to me. What Riri does with her heart and her nani should mean NOTHING to her daughter, because ultimately that is outside of Rihanna’s creative expertise. Her daughter has NO business trying to gleam important life lessons on domestic abuse from two young-ass singers – not when HER MOMMA is alive and kicking and ready to impart knowledge.

So the next time you want one of your children to gain a substantive life lesson, either be the one to teach it or shut the hell up. If you let a corny ass celebrity have more sway over the precious mental mindstate of your child, that’s not a FAIL on the celebrity’s behalf, that’s YOUR parenting FAIL.

This Is Your Conscience

When Lincoln Anthony Blades is not writing for his controversial and critically acclaimed blog ThisIsYourConscience.com, he can be found contributing articles for Uptown Magazine. Lincoln wrote the hilarious and insightful book "You're Not A Victim, You're A Volunteer: How To Stop Letting Love Kick Your Ass". He is also a public speaker who has sat on panels all over North America and the Caribbean.