After I touched down off my cross country flight from Oakland to Toronto, the first thing I did when I got home was catch up with some of my boys and my homegirls to find out what I missed when I was gone. I instantly called up my two homegirls when I got home (one is Filipino and the other is Honduran) and they informed that the mayor of Toronto is "allegedly" on tape smoking crack, the Maple Leafs had an epic ... Read More

Before we begin today's discussion on why A LOT of married people need to SHUT THE HELL UP with their condescending and unsolicited relationship advice, I have a BIG announcement that I've actually been keeping secret for about a week now... Read More

I'm gonna use one of my (traumatic) past experiences to provide y'all a scenario that most men have had to deal with on some level before. One Saturday afternoon I was chilling with my ex in our hotel room after a long morning of smashing, eating breakfast, smashing again, napping, waking up to watch TV and then smashing again [ah, to be young again]. Well, we decided it was about time to go do something instead of lay around the room, so we ... Read More

The one thing I see quite clearly as I get older, is that I can separate the single people my age (late 20's to mid 30's) in one of two groups: Bitter & Lonely OR Damaged & Trying. The first group are the people so jaded by their negative dating experiences, that all they can do is badtalk the concept of happiness and be frowsy as often as possible. The second group are the people who have been through so much severe ... Read More

I think the smartest decision I've ever made in my life was to avoid running trains on women PERIOD (although my friends use to be REALLY into that). The idea of seeing my boy's orgasm-faces, hearing their good-nani moans, and seeing ANY part of their exposed bare-ass was just the height of FROWSINESS to me. So, during my formative years, I made the life-decision that the only time I would ever engage in ANY sex act (whether solo or orgy), all the ... Read More

I have a homegirl who actually broke up with her man yesterday (on Mother's Day no less) because, as she says, their relationship had officially lost "the spark". Now, by "spark", she means they stopped smashing a couple weeks ago, and that led to their emotional connection eventually dissipating too. Eventually they went from being lovers to awkward friends. After breaking up with him, she called me to explain what happened and to ask me HOW a grown-ass man could just UP ... Read More

Often times we characterize love by how much it makes us change for the other person, but we rarely take anytime out to analyze how TRUE LOVE helps us want to be a better person everyday we're alive and with that person. Read More

A couple years ago, I remember one of my homegirls telling me that she was having a big problem with meeting men who STATED they were childless, but after a couple of conversations, dates, or even MONTHS, ended up revealing to her that they DO have children. She went on to say that this was one of the hardest parts of dating men these days, because once they live on their own and maintain minimal interaction with their kids (whether due to ... Read More

[caption id="attachment_13967" align="aligncenter" width="550"] "Dis gon' get me some pum-pum brah!"[/caption] As I sit here writing this with a lot on my mind and a lot of work that I need to get finished on tight deadlines, I'm seriously wondering what the HELL is going on in the world of dating lately - and why have more than two different women asked me 'why do men they just meet send unsolicited richard-pics before our first date even occurs?'. I know I've been off ... Read More

[caption id="attachment_13964" align="aligncenter" width="541"] Looks hard huh? Well, imagine both grew up in Trelawny...[/caption] There's a MILLION blogs all over the internet where people talk about interracial dating and how difficult it is and truthfully, I think it's ALL true. The reality is that racism, prejudice and stereotyping is still very alive and well in our community and there's nothing that will change that anytime soon. Not to sound like a downer, but our collective xenophobia as human beings is not just going ... Read More